Nicki Skye

Femininity can be Your Worth

There might be a sense of taboo about it, which is some of the fun of being girly, but in a greater and more real sense, there is no reason for a guy to feel shameful about being feminine.  It’s who you (we) are.  If some people can’t deal with that, it’s not our problem.  It’s their shame.  For a male to embrace femininity is something of worth because it’s real, personal, and authentic. 

I adore feminine things.  I know that there are some things that aren’t for me, that don’t fit me, that don’t represent me, but for the most part, i simply like femininity on me.  There are certainly times when I feel guilt over this, maybe shame, perhaps a feeling that I am dishonoring my gender because of it.  But it’s not because I truly feel that way.  It’s rather, because pressure from the outside insists that I should feel that way. 

So, perhaps I can offer my opinion for you, because I know many of you struggle with it too.  There’s nothing to be ashamed of.  Be girly.  Be effeminate.  Act the part, dress the part, talk like it, think like it, and just be your feminine guy self–partially or completely.  It’s up to you.  It’s your choice to be you.  Life is too short to be in knots over how some lifeless ogre thinks genders should behave.

With that said, I wish the opportunity afforded us to be a lot more free and open with our effeminate ways.  But no matter how limited our chances might be, there still remains this truth that should remain in your heart and swell there: embracing femininity is not a shame.  Perhaps instead, it’s your worth.

Much love to you!