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My Life Is Not For Sale

Ezekiel 13:18-19 -( 18 and say, ‘Thus says the Lord God: “Woe to the women who sew magic charms [a]on their sleeves and make veils for the heads of people of every height to hunt souls! Will you hunt the souls of My people, and keep yourselves alive? 19 And will you profane Me among My people for handfuls of barley and for pieces of bread, killing people who should not die, and keeping people…

REASONS WHY DEEP PEOPLE FEEL ALONE AND MISUNDERSTOOD

Reason # 1 – Deep people stand out. Many people – particularly the generation that is now reaching adulthood – are detached from opinions about everything from religion to politics and beyond. Simply put, many people view it as cool to not care about anything. That makes people who think deeply about things and have strong opinions stand out like sore thumbs. We become easy targets for people…

A lot of people get to see me everyday with a smile in my face but before that smile came let me take you down to road of my journey I was born in 1992, feb 9 , at a young age it was already understood my destiny was different. Because when when I was young my grandfather always scolded my parents for always carrying me about when they travel and felt they are disturbing me , in all honesty the…

Your Condition And Your Conclusion

Psalms 34:17-19 Nobody can run away from trouble and problems. There is no place that far that you can run to and trouble will not find you. As a matter of fact, all of life is one trouble or another. So, anyone who is telling you that you can have a problem-free existe Psalm 34:17 says, “The righteous cry and the Lord heareth, and delivereth them out of all their troubles.” Verse 19 says,…

14 Reasons Why Aquarius Is The Best Sign

Aquarians have a rebellious side that they hate being told what to do or how to think. The rebellious side of Aquarius comes out when people try to force their will upon them demanding that they change the way they think or act. The fiercely independent characteristics of Aquarius drive them to distance themselves from anyone who thinks that they can control their life. The Aquarius  goes…

Why wedding day is a special day for the bride

LETS BEGIN ( WHAT IS MARRIAGE)

a formal union and social and legal contract between two individuals that unites their lives legally, economically, and emotionally. The contractual marriage agreement usually implies that the couple has legal obligations to each other throughout their lives or until they decide to divorce. Being married also gives legitimacy to sexual relations within the…

Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. There are many kinds of love, but many people seek its expression in a romantic relationship with a compatible partner (or partners). For these individuals, romantic relationships comprise one of the most meaningful aspects of life, and are a source of deep fulfillment.

While need for human connection appears to be innate, the…

HEALTH IS WEALTH my new blog

Without our health we are nothing. We strive for personal success often to the detriment of our health. We only really understand the value of health once we’ve had it and then lost it again. We take our health and our bodies for granted until we’re broken, in pain or burnt out mentally. We try to undo years of unhealthy habits often when it’s too little too late. We put other priorities ahead of…

Sometimes in life we have to learn to let go of a relationship,friendship , situation or position we enjoyed but which is no longer available to us. In other cases, we may have to learn to let go of a deeply painful emotion and heal from the inside out.In order to move into and accept the new situation with grace, we must let go of the old one. .The end of anything generally casts us into the…

Racism (THE HISTORY AND WHY IT MUST BE STOPPED)

Historical Context

Between 1525 and 1866, 12.5 million people were kidnapped from Africa and sent to the Americas through the transatlantic slave trade. Upon reaching the New World, some 3.9 million of the 10.7 million who survived the harrowing two-month journey were enslaved in the United States. Comprehending the sheer scale of this forced migration—and slavery’s subsequent spread across the…

Domestic violence   also called intimate partner violence occurs between people in an intimate relationship. Domestic violence can take many forms, including emotional, sexual and physical abuse and threats of abuse. Domestic violence can happen in heterosexual or same-sex relationships.

Abusive relationships always involve an imbalance of power and control. An abuser uses intimidating, hurtful words and behaviors to control his or her partner.

It might not be easy to identify domestic violence at first. While some relationships are clearly abusive from the outset, abuse often starts subtly and gets worse over time. You might be experiencing domestic violence if you’re in a relationship with someone who:

Calls you names, insults you or puts you down

Prevents or discourages you from going to work or school or seeing family members or friends

Tries to control how you spend money, where you go, what medicines you take or what you wear

Acts jealous or possessive or constantly accuses you of being unfaithful

Gets angry when drinking alcohol or using drugs

Tries to control whether you can see a health care provider

Threatens you with violence or a weapon

Hits, kicks, shoves, slaps, chokes or otherwise hurts you, your children or your pets

Forces you to have sex or engage in sexual acts against your wil

Domestic violence or intimate partner violence is a pattern of assaultive and coercive behaviours including physical, sexual and psychological attacks, as well as economic coercion used by adults or adolescents against their current or former intimate partners. Examples of physical abuse include slapping, shaking, beating with fist or object, strangulation, burning, kicking and threats with a knife. Sexual abuse includes coerced sex through threats or intimidation or through physical force, forcing unwanted sexual acts, forcing sex in front of others and forcing sex with others. Psychological abuse involves isolation from others, excessive jealousy, control of his or her activities, verbal aggression, intimidation through destruction of property, harassment or stalking, threats of violence and constant belittling and humiliation

  Frightened woman and a man who wants to hit in the head

  Together, we can break the silence. Everyday news reports of celebrities and athletes involved in abusive relationships have made it very clear that this issue knows no socio-economic, racial, or cultural boundary.

Domestic violence affects both women and businesses, as most women work and do not leave abuse behind while at the workplace. Abusers often harass their partners at work. In worse case scenarios, abusers come to the workplace and threaten their partners and their co-workers.

Signs of Domestic Violence

Recognizing the signs of domestic violence is the first step to intervention. If you notice any of the following signs, it could be an indicator that your friend is in an abusive relationship. If they:

Seem to be under emotional distress, depressed, feeling self-doubt or shame

Seem isolated, unusually quiet, or anxious around family or friends

Have unexplained bruises and/or injuries

Act differently or strangely in social situations, at work, or at school

Wear unseasonable clothing, like long sleeves in the summer

Give explanations that don’t add up

Are often tardy or miss work or school, or frequently cancel plans

Receive disruptive and excessive phone calls, texts, emails, or frequent visits from a partner

Act fearful around their partner

Have a partner who is emotionally abusive, and belittles and insults them in front of other people

Have a partner who is extremely controlling (socially, financially, or over appearance)

          SAY NO TO DOMESTIC VOILENCE

  Things We Can Do to Reduce Domestic Violence

WHAT YOU CAN DO TO PREVENT VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN

While both men and women can be victims of violence, violence against women, often at the hands of men, is a unique category of violence that relies on the historical and current unequal balance of power between men and women, boys and girls. Violence against women is the crucial element that reinforces men’s power and control over women throughout the world. On some level, most of us participate in the culture that supports and encourages violence against women and girls, in both small ways (like telling our friends to “man up” when they have to do something difficult) to large ways (beating and raping women and girls). Here are some small and big ways we can work to end it, or at least interrupt it, every single day.

For everyone:

Educate yourself on violence against women; learn the facts and the prevalence

Believe survivors

Contact your local legislators and political leaders and advocate for tougher laws against perpetrators of violence against women

Know that dating violence & sexual assault affects 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 6 boys by the time they are 18

Contact your local school board and ask them to address sexual harassment in schools

Speak out against all forms of violence

Question gender roles and assumptions

Respect and embrace diversity

Respect a person’s-even a child’s- right to say no

Respect your partner’s right to disagree or have their own opinion

Don’t blame victims, and reinforce that rape is never the victim’s fault

Strive for equality for everyone

Understand that putting boys and men down by calling them “ladies” and “girls” hurts everyone

Speak out against the media’s portrayal of violence

Learn how racism, sexism and homophobia are connected

Acknowledge that it does happen in your own community

Learn about power and control tactics

Attend Take Back the Night events

Ask permission before pursuing physical or sexual contact with someone

Realize that sexual violence is about power and control, not sex

Teach kids that respect is the minimum in a relationship, and lead by example

Advocate for victim’s rights

Ask your priest, rabbi, pastor, cleric, or spiritual leader to hold a special service to raise awareness and promote safety for victims and accountability for perpetrators.

Avoid engaging in, supporting or encouraging sexual harassment by speaking up when you see or hear it

Teach kids that violence will not solve problems

Know that most sex offenders aren’t strangers · 86% are known to their victim

Avoid making threats or using coercion and pressure to get sex

Be courageous; don’t be afraid to speak up for those who have lost their voice or dignity

Praise women and girls for something other than the way they look

Speak out against racist, sexist or homophobic jokes

Advocate for more youth violence prevention programs

Get others to speak out against sexual violence

Stop your sexual advances if the other person says no and encourage others to do the same

Avoid buying music that glorifies sexual violence and the objectification of women and girls

Urge your local radio stations to stop playing music that contains violent lyrics

Applaud others who speak out against violence and oppression

Invite a speaker from HAVEN to share with your class, work or community group

Pledge to never commit or condone acts of violence

Stop yourself or others from taking advantage of someone who is intoxicated

Make a decision to become an active bystander by speaking up and calling for help when necessary

Respect the choices victims and survivors make to survive

Encourage your local college and universities to offer prevention education to students

Empathize

Work toward eliminating oppression of all kinds

Think globally and act locally

Hold perpetrators accountable for disrespecting their partners when you see it or hear it

Engage others in discussions about violence against women

Learn about healthy boundaries and don’t be afraid to voice your feelings in your relationship

Notice when someone invades your boundaries

Report it if you witness sexual harassment in your school or workplace

Post awareness materials in restrooms and break rooms for easy & confidential accessibility

Celebrate all aspects of masculinity, including compassion and sensitivity

For men:

Choose your words carefully and respectfully when speaking of women in your life

Show your strength by speaking up to men who are using their strength for hurting

Refuse to let TV, movies, music or other people define what it means to be a man for you

Understand that it takes more than just not being a batterer or a rapist to be a good guy

Treat all women and girls with respect

Don’t patronize sex workers or strip clubs

Ask, don’t assume you know what your partner wants

Get involved with the Men Can Stop Rape movement at http://www.mencanstoprape.com

Refuse to coerce or manipulate your partner in order to get your way; be willing to compromise

  SAY NO TO DOMESTIC VOILENCE

Nowadays, fashion is still a mean or recognition for your status or social group in a way or another. What I mean is that fashion is a way of self-expression – you can either choose to play with it or let others decide what your outfit tells about you.

More than self-expression, fashion is a mean of self-empowerment and confidence. My clothes would change something within me – sometimes I will feel more comfortable, confident with myself because I am wearing a specific pair of shoes or an outfit. Go on shopping to find new outfits is to me self-care time and I can pampered myself. I feel very satisfied whenever I wear something I truly like, I feel good in it and it helps me to build my confidence and my self-esteem. The best in fashion for me: I am who I am, I show to the world who I am and I feel more confident about it.

via HUMILTY

Humility is one of the most powerful and important attributes of training. Learning to become humble helps build trust, which is the key to leadership development and crushing your goals.

As the revolutionary Nelson Mandela once said “The first thing is to be honest with yourself. You can never have an impact on society if you have not changed yourself… Great peacemakers are all people of…