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৻ꪆ “yume-pilled”: an extensive list of things I do to feel more connected to my f/o ৻ꪆ
disclaimer: these are things that may or may not be applicable for you, but rather my own personal list of things that I can only hope it will be of help to you, but I just wanna share them and keep an archive in general in case I forget one of them.
HOWEVER, one thing to note is that I will try to keep this as inclusive as possible, so you won’t have to worry about your f/o not being popular enough to do any of these things! I will not bring up merch or anything officially licensed like that so rest assured.
— study your f/o’s lore and source material: it’s especially important to do this if your f/o shares a different cultural background. learning more about the things that differs from your own experiences is a very interesting process. if there isn’t much lore to your f/o to quote-unquote “study”, then all the more power to you; make stuff up! you have a lot of creative liberty here so put that to use! I like to keep a physical diary for noting down things, so if you enjoy writing by hand, please do that, it really helps to remember.
— curate folders and boards of f/o and/or your yumeship: for Pinterest, you can create boards for both your f/o and your yumeship individually. what I do is create sections within my yumeship board, dividing things such as “pose reference”, “writing prompts”, “funny chat snippets”, etc. you have so much freedom and organisation if you do that. and if you have art of your f/o and s/i or oc, you can create drive folders to keep track of references, whether you’re an artist yourself or if you’d like to commission others. references really help to remember things and get stuff done accurately. this is a very simple, beginner type suggestion I’d give someone who recently started yumeshipping.
— create or buy things that remind you of your f/o: no, I do not mean merch when I say this (technically, what I mean by that is I am not referring to “marketable items that are either official or created by fans”). if you fancy jewellery, try getting bracelets, like kandi bracelets with your f/o’s color scheme and name, or heart lockets where you can keep a picture of them inside (I will add some examples below, including my own one). if you are unable to make some yourself, commission a local, small business - there are many floating around in Instagram if you feel like taking a look! there are also ones who create keychains with frame acrylics (?) where you can insert pictures of your f/o! the possibilities really are endless.
— keep a box: this somewhat ties with the previous point but if you like jewellery or trinkets or just collection small things in general that remind you of your f/o, I suggest keeping a small box for them, specifically a tin box since those are very durable. the recycling of “Altoid boxes/wallets” has been quite popular, and if you search it up on Pinterest, you can find lots of them where they are decorated and themed after specific characters. I received my own one recently and it has been my favorite thing ever. you can keep it around with you and store things that you may actually really need throughout the day, e.g. you may feel more motivated to take your medication if you place your prescribed medicine inside; the sight of your f/o will make you feel eager to keep the box close by, and imagine the way your f/o will feel proud of you for staying healthy <3
— find your f/o’s fragrance: this one may seem a little specific and maybe not for everybody, just depends on your preference. I’m not specifically implying that you have to go out of your way to buy an expensive perfume or cologne, no, of course not. fragrances can come from different sources, such as flowers. whether your f/o has a scent that’s “canon” or not, you’re always more than free to interpret it. trying to figure out your f/o’s preference in fragrance is fun, but it also matters if YOU would like the smell of it. for example, my f/o has an official fragrance but it has heavy floral tones to it, but heavy floral smells make me feel nauseous. I commissioned a scented candle that has a similar scent to my f/o’s fragrance, just minus the floral parts. so yeah, again, this is not for everyone, but it may be for some people, and that’s completely fine!
I have a loooot more ideas that I wanna share but for now, I’ll end this post here, and hopefully make a few different parts to this list! sorry it got a lil’ wordy there, I’m just trying to be as helpful as possible with my suggestions :> I just really hope this this post gets some reach, as it took me a long time to type out and edit nicely…
(dividers by @uzmacchiato)
Dear nonblack + white selfshippers, implore you to do proper research on your black f/o’s and interact with black selfshippers this month.
Listen to black selfshippers when we talk about the racism we face in this community. Don't speak over us or derail our conversations. Instead uplift our voices! Reblog art from black artists, black writers, black editors, etc.
Those with black f/o’s please make sure your research on antiblackness in your relationships. Don't whitewash your f/o’s. Lightening the skin isn't the only form of whitewashing; loosening tight curls, removing black features such as big noses and big lips. Learn how to draw those features correctly.
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if your f/o has ever done something in canon that hurt you, upset you, or disappointed you, they want you to know they're sorry 🤎
even if they're not the kind to verbally apologize, you can tell they're remorseful by the way they treat you now
maybe it's something they said or did, and maybe they even DID mean it at the time. either way, they hope you have it in your heart to forgive them. they know they're flawed, yet they're very grateful you decide to love them still 🤎
Imagine this. It's 9:40 pm and it's thundering outside, you're cuddling with your f/o in the dimmest of lights and their touch and warm. You never thought you'd feel this safe in your life, yet here you are. Their hand pets your head and holds you close as they hush you sweet nothings.
Things really do get better, it's just that the future is scary until we're in it. Your f/o is so proud of you, and you should know it. They'll always love you no matter what.
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Its crazy being a self shipper and then finding yourself seeing the world your f/o is in as a second home for yourself.
Their friends are your friends. Their family is your family. Their house is familiar to you. Their city/neighborhood/village/whatever are streets and walkways you know by heart. Ya know?
Its comforting. It makes you feel like you belong somewhere.
your blorbos voice takes a softer tone whenever they say your name btw… it doesn’t matter who they’re talking to, it’s like they can’t help but handle it gently 💕
imagine being out at an event of some sort with your f/o. you’re trying to keep your “mask” on, being social and keeping up with everything, but it’s starting to wear on you. there’s a lot of auditory and visual stimulation, and you feel your battery starting to drain. while the untrained eyes at the event still view you as participating, your f/o notices your little tells, how you’re feeling in this moment. your f/o grabs your hand, helping to ground you, and says “alright, we’re leaving. i’ll say the goodbyes for us, and then we’re going home.”
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f/o who comforts you when youre feeling paranoid. they gently pet your hair, silently reassuring you that your mind is making things up, youre okay. youre safe.