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the definition of bi is “attraction to 2 or more genders” 

but those 2 genders are never specified. sure, you can be bi if you like both men and women, but you could also ID differently, and since there are tons of existing nonbinary genders, attraction to both men and women isn’t a requirement of bisexuality.

you could be attracted to any combination of 2 genders, including:

men and women

women and demigirls

men and agender people

demiboys and maveriques

genderflux people and neutrois people

and still count as bi, because the only requirement of bisexuality is attraction to more than just one gender. 

don’t worry, that’s not the same thing as fetishizing nonbinary people! that would be if you tried to lump all nonbinary individuals into some mysterious amalgamous “third gender” category alongside men and women, creating a gender “trinary”, or based on the stereotype that the only correct way to be nonbinary is to be androgynous. 

however, the definition of wlw is “women loving women”, and bi women who aren’t attracted to other women aren’t really wlw/sapphics, because that is simply an inaccurate description of their identity. basically, not all bi women are wlw, but most are, because it’s way more likely that you’ll realize you’re attracted to both binary genders than you’ll learn about nonbinary genders first. 

Stag, Doe, and Tomcat Bisexual Flags! 💗💜💙

Stag Bi Flag

Green: being in tune with nature, appreciating the natural world 

Teal: determination to follow your own path, individuality

Azure Blue: depth of character; a rich inner life ruled by a sense of satisfaction derived from exploring one’s identity to the furthest extent possible 

Tomcat Bi Flag

Purple: duality, complex expression of one’s identity in terms that don’t conform to the female gender 

Pink: the refusal to hate or promote aversion of femininity, centering it while simultaneously allowing it to take up less space in one’s life

Navy Blue: the code of chivalry that encourages tomcats to protect, look after, and devote their lives to ensuring the happiness and safety of other bi women and nb fems

Doe Bi Flag

Red: fiercely unapologetic love and solidarity for all bi, pan, and ply women and nb fems (regardless of if they are butch, femme, doe, stag, tomcat, etc)

Peach: security in and acceptance of the presence of femininity in one’s identity

Magenta: innocence; curiosity about the world without ignorance, but with the belief that kindness is the fundamental building block of all things good. 

You can find more of the flags I designed here! 

LGBTQ+ Questioning Flag

Masterlist (Not Updated) - moon lesbian, sun lesbian, nonbinary lesbian, sun gay, moon gay, moon bisexual, sun bisexual, femme bisexual, butch bisexual 

Butch + Femme Pansexual Flags

He/Him Lesbian Flag

Tiger’s Eye Bisexual Flag

Pastel Butch + Femme Bisexual Flags

Violet/Pansy Lesbian Flag

Dawn Gay Flag

****Creator’s note:

y’all… this project needs our help. 

the creators are a curvy white woman and a curvy black woman who want to create a line of plus size dolls in order to promote body positivity and acceptance among young girls. 

in case you didn’t know, according to this study done in 2015, at least 80% of 8 to 10 year old girls in the united states are either on a diet, or they have their daily food intake restricted. the reason that’s still relevant, despite the substantial gap of 4 years between the publishing of the study and this kickstarter, is that in the 1970s, the encouraged dieting age for girls was 14, thus showing a clear downwards trend in the age young girls are made and encouraged to diet. 

this is extremely harmful for their self esteem, as well as their growing and changing bodies, and can lead to eating disorders such as anorexia and bulimia in addition to malnourishment and serious health concerns (e.g. vitamin deficiencies), and unfortunately, the extreme weight loss mentality cultivated by parents and/or guardians can last long into adulthood. 

now that you know why we need representation for fat women, it’s time to talk about why this specific small business deserves support. the answer is simple enough: they are respectful to the fat characters they’ve created, and allow all of them to posess a sense of dignity. 

clearly three dimensional characters, each of the dolls has their own personality and style:

aliyah (1st) - the sweet owner of an animal sanctuary and a veterinarian for exotic animals

quinn (2nd) - a strong vintage car mechanic

keiko (3rd) - became an incredibly smart animal robitics engineer because she’s allergic to animal fur

alexandra (4th) - extremely tough, no-nonsense civil rights law student and activist 

if the project reaches its funding goal, these dolls could show up on the shelves of your local target and walmart. 

sounds amazing, right? well, don’t get your hopes up too soon, because the project has met less than 0.08% of its goal with less than a month to completion. 

you read that right–’all or nothing’ means that if they don’t make at least $230,655 (USD) before July 7, 2019, the kickstarter will be abandoned. 

personally, I’m hoping the creators plan to launch another kickstarter if this one fails, but hopefully it won’t come to that. maybe, if we spread this around enough, posting updates on the progress it makes, we might just be able to help them. 

I’m not demanding you donate $200 because “you can’t call yourself a good feminist without including fat people in your activism,” I’m asking you to reblog this for your friends, followers, and family members who know what it’s like to be ashamed of their size. 

barbie and her multitude of professions did wonders for encouraging girls to pursue careers in STEM fields, imagine what this could do for girls. 

so tag your friends, tag your mutuals, tag anyone you can think of to help support and signal boost this beautiful idea! I’ll start: 

“The symbolism of the flower derives from several fragments of poems by Sappho in which she describes a lover wearing garlands or a crown with violets.”

As per the request of @lesbianthor, I put together a violet-centric lesbian flag design! She really likes the 1900s symbolism of the violet as a subtle, quiet message to women who love other women that they are in each other’s company, and I did my best to incorporate both the modern bright purple and vintage vibes from lesbian history into one edit. I’m never going to be satisfied with that tricky shade of burgundy but oh well. 

There are 5 stripes in total, and Lia and I worked together to hash out the meaning behind each one. 

Navy Blue - Visibility for lesbians who are frequently erased from the media, the world, and sometimes even their own community. This includes (but is not limited to) trans lesbians, nonbinary lesbians, lesbians of color, butch lesbians, Jewish lesbians, Muslim lesbians, aro/ace lesbians, and any other lesbian under the sun who has ever mourned because of a lack of representation. 

Purple - The middle road that questioning lesbians cross on their journey, as well as the ultimate decision to embrace their love of women. 

Pink - The joy inside a lesbian’s heart when they experience their first crush; also readable as the blush on their cheeks when in the presence of attractive women. 

Burgundy - Lifeblood of every lesbian who fought to bring the LGBT community into the light before, during, and after Stonewall so that the world could learn to accept that lesbians, gay men, bisexuals, trans people, and so many more identities outside of heterosexuality and the gender binary exist, which would allow the community as a whole to begin healing. 

I don’t mind if people use this flag for edits, and it’s okay if nobody wants to use it at all, I know a lot of users are very attached to the lipstick lesbian flag. Plus, this is just one more flag to add to the heap of inspired flag designs that hundreds of other users have already created, and it’s certainly not the prettiest. 

White - Sisterhood for lesbian women, kinship for nonbinary lesbians, and protection for young lesbians. The connection that lesbians share is an unbreakable bond, one that has endured for hundreds of years and will continue to do so far into the future. Each lesbian puts their best foot forward to serve and protect their community.

Lia’s addition:

I remember back when I was a baby gay at 13 and made my first tumblr account. the wlw community immediately took me in, and essentially raised me like a real family when my own neglected me. I think of all wlw, lesbians, bi women, pan women, trans wlw, ace wlw, aro wlw, and so many others as my sisters (and nb wlw as my siblings). 

so please listen, because I have something really important to say. 

lesbians frequently have the priority in sapphic spaces, being solely attracted to women (ofc some of us also feel attraction towards nonbinary people), and needing all the resources we can get. most of us are very accepting of all different kinds of wlw. 

that being said, we still need to fight against discrimination and lateral aggression within the sapphic community. that means educating the ignorant who are in danger of becoming bigoted, and shutting out people who make the community less safe for innocent young wlw. 

even if it’s an incredibly popular blog with a huge influence on lgbt circles in tumblr. even if it’s a blog you like, or have followed for a really long time. if you see them start to slide towards the hostile end of the spectrum to the point where they are actively attacking other wlw with slurs and harrassment based in their identity because of a disagreement, you need to shut that person out. if they do any of the following things, you need to stay away from them, because they’re big red flags. 

use slurs of any kind against marginalized groups, especially ones they don’t belong to

are white and use fetishizing language to refer to woc/poc in general 

make “are you triggered?” jokes 

call bisexual women “bihets” (even if they are also bisexual) 

block evade 

invalidate a wlw’s pansexuality, polysexuality, or asexuality/aromanticism 

say that pan/ply/ace/aro/etc. wlw either have internalized homophobia and are actually “just gay” or “just bi” 

assert that you can’t really be sapphic unless you’ve dated and/or slept with a girl 

refuse to acknowledge a nonbinary sapphic as sapphic b/c they prefer not to call themselves “woman/female-aligned” 

roll their eyes and complain whenever a multi-attracted wlw talks about their boyfriend/male crush 

brag about only having relationships with younger women (that’s extremely predatory) 

imply that bi and pan women deserve and should expect to be sexually assaulted if they seek out relationships with men 

if you see anyone–and I mean ANYONE–in the wlw community doing any of these things, don’t even feel guilty about blocking them. you can approach them and ask them to clarify what they meant if you’d like, but you’re not obligated to try to educate them. 

Sun & Moon Lesbian Merch

I wanted to make merchandise for the sun and moon lesbian flags a friend asked me to create for AGES, and now I finally have that opportunity! (And yes, you may use the square sun/moon edits I made for this post and these shirts as icons.) There should be 19 items for each flag!

A lot of people have claimed credit for my flags, and I don’t doubt that there’s other merch out there with my designs on it. I know some people are even boycotting me and crediting other people for creating the flags because of nasty rumors that I’m friends with TERFs, that I’m racist because the original lesbian flag was created by a racist, or even that I’m trying to shoehorn myself into the lesbian community (which I’m not at all trying to do.) 

That being said, I don’t have very much money of my own, and I am trying to get enough so that I’m no longer completely dependent on my homophobic and transphobic parents (I’m a neurodivergent genderqueer/nonbinary sapphic), so please consider buying some of this merch from me if you are able! If you can’t, a reblog or two would be greatly appreciated <3

☼ Buy Sun Lesbian Merch ☼