happily nappy.

Throwing no shade on the original creator but…….as black men who are proud of our African culture and heritage make no mistake……………we absolutely without a doubt love and adore black women with natural hair. And when I say black women (no offense to mix race women) I’m talking about black women with a majority of African ancestry. Is there ignorant self hating coon niggas out there who don’t like natural hair….of course but those self hating coons are a very small minority. The problem is about 80% of the black women that black men meet wear weave or perms. It’s to the point where some black men have to be reintroduced to natural hair cause some haven’t seen it in so long. And this is why I encourage my brothers out there to compliment black women you see with natural hair so other women who are unsure can see that yes we strongly prefer natural hair…………the things I love about natural hair are…………… 

1)It’s absolutely beautiful and aesthetically pleasing to look at short or long.

2)Variety of hairstyles. Cornrows, Braid outs, Box braids, Blow outs, Low cut, Faux locs……………ect. ect.

3)We can travel and be spontaneous, workout and swim together without the worry of sweating and getting her hair wet.

4)If we’re relaxing on the couch or being intimate I wanna know that I can touch it…………..with clean hands of course lol

5)I personally love black women who can fully embrace and celebrate their uniqueness which I find extremely sexy and attractive in women.  

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Happy Sunday Ladies and Gentlemen:

As you may know, I get tons of questions and it’s hard to answer them all. Many of us are experiencing similar issues so instead of answering the same question over and over I thought I’d address a common one here in this post. There’s also a FAQ section on the blog that you may want to check out if I don’t answer a question you’ve asked in a timely manner.

Ok so let’s get started! If you’re questioning whether or not you should “go natural” my advice is always going to be “ABSOLUTELY YES.” I believe it’s important for everyone to learn how to manage and love their hair in its natural state.

PERSONAL STORY: I am still affected by decisions my mother made in terms of how to do my hair when I was younger. Instead of just allowing my hair to be free, she chose to give me the tightest pony tails ever and pressed and permed my hair until it was “easier to manage” and unfortunately I thought perms were necessary in adulthood. I permed my own hair about three times and then I realized my hair wasn’t as thick and full as it used to be so I transitioned in 2007 or 2008 before I even knew what transitioning was. I bought random oils and did the absolute worst bantu knot outs ever, lol. If I could transition with no knowledge back then, there’s no reason you shouldn’t transition now with the abundance of resources available. 

Another common question is “How do I transition and what are some tips you would give?” You can transition by simply stopping all chemical processing of your hair. Most would argue that you should stop using heat as well so that you’ll avoid heat damage. I’ve listed a few tips for transitioning into natural hair below:

TRANSITIONING TIPS

Consider wearing protective styles most of the time so that you’ll limit the amount of manipulation you expose your hair to and allow it to grow.

Blend your textures by using perm rods, flexi rods, or rollers to create super cute curls while transitioning. 

Trim your ends (or get them trimmed) every six weeks or so and eventually all of your processed ends will be a thing of the past.

Limit heat styling

Keep your hair moisturized because the multiple textures can increase your chances of having dry hair that’s prone to breakage.

Be prepared to experiment with different products until you find out what works best for you. And it’s OK to come up with cocktails (mixing products) if something works for one part of your hair and not the other.

Lastly, don’t compare your hair to other people’s. Your hair is beautiful and so are you…

I hope these tips are helpful. If you have anything else to add, feel free to reblog and share your thoughts.

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