In light of my recent personal radblr feed, I want to say something as an organizer of an irl radfem group who may or may not get classifed as a radfem myself:
We welcome and support ALL women.
We welcome and support all women who are trying to unlearn and fight against patriarchal programming and misogyny, in any way and at all steps of their journey. We welcome and support all women who are looking for small ways to center other women in their life. We welcome women who are lesbian, bi, straight, questioning, separatist, and non-separatist. We welcome women who are not perfect, women who make mistakes, women who are real people who want to be a part of a community with other real people.
But. We do NOT welcome anyone who calls other women cock-suckers or any other misogynistic terms, who blame or shame other women for having abortions, who purposefully put down and attack other women over not being "radical enough" and thus push them away from growth and positive change.
We are trying to GROW a movement, not fraction it. I could never imagine any of the radfems I know in real life treating me or any other woman the way I see happening here. I beg everyone to find real life connections with groups like we have here in the Triangle and DMV area. I'm so grateful I found the community a year and a half ago and was able to make these real life connections, because if I discovered this community through Tumblr right now I would run so fast in the opposite direction.
If anyone near our area is looking for a supportive woman-centered group, please reach out.
And everyone on this site, I urge you to read Non-Violent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg, Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft, and Right Wing Women by Andrea Dworkin. You will never get people on your side by insulting them and putting them down. You will never grow a movement by being disinviting. You will never help the women you claim to want to help by shunning and shaming them. Be inviting and supportive and loving of ALL women. You don't want them to look for those qualities in men? Fine, but at least show them that it is here with us. BE the community and love and support that is needed. Show up for women who are on their own journeys, at whatever place that is.
All my love and solidarity,
