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Many partners new to Diaper Discipline struggle to increase their involvement, the below list is designed to provide ideas and inspiration for you to implement in daily life.

You don't need to do all of these every day but try incorporating 2-4 elements a day and work up in terms of frequency and progressing from Beginner items to Intermediate & Advanced.

Beginner

Make an effort to talk about their diapers. Casually ask things like:‍

“How’s your diaper holding up?” “Your waistband is showing baby” “Do you need to change?” “Those jeans hide your diaper well” “These diapers look cute on you” “Do you need to order more diapers soon?” ‍

Let them know you expect them to use their diaper, by saying things like:

- “This diaper should hold all of your wee’s and poops” when changing them into a fresh diaper - “Remember you’re not allowed to use the toilet today” - “Did you wet your diaper like a good boy/girl?”  - “Good boy/girl for messing your diaper.“ - “Did you poop today or do you need something to help tonight?” ‍

Make an effort to interact with their diaper. Squeeze it, pat/smack their bottom when padded, rub the front of it to get them excited, and when hugging place a hand on their diapered bum, etc. ‍

Implement simple Baby elements:

- Call them your baby boy/girl, etc - Dress them in baby-style (AB) clothes at night  - Give them a bedtime drink in a sippy cup or baby bottle - Have them use a adult pacifier at night ‍

Each morning check their diaper, this can be done in bed by just squeezing the front of it. ‍

It will likely be wet so comment on that by saying something like “I’m glad you had a diaper on or you’d have wet the bed” or “You really are turning into a bedwetter aren’t you” ‍

After their morning shower either change them into a fresh diaper if you’re up, or if you're still in bed, get them to come over and drop their trousers / lift skirt so you can check they're wearing one. ‍‍

Each evening lay out a thick diaper and ABDL bedtime clothing and tell them to go get ready for bed. This should be a few hours before you actually go to bed. ‍

Before leaving the house make them drop their trousers / lift skirt so you can check they're wearing a diaper. For day trips, also ask them if they've got their diaper bag packed. ‍

Once or twice a week force them to mess themselves by giving them either 2x Ducolax tablets or a suppository which they must take/insert. ‍

When not wearing diapers, make them wear pull-ups, training pants, girly underwear (if male), or childish patterned pants. 

When at home and not working dress them in embarrassing clothing, good options include:

- No bottoms / exposed diapers - ABDL onesie / romper - A skirt (male or female) - ABDL shortalls or dress - Childish 2-piece PJs - Footed sleeper

Experiment with light bondage:

- Add a locking diaper cover over their diapers - Restrain them to a bed for 2 hours after making them insert a suppository - Chain them to their desk using locking ankle cuffs or diaper cover - Use other locking clothing to prevent diaper access (e.g. rear zipping footed sleepers)

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Intermediate

In public, ask them about their diaper or do a subtle diaper check (squeeze front/back) when nobody will hear or see.

Add more elements of babying:

- Feed them a bottle of milk each night - Make them sleep with a teddy - Talk to them like a baby during diaper checks and changes - Make them use a pacifier in the daytime

Encourage them to mess in their diaper for convenience. For example, if heading out for the day ask them to fill their diaper before leaving so they won’t mess in public.

If you notice their wet diaper is starting to smell take them by the hand, lay them down, and change their diaper. Don’t ask if they need one or make it a choice. ‍

Surprise them by buying new ABDL items (clothing, diapers, pacifiers, etc)

Punish any bad behavior by making their diaper experience less pleasant:

- Smack them until crying before changing them into a new diaper - Add elements of forced regression such as locking mittens, pacifier gag, restraints  - Make them stay in messy diapers for extended periods - Feed them a blended or cut-up version of their meal. Use a bib and mittens to force them to let you feed them. - Treat him as a sissy/girl with pink diapers and female clothing or baby girl AB items.

Twice a week, force them to mess themselves. Insert a suppository into their bum (wear disposal gloves) or use a fleet-enema (no gloves required) during a change.

Make them ask you for permission to get changed and use the opportunity to inspect their diaper. If it doesn’t look full, make them wait 1-2 hours longer.

Get them ready for bed each evening by changing them into thick diapers and dressing them in ABDL clothes.

At home only allow thick or ABDL diapers to be worn.

Take them shopping while diapered to buy new medical diapers, pull-ups, feminine/childish underwear/clothing, and other baby supplies (powder, baby food, etc)‍

Make their diapered / baby status obvious around your home when visitors aren’t present:

- Have a dedicated changing area with diapers stacked up clearly - Keep a pacifier next to their bed - Have a few ready-made bottles in the fridge - Hang up their ABDL clothes so they’re easily accessible ‍

Make them wear a swim diaper on vacation (at the beach/pool)

If they're male, experiment with treating him as a sissy/girl some days:

- Pink / girl-themed diapers - Feminine ABDL clothing (onesies, rompers, etc) - Women’s clothing (dresses, skirts, leggings) - Butt plugs - Chastity

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Experiment with more bondage:

- Use locking mittens at night - Restrain them to a bed overnight after giving them 2x ducolax tablets - Add ankle and chest restraints to their office chair to prevent movement while working from home - Use a pacifier gag regularly

Advanced

Change their diaper while out in public. ‍

Look for a changing places toilet (Europe) or a standard accessible restroom can be used by bringing a disposal changing mat for the floor. You can also change them laying down over the back seats of your vehicle if in a secluded area.

Increase Babying:

- Create a baby bed for them, ideally a single bed with childish sheets, teddies, and restraints to simulate being locked in a crib. This can be used for naps or overnight punishments. - Regularly feed them a blended or cut-up version of their meal. Use a bib and mittens to force them to let you feed them. - Make them wear mittens to bed each night  - Force them to crawl by using training booties (small spikes prevent standing) - Pacifier must be attached to them at all times while at home - Setup a playpen which they must stay in for extended periods (even if still doing more adult activities like being on a phone or gaming)

Force them to mess themselves in front of you.

Administer a suppository or fleet enema but make them stay laying or sitting next to you. Encourage and then tease them for messing themselves like a baby.

Occasionally change them out of their messy diapers. Disposal gloves and adult wipes are recommended.

Force them to mess themselves while out of the house:

- Hand them a suppository to go and insert after finishing a meal at a restaurant. They'll have to try to hold until you’ve got the bill and left. - On long drives make them insert a suppository when you’re still 1-2 hours away from your home/destination - Administer a suppository or fleet enema before sending them to go shopping or other out-of-home chores.

Incorporate bondage into their forced babying by:

- Use locking diaper covers, plastic pants, or onesies to prevent self-changing - Attach hands and feet to restraints during changes - Restrain them overnight - Use a straightjacket 

Take them shopping to buy supplies from an ABDL shop 

If male, treat him as a sissy most or all of the time at home:

- Pink / girl-themed diapers - Feminine ABDL clothing (onesies, rompers, etc) - Women’s clothing (dresses, skirts, leggings) - Chastity cage - Pegging

Dress them as a baby most or all of the time at home:

- Exposed diapers & babyish t-shirts  - Baby-themed onesies (not plain) - Baby dresses/rompers - Baby-style socks & tights - No adult clothes (if working from home, adult clothes can be worn on top but the lower half should still be babyish)

Force them to lose control by adding laxatives without their knowledge to some meals and drinks (have prior consent to do this).

Restrict their diaper changes to certain times ensuring they’ll sometimes have to wait a few hours to change out of well-used diapers.

Switch to thick or ABDL diapers exclusively, making them less discrete in public.

Increase use of bondage:

I have designed the following contract to provide some basic ground rules that may be used in an AB-Caretaker relationship. Though this contract may not be legally enforceable, it contains sufficient provisions of semi-binding nature to show how to deal with any conflict that may arise within the course of such relationship. You may adapt it to your wishes and use it as guidelines for your own relationship, if you so wish. Have fun!

                                   AB/DL Caretaker Contract

  between         __________________________________________    

(hereinafter: “the charge”)

  and               _____________________________________________

(hereinafter: “the caretaker”)

  Preamble

The following is an agreement between consenting adults who wish to engage in a long-term relationship based on mutual trust and common interests. The parties of this agreement hereby acknowledge and declare that they enter into this agreement of their own volition and free from any undue influence or force. The parties further acknowledge and accept that this agreement contains a long-term commitment which may only be resolved under certain conditions in accordance with the legitimate interests of the respective other party. With regard to the nature of this agreement, the parties further declare to be aware that its execution may lead to long-term or even permanent physical and/or mental changes which will affect inter alia the charge´s continence and his/her ability to control his/her bladder and bowels. The parties hereby confirm that it is indeed their will to bring about these changes with all their ramifications and consequences, knowing that they may proof to be irreversible and permanent. In full knowledge of these consequences and their possible impact on his/her future life and living conditions, the charge hereby confirms that it is indeed his/her genuine and most sincere wish to be rendered incontinent and diaper dependent as a result of the unpotty training regimen set out in this agreement, knowing that these effects may proof to be irreversible and permanent.

§ 1 – General Provisions, Objective of this agreement

By virtue of this agreement the parties establish a long-term relationship governed by a mutually accepted set of rules and obligations, in which they will adopt the roles of (dominant) caretaker and (submissive) charge to fulfill their mutual desires.

§ 2 – Roles and Obligations of the Parties

(1)  Throughout the period of validity of this agreement, from its entry into force till its termination, the parties adopt the following roles and responsibilities:

-        caretaker:

The caretaker is responsible for the care and well-being of his/her charge and is inter alia in charge of the charge´s education, discipline and diaper training. He/she enforces the rules set out in this agreement and ensures that the charge´s every need is met so that he/she may thrive and become a healthy and well-behaved adult baby.

-        charge:

The charge is obligated to submit to the care provided by the caretaker in accordance with this agreement and the rules set out therein. He/she will discard all his/her former adult responsibilities, with the exception of those explicitly specified in this agreement, and will let the caretaker take care of things in his/her stead. In particular, he/she will give up control over his/her bladder and bowels and will submit to the agreed upon unpotty training regimen until full diaper dependency is achieved.

(2)  The caretaker may appoint representatives (e.g. baby sitters) to fulfill his/her responsibilities under this agreement in his/her stead whenever the need arises, provided that these representatives are open towards the AB/DL lifestyle and respect the limits and obligations under this agreement. The caretaker is responsible for any violation or lack of care that may result from the appointment of these representatives and is obligated to ensure that this agreement is abided by at all times. The charge may oppose the appointment of any representative only insofar as he/she is able to raise legitimate concerns in this regard.  

§ 3 - Duration and Conditions for Termination

(1)  This agreement shall be valid and in full effect until it is terminated by one of the parties.

(2)  This agreement may be terminated by the charge only under the following conditions:

-  in case of severe and/or persistent violations of rules or limits set out in this agreement by caretaker or representative, immediately without having to comply with any cancellation period

-  in case of serious lack of care by caretaker or representative, if no remedy is provided within two weeks after a substantiated complaint or if the breach of duty continues to persist even after such remedy has been provided, immediately without having to comply with any cancellation period

-  in case of other compelling reasons of such importance that the party giving notice cannot reasonably be expected to continue the relationship established under this agreement, after taking all circumstances of the individual case into account and after weighing the interests of both parties to the contract, immediately without having to comply with any cancellation period.

-  without any particular reason with effect to the end of the year, after at least one full year has passed since the beginning of care, provided that notice is given at least three months prior.

(3)  This agreement may be terminated by the caretaker only under the following conditions:

-  in case of severe and/or persistent violations of rules or limits set out in this agreement committed by the charge, if these violations pose a serious threat to the caretaker´s health or his/her reputation, immediately without having to comply with any cancellation period

-  in case of other persistent violations of rules or limits set out in this agreement committed by the charge, if they persist even after all other means of discipline provided under this agreement have been exhausted or proven to be ineffective, immediately without having to comply with any cancellation period

-  in case other compelling reasons of such importance that the party giving notice cannot reasonably be expected to continue the relationship established under this agreement, after taking all circumstances of the individual case into account and after weighing the interests of both parties to the contract, immediately without having to comply with any cancellation period

-  without any particular reason at the end of year with at least 6 months of prior notification, provided that a proper replacement is found that meets the charge´s needs and is willing to continue the care in the caretaker´s stead according to the provisions of this agreement (possible candidates are to be discussed with the charge beforehand).

§ 4 – Limits and Restrictions

 (1)  Insofar as the charge is employed or pursuing a career, none of the provisions of this agreement may be interpreted in any manner that would affect these undertakings. In particular, the caretaker may not interfere with the charge´s professional obligations and has to allow the charge to maintain a professional appearance in all work-related matters. The rules set out in this agreement, in particular the ones in regard to bedtime, appearance, conditions for diaper changes, diaper type and diaper usage, are to be adjusted accordingly.

(2)  The general goal of training the charge to become diaper dependent, however, has to be pursued at all times and may not interfered with for any reason whatsoever. This precludes any concessions that would allow the charge to use the toilet or to stop wearing and using diapers, even if it were only for a short while.

(3)  None of the provisions of this agreement may be interpreted in any manner that would be contrary to public policy or the law applicable where the charge is habitually resident or habitant.

§ 5 – Safeguards for Public Exposure

To avoid legal ramifications or detrimental effects for the charge´s social standing, the charge must be dressed and treated in such manner when in public or in the presence of other people not being part of the AB/DL community, that public decency is adhered and that no other people are molested. If the charge´s diapers are to be exposed or changed in public, it has to be done in a socially acceptable manner. Appropriate safeguards need to be taken to ensure that the charge´s identity is protected.

§ 6 – Rules to be enforced by the Caretaker

(1)  The caretaker is responsible for the enforcement of the following rules the charge has to abide by, for as long as this agreement is in force:

1.    Diapers are to be worn 24/7, no exceptions.

2.    The toilet is off limits. Diapers are to be used at all times.

3.    All potty privileges are revoked. Diapers are to be used as soon as the need arises.

4.    Diapers may only be changed/removed by caretaker, his/her representatives or with their explicit permission.

5.    To ensure proper diaper usage, diapers are only to be changed, if they are either messy or filled to the point of leaking. No diaper changes may be requested before then.

6.    Random diaper checks may be performed at all times to avoid leakage and to ensure proper diaper usage. The charge may not interfere with these regardless of the circumstances.

7.    To keep the charge regular, the following rules apply:

-  The charge has to drink at least 3 liters per day.

-  The charge may not eat any salty or unhealthy food, unless with explicit permission of caretaker or representative.

-  At least one of the charge´s daily meals has to consist only of baby food.

-  If the charge has no proper bowel movement within 24 hours, suppositories, enemas or laxatives are used to relieve the constipation.

-  The charge has to consume every meal/drink it is given by caretaker or representative regardless of its taste or its ingredients, unless it conflicts with the dietary requirements or limits established beforehand (e.g. to avoid allergic reactions).

-  The caretaker may decide at any time that the charge is not ready to feed himself/herself and may take it upon himself/herself to feed him/her instead. The charge has to submit and may not interfere or protest.

8.    Unless otherwise specified, all drinks are to be consumed from baby bottles or sippy cups.

9.    Bedtime is at 8 pm, unless otherwise specified. Once put to bed, the charge may not leave it until 6 am the next day unless with explicit permission of caretaker or representative. Noncompliance may be sanctioned with spankings and additional restraints.

10.Whenever the caretaker or a representative is present, the charge may not adjust his/her appearance in any way without explicit permission of caretaker or representative. This includes covering or hiding worn diapers or any other accessories indicating the charge´s babyhood.

 (2)  Unless otherwise specified, these rules may only be altered or amended by agreement of all parties involved.

§ 7 – Enforced Diaper Training

 (1)  The caretaker may take appropriate steps to ensure that the charge fully commits to his/her diaper training and gives up any remaining resistance against becoming diaper dependent.

(2)  The goal of achieving diaper dependence is to be achieved primary by means of natural unpotty training. Long-term treatment with invasive measures (e.g. catheters, stents, plugs) may only be used as means of last resort, if natural unpotty training has failed due to the charge´s continuing resistance.

 § 8 – Curative Measures

 The caretaker may take appropriate steps to keep the charge clean and healthy.

He/she may in particular:

-  remove the charge´s pubic hair and excess body hair and take appropriate steps to hinder its regrowth

-  prevent masturbation (either by restraints or use of chastity devices)

-  administer enemas, prostate massages and other curative measures

-  ensure good hygiene (by force if necessary)

-  determine the charge´s haircut and hair style

-  adjust the charge´s diet to ensure optimal weight and healthy digestion

-  take steps to ensure the charge´s physical fitness

  § 9 - Disciplinary Measures

The following punishments may be administered by the caretaker or his/her representatives at their discretion in accordance with the principle of proportionality and the limits set out in this section and in the rest of the agreement:

-  Spanking (e.g.: hand, hairbrush, paddle)

        > only on bare/diapered bottom and thighs

        > no open wounds, no lasting bruises, no long-term harm

-  Reflective Punishments, such as

corner time, time out, being send to bed early, writing lines, temporary crib confinement, etc.

- Enemas, Suppositories and Laxatives

         > medical limits need to be observed

         > goal is to enforce natural bowel movements, not to rely on forced ones

- Bondage, Restraints and Restrictive Clothing, such as

lockable plastic pants/onesies, padded mittens, spreader bars/pants, pacifier gags, cuffs, crib restraints, etc.

-   Stricter Rules (temporary)

> This may not alter the nature of the rules set out in this agreement and  may only affect their severity (e.g. earlier bedtime, more baby food, less big kid privileges)

> Even this may not interfere with the charge´s professional obligations or other limits set out in this agreement

 -  Enforced Chastity

> in case of prolonged chastity, prostate massages are to be given when advisable

 -  Anal Stretching (e.g. buttplugs, stretching rings)

> Bodily damage must be avoided (e.g. caution required in case of hemorrhoids)

> Long-term stretching only if natural unpotty training has failed

  -  Catheterization

> Bodily damage must be avoided; proper hygiene required

> Long-term catheterization only if natural unpotty training has failed

  - Humiliation

> This may not be applied in any manner that would affect the charge´s career or its social standing and has to be done in socially acceptable manner

> possible scenarios (non-exhaustive):

-        forced to use diaper in presence of other people

-        forced to buy diapers in person while in used diaper

-        forced to publish pictures / videos / reports of punishments (without       revealing identity or showing name and face)

-        forced to announce diaper usage in public

-        public outings with diaper partly exposed

-        public outings in diaper with punctured outer layer

-        public outings while holding enema / after taking laxative

> to minimize risk of detrimental consequences, most scenarios have to take place in locations where the charge is not known

-  Prolonged time without diaper changes

> Layers may be added to avoid leaks

> Bodily harm needs to be avoided; proper use of lotions, creams, etc. required

-  Other Discomfort Punishments, such as

mouth soaping, diaper fillings (e.g. ice, oatmeal, nettles, etc.), uncomfortable clothes, forced masturbation, etc.  

   § 10 – Assessment of Progress

 The caretaker may take appropriate steps to assess the progress of the charge´s education and diaper training. At the end of each month, the results and their consequences are to be discussed with the charge, followed by a talk about the plans and milestones set out for the following month. The charge may oppose these only insofar as he/she has legitimate concerns regarding the compliance with the limits set out in this agreement.

§ 11 – Closing provisions

 If a provision of this agreement is or becomes legally invalid or if there is any gap that needs to be filled, the validity of the remainder of the agreement shall not be affected thereby. Invalid provisions shall be replaced by common consent with such provisions which come as close as possible to the intended result of the invalid provision. In the event of gaps such provision shall come into force by common consent which comes as close as possible to the intended result of the agreement, should the matter have been considered in advance. Any changes of or amendments to this agreement must be in writing to become effective.

  ______________________                                                                                 

              Charge

______________________

There are a lot of post out there about red flags and things to avoid when looking for a Dominant. I know I’ve written more than one myself. But it got me to thinking about the flip side to that equation, which of course is what should you be looking for? I’ve been asked this question a lot, and while it’s easy to say, just the opposite of what the red flags are, I thought it would be helpful to write a little something.

Perhaps other people have their own ideas about important characteristics, but these are the things that are important to me.

Patience- Look for a Dom who is willing to build a relationship and doesn’t expect to materialize one from thin air simple because you are a submissive and they are a Dominant. They should also show patience with you, and a willingness to wait until they have earned your devotion and trust. You shouldn’t feel as if you’re being dragged along by their wants and demands. A man like this is unlikely to engage you sexually on a first date. (Yes, there are exceptions)

Reliability- Can you depend on him? When he says that he will do X thing, does he take concrete steps or is it just words? He says he’ll be there for you when you need him, does he call when he knows you have a big interview, or check on you when you’re sick without your having to pick up the phone first? Do you feel you can depend on him?

Integrity- He says he values family, does he take the time to see and call his own? Men with integrity hold to their moral principles even to the detriment of their own comfort. Take humility for example. If he is someone who agrees a Dom sometimes needs to be humble, then you should watch and see what happens when he makes a mistake. Is he quicker to apologize than he is to provide excuses?

Honesty- This should go without saying, but sadly it doesn’t. Those little white lies are very telling. A man who values honesty has no place for them. You won’t find him making up some story about why he was late for your date because his character is more important to him than saving a little face. These small truths or lies tell the story of a person who is either comfortable, or uncomfortable, with dishonesty.

Transparency/A willingness to explain- The whole “pay no attention to the man behind the curtain,” thing is best left in The Wizard of Oz. A great Dom will be open about his process, because he has your best interest at heart. Most especially during vetting he should be more than willing to explain his reasoning. It’s a great way to build trust. This doesn’t mean he’ll owe you an explanation for every order until the end of time, but his transparency during vetting is very telling.

Calmness- A great Dom is cool under pressure. He behaves rationally in crisis and is quick to find solutions. You’ll notice his focus under pressure is on how you’re doing, and on what step to take next. He doesn’t need to raise his voice to feel heard, and when you do something like forget to call his default is concern and not anger.

Willingness to learn- Adaptability and enough humility to know that no man is an island is very important. He will fuck up. (So will you.) His willingness to change his behaviors based on new information, and to grow as a person are very telling. How does he react to a controversial blog post you show him? Does he shut it down immediately? A Dom who is thoughtful and open to learning will have a valid and well thought reason if he does.

An interest in YOU- Look for someone who wants to know about you. This is after all, first and foremost, a relationship. He should show an interest in your hobbies, your family, and your favorite books/films. All the things a normal love interest would. It’s probably a good sign if he knows where you went to college before he knows if you enjoy anal.

Consistency- You’ll note that many of these things are traits you can only see develop over time. You couldn’t possibly know them for sure after a week of talking with someone. You need to see them face adversity and show consistency over time in order to know their true metal. (Yeah, that means you can’t rush the process) Do these characteristics go out the window when things are stressful, or emotional, or are they integral parts of who this person is?

Vetting is an intimidating process. Often we feel eager for that secure feeling of being cared for and that can muddy a submissive’s judgement. Time, time, and more time. Someone worth waiting for won’t mind the wait.

EDIT: I want to say, in response to some comments that have been made, that YES these characteristics are the same as any other relationship. It also reminded me that there is one characteristic exclusive to Doms that I failed to include:

For this to work, the ideal living situation is for the pair of you to be living together, either on your own or in a kink-friendly environment.

Start wearing, wetting and messing 24/7 immediately. There’s no reason for you not to. If you need to phase it in, use this rule: every time you wear a pair of underwear from now on, you have to throw it out afterward. Eventually you will only have diapers left. You must not use the toilet in any event.

Have locks installed on any room in your house which contains a toilet or a drain. Seriously. There’s the danger that if you start regretting wanting to untrain, you’ll start covertly using whatever toilet you can get. Not just the toilet, but the shower, bath, the sink in the laundry if you have one, the sink in the kitchen (that would be gross, but you might be desperate). You should only be in the back yard with your Daddy’s supervision.

Your Daddy needs to be involved in as many of your changes as possible. If you’re changing yourself, out of sight of your Daddy, that means that you can probably cheat and use the toilet, which you might do on a short-term impulse, but which neither of you actually want. Get a pair of plastic pants with a locking waist chain, so your Daddy can trust you out of his sight for at least short jaunts.

You need to be as undressed as possible around the house. It’s not acceptable for you to be shy about your diapers. You shouldn’t be in more than your diaper, a onesie and plastic pants. Ideally, just a diaper is best.

Your Daddy needs to get good at diaper checks. When you settle on a few diaper brands to use regularly, your Daddy should be checking you visually and manually (with his hand) when you’re mostly undressed around the house, to get an idea of what your diaper feels like when it’s damp, wet, soaked, messy, etc. He also needs to get an idea of the visual difference between ‘bulky but dry’/‘bulky and soaked’, ‘bulky but clean diapers’/‘slightly messy diapers’/‘very full diapers’, etc., both without and with clothes over the top.

Don’t ever ask to be changed. If you ask and you get changed, that means you can just hold it until you get changed, which you will very likely subconsciously want to do early on. Your Daddy should be checking you pretty much at random and should have a general idea of how long a diaper lasts when it’s on you. Your Daddy also should not change you until your diaper can’t take any more use; this might lead to a few rashes but that should teach you not to delay using your diaper.

Protect your surfaces. You should be travelling with an adult-size bed pad and/or puppy pad at all times. There should be one on your seat on your sofa, on your dining chair and on your office chair. There should be a PVC sheet on your bed. Ideally, there should be a removable drain filter and handheld showerhead on your shower (as well as decent water pressure). You should wear at least one extra layer of clothing to take off and tie around your waist in the event of a leaky diaper or very puffy butt. Basically, you should not feel like you need to avoid using your diaper because it would be too inconvenient and damaging to do so. Speaking of which -

You need to leak. If you take long road trips, this is an excellent opportunity. Either way, your Daddy needs to delay changing you long enough that you soak your diaper too much and it leaks from overuse. You need to know what leaking feels like and you need to get used to it, because it will be part of your life.

Do stimulant laxative training. This is something I recommend to all untrainers now. Even if you don’t want to untrain messing, using laxatives makes untraining wetting easier by making wetting seem much less important and much less painful. Stimulant laxatives are a class of laxatives which are important because they are the only type I know of which will actively force you to have an accident. There are two types I would recommend.

Dulcolax suppository training. These hit fast and hard. I would say the longest you will be able to keep control after insertion is probably two hours. Your Daddy should give you one of these just before you go into a situation where you wouldn’t be comfortable messing; for best results, you should be spending that time more than two hours away from easy access to the toilet. You need to get used to filling your diapers and you need to get used to the sensation of not being able to control it.

Castor oil training. This takes longer to hit, but after it hits, you will have no control for several hours. This will help you get used to spending extended amounts of time in messy diapers, and lets your daddy figure out the difference between slightly messy, moderately messy, and very full diapers.

Don’t be afraid to move as you need to. The body position that works for continent people using the toilet is not the same as the body position that works for soon-to-be-incontinent people using their diapers. I’m completely incontinent but I can still feel it happening (I can always feel messing accidents happening but can’t stop them, I can sometimes feel wetting).

I know that if I’m bent over, at certain angles pressure from my body can block my urethra (don’t know how to explain it because I’m sure that’s not what’s physically happening), so when I realise I’m peeing, my response is usually to lean back and open my legs. I feel it frees up any physical pressure that might be slowing down my wetting.

1. I’m glad you’re home from work sweetie, why don’t you tell me about your day while I put you in your diapers.

2. Come over here little one, I thought I smelled something stinky and I need to check if it was your diaper!

3. Is your diaper squishy baby? It looks like you’ve already had an accident.

4. Behave baby, there’s only 2 ways that diaper is coming off: when mommy/daddy needs to change you, and when they need to spank you.

5. Let me check your diaper honey, I need to make sure I put enough powder on you so you don’t get a rash today.

6. I think this store has a family restroom, let’s go inside and do a quick diaper check to see if you’re going to leak prince/princess.

7. You can’t sit on the couch baby, sit on daddy/mommy’s lap. Your diaper has more than enough padding to keep you comfy.

8. I hope your hungry baby, because you’re not getting out of that diaper until you make stinkies for me.

9. Bend over baby, I need to check the leg cuffs of your diaper, otherwise you’re going to leak with how much pee pee you make!

10. I think you’re just too little for pull-ups baby, let’s try again later. For now, let mommy/daddy put your diaper on and we can forget about the potty for a while.

11. Uh-oh, I think I smell poopies! Did you make a messy in your diapies baby?

12. Up on the changing table little one, you know the rules, it’s either a padded bum or a paddled bum in this house.

13. Now that’s a thick diaper you’ve got on baby! I guess you’re just going to have to crawl around the house now.

14. Do you want daddy/mommy to hold you while you make a pushie baby? It’s okay, mommy/daddy will help you get comfortable.

15. Of course you need to wear a diaper to the park baby, a little one like you isn’t going to want to stop playing to go to the bathroom!

16. Let’s practice counting by seeing how many diapers we have left before we buy you new ones baby, I think we’re running low!

17. Well, I could put a plug in your bottom if you aren’t going to go poopoo, it’s your choice baby.

18. You’re waddling again prince/princess, mommy/daddy knows that means your diaper is full. Come over and let me check.

19. I’m putting a booster in your diaper baby, and don’t fuss over it, you know you can’t control yourself on long car rides.

20. Sit next to me baby, that way I can check your diaper under the table during dinner.

21. I can’t believe I have to change you in the backseat! You must be just a little baby if you can’t make it through a car ride without a diaper change.

22. I love how these jammies have a flap in the back baby, perfect for checking for stinkies before bedtime!

23. I think I’m gonna put you in the crib for nap time baby, but not before I put a nighttime diaper on you, you’re such a heavy wetter when you sleep.

24. Hold still for your diaper change little one, mommy/daddy needs to put cream on your bottom so you don’t get a rash from your stinkies.

25. Don’t make me tie you down during nap time baby, you know not to try and use the bathroom. Mommy/daddy will change you when they come to wake you up.

26. If you’re such a big girl/boy, why did mommy have to change your diaper when you woke up wet today?

27. Baby, you haven’t made poppies in nearly 2 days, does mommy/daddy need to give you medicine to make it better? Let’s go to the changing table and put a suppository in your bottom little one.

28. I think it’s time to go honey, you always get fussy right before you have an accident in your diapers.

29. It doesn’t matter that you don’t want to wear diapers baby, I want you to wear them and what mommy/daddy says goes.

30. Don’t hide from me baby, I can smell that stinky bum all the way from here!

31. Did you just leak through your diaper into your pants? Okay, come over my lap baby, you’re getting a spanking for not telling me you were already wet.

32. Now that your home let’s lock up all your big boy/girl clothes, I think you need baby time for this whole weekend. Changing table, now.

33. Look at how cute this onesie is baby! It’s for crotch snaps so mommy/daddy can clean up your messy bottom, and it would go great with your pink diapers!

34. Don’t pretend like you don’t like your diapers baby, mommy/daddy sees how excited you get down there when they change you.

35. It’s been almost 2 hours since I changed you baby, are you sure you aren’t wet yet? I think we need to do a diaper check.

36. Cry all you want baby, maybe that’ll make you feel better for having an accident in your panties yesterday. It’s diaper time for you from here on out.

37. Hush baby, daddy/mommy will change you when you fully use your diaper. One wetting doesn’t cut it when they’re that thick.

38. I love it when you wet your diapers baby, it’s so fun to squeeze and squish your soggy bottom!

39. That’s your third cup of juice today baby, you must really like wetting your diapers since you’re definitely not using the potty today.

40. Don’t touch your diaper baby, if you need something come to mommy/daddy first, they know how it needs to fit best.

41. I’ll check on you during the night to make sure you don’t leak baby, so don’t be afraid to have an accident while you sleep.

42. It’s too bad you can’t touch yourself like mommy/daddy, you’ll just have to rub the front of your diaper if you want to cum.

43. I love the way these tights fit you baby, they really show off the diaper you’re wearing!

44. Don’t move a muscle baby, I can smell that poppy diaper from a mile away! Let’s get you changed in the nursery right now.

45. Don’t you love your diapers baby? They’re so soft and thick, perfect for mommy/daddy to pat your bottom over.

46. You’re not leaving that bouncer until you wet your diaper baby, end of story.

47. Oops, I think I put too much baby powder on you little one, I can’t wait to see it poof out the back of your diaper when you sit down!

48. Shhhhhh it’s okay prince/princess, daddy/mommy knows you can’t control yourself, that’s why you had your diaper on. Come on, let’s check and see the damage.

49. Rise and shine baby, let’s get you on the changing table right now, mommy/daddy knows that you can’t wake up dry.

50. Mommy/daddy loves you little one, diapered bottom and all!

Hello everyone! I wanted to share some super simple recipes for drinks that I use to fill baby bottles! Using regular milk is nice, but can get boring, real formula or cream can be unhealthy, and some recipes are too thick to suck through a nipple. So I came up with some simple drinks to replace boring milk! (I don’t include too many hard measurements; these recipes are best made to taste. Everyone will like them best with slightly different amounts of ingredients) 

Angel Milk- Probably the easiest to make with stuff you have around your house. All you need is 12oz of milk or a milk replacement, a tablespoon of sugar, and a splash of vanilla! Combine the ingredients, heat up the drink until it’s warm and that’s it! Very easy for littles to make for themself

Bedtime Kiss- This one needs to be heated up to be quite hot, so be careful! It also tastes best with real, whole milk. Heat 12oz of milk until it starts to foam, around 2-3 minutes. Be careful it doesn’t spill over! Then, mix in 1 or 2 tablespoons of honey and a shake of nutmeg and cinnamon. Make sure you let it cool a bit before putting the nipple on!

Gingerbread House- Santa’s favorite! You’ll need some maple or pancake syrup, a shake of cinnamon + nutmeg + ground ginger, a splash of vanilla, and milk (if you’re using milk substitutes, I recommend hazelnut milk or vanilla almond milk). Heat the milk, and combine all ingredients. You’ll have to mix the maple syrup in well!

-If they are just getting out of the shower or your putting them into a diaper instead of changing them out of a dirty one, use an extra soft blanket instead of a plastic changing mat. So long as it won’t get dirty from their accident, it’s a great way to make them comfortable.

-Ask your little lots and lots of questions! Do they know how many toes and fingers they have? Can they name the parts of the body you’re wiping or what each diapering item is? What was their favorite part of their day so far? Questions give a little the opportunity to express their littlespace through their voice!

-Restraints may sound like a punishment but they add to a little’s natural helplessness! Just using a chest strap ensures they won’t roll around, but strapping down appendages to the table will let them know that you’re able to take care of them so well they don’t even need to move.

-Baby oil and/or powder is a must! Maybe during their diapering you can give them a full body baby oil massage to drive an infantile scent deep into their skin and keep them exposed and helpless for an extended period of time.

-Change your little on an elevated surface, and lift them on to it if you physically can. Being able to change a little without too much bending is better on your body anyway, and your little will feel extra infatilized knowing they have a spot dedicated for cleaning their stinky bum!

-Make LOTS of comments about their diapers! Tell them how many accidents they’ve had today, ask them how many have been poopy and pee-pee diapies, or how full their diaper pail is. Read off the descriptions of the diapers to let them know what it can do, or what the scent of their lotion is.

-Have different diapers for different situations. By picking out from a selection of diapers, such as thinner daytime diapers or super thick night time ones, your little will feel as though you know what’s best since you’ve taken on that agency.

-Take the time for extra contact, such as tickling, blowing raspberries on their tummies or some light spanking if they enjoy that. Make diapering a time for love instead of just a chore!

-A diaper change isn’t complete until the clothing matches the padding! Punctuate a diaper change with appropriate clothing, such as shorts with an elastic waistband, a onesie or overalls and let them know how much easier a diaper change will be while they are wearing it.

-If your little feeling sickies, it’s time for doctor daddy or nurse mommy to take care of their little one! A diaper change gives you the chance to take their temperature rectally, give them a suppository if they are constipated or apply some vapo-rub to their chest for their congestion.

Daddy: There you go sport, freshly changed ... Wait where are you going?

Me: Nap time! Nap time!

Daddy: kiddo, we have things to do today?

Me: 🥺

Daddy: awww kiddo not the puppy dog eyes!

Me: 🥺 nap time pleaassseee daddy?

Daddy: okay kiddo, you win we can nap for a bit!

Me: Yay!!! *Waddles to bed*

it looks like @miamiabdl inspired a sequel to my last little story. enjoy! 👶🏼

Having your roommates walk in at that moment was both humiliating and arousing. So much so that you started to ejaculate into your waiting diaper. Your sexual whimpers as you climaxed only made your roommates laugh harder. “Awwww did our widdle baby roomie make a sticky in his little diapee? Let’s see!!” Before you knew what was happening they pulled off the juvenile little dinosaur pajama bottoms and exposed your even more babyish attire underneath. You tried to object, but before you could say a word an oversized pacifier was stuck in your mouth and pinned to the pajama top. “Now we’ll have none of that little one,” your tallest, strongest roommate cautioned, “I told you we were serious, and you don’t want to challenge us. Understand?” You meekly nodded your head in agreement, feeling more embarrassed and littler than you could have possibly imagined.

Laying there helplessly, you realize you’re wetting yourself. As the front of your diaper swells and grows yellow, you stare at your roommates with confusion in your eyes as if to say “I don’t know why I’m doing this.” But your roommates did. “Look, it’s working just like you said it would. He’s wetting himself like a widdle bitty baby. HAHAHAHA. This is gonna be perfect. Now he’ll have to do what we tell him.”

You look at the other roommate, hoping for an explanation, just as he reaches down and easily lifts you from your bed. His height and strength made it easy for him to pick you up and your instinctive fear of falling actually made you wrap your arms and legs around him the way any little boy would snuggle his daddy while being carried. He chuckled more and patted your wet, diapered bum, “there, there…daddy’s got you.” A few steps down the hall and the three of you were in the living room where you were gently set down on a waiting blanket.

“You see, discovering your little ‘secret’ gives me the perfect opportunity to practice what I’ve learned about hypnosis. Last night, while you slept, I was able to plant several subliminal suggestions – including the one that will cause you to helplessly wet yourself after an orgasm. If you don’t behave yourself and do as we say, that little behavior could become permanent.” You sat in your soggy, cum-filled diaper, sucking on a pacifier as he continued.

“More importantly, I’ve given you several trigger words that either one of us can use at any time. One will make you wet helplessly, one will make you suck your thumb…one will even make it difficult for you to speak like a grown-up. How’s it going to feel when I trigger you out in public and you start babbling like a 1 year old?” You can’t believe what your hearing. Is this really possible? Do you dare challenge it? You could end up being exposed to a much bigger audience that these two roommates. Before you could process the implications, he lays down your new rules. “So, beginning today:

Whenever you’re here in the apartment you will voluntarily talk and act like a 2-year-old baby. If you don’t do it voluntarily, you may find that you’ll be doing it involuntarily.

You will be shaved smooth from the neck down.

We are no longer your roommates. From now on I’m dada and he’s papa.

We will be in charge of all aspects of your life: what you eat, what you wear, where you go. That includes your finances, babies don’t need money.