Daddy’s Lil Bean

Polyamory is beautiful

Being in love is beautiful

Your love isn’t dirty just because you love more than one person

You aren’t automatically a bad person for loving multiple people

You aren’t “less in love” than a monogamous person

You can have healthy relationships

Recently i have stumbled across a submissive, and she is a good friend of mine now. It upsets me to see her cry, get angry, and feel neglected by her Dom. I don’t know the whole story so i am not picking sides. But:

•Littles in general are supposed to be clingy, i wouldnt have it any other way if i had a little •Littles are supposed to be “cutely annoying” at that point its not even annoying, wake me up by poking my cheeks 17,000 times. I will hug the stuffing out of you •Littles do have a lot of anxiety, i mean come on, if you had a paci, a stuffies, and quite possibly a diaper, and you had to leave your home and go be “big” it kind of ruins your mood •Littles have a tendency to think you are off gallivanting with someone else if you don’t text them at least 3 times a day “good morning” Afternoon i am still alive" and “Goodnight Cutie, sleep well” (this is specifically to distance) •Littles are some of the most precious things on the planet, when they light up about something they are happy about, it is the most adorable thing of all time.

Well, to start with, a Daddy Dom is first and foremost a Dominant. His choice is to be a Daddy Dom, this does not mean incest (as has been said in the past by ignorant people) rather a Daddy Dom is One who cares for, nurtures, shapes, and molds his babygirl into the image He thinks she should become. He sees in her someone who can achieve a much higher, much greater status. He often times believes more in her, than she believes in herself.

His love for his babygirl goes without question. He loves her as much for who she is, as for what she will become with His guidance. she is …… His prized possession. a Daddy’s eyes will light up when she comes into a room and take great pride in her success’s. After all, He helped to create her. She holds the most tender part of His heart and has greatest power to hurt Him.

This love would not be possible without respect. A Daddy Dom needs to feel pride in his lilgirl. He needs to know she can hold her own in the outside world and still submit to Him. He holds the greatest respect for the gift she has given Him and takes great pains to increase it’s value. It is extremely important to Him to know she can be with any man and she chooses to be with Him.

He knows that this makes discipline a priority in their lives, His discipline is more important than in some other D/s relationships. In order for the lilgirl to really trust, she must know He means what He says. If His lilgirl is going to be the best she can possibly be He must stand firm. He uses his experience in life and His knowledge of her to provide proper direction and punishment when the need arises.

If He does not enforce discipline, this respect becomes a tenuous thing. If His submissive finds that she can manipulate Him out of punishing her, she begins to lose respect and the ability to empower becomes impeded. He understands that it becomes increasingly difficult to be possessed by someone you do not respect.

This takes great strength on His part. It takes strength to control her, and to shape her to His needs and desires. It takes strength to be her confidant, her shoulder, her anchor. It takes strength to let her out into the world when all He wants to do is hold her safe in His arms. And it takes strength to do what is necessary when she needs to be disciplined.

A Daddy Dom provides something else that is very important to His submissive…acceptance. She is safe in His arms because He knows her, everything about her, and He still loves her. When she goes to Him she knows that this Man knows all of her dirty little secrets and it doesn’t matter. To Him she is and always will be beautiful.

A Daddy Dom and a Sadistic Dom are by no means mutually exclusive. Many Daddy Doms embrace their sadism while understanding and feeding their submissive’s masochism. This balance is necessary to many lilgirls because it allows all parts of her to be nourished, leading to an incredibly fulfilling relationship.

I think most Dominants have a bit of the Daddy in them, taking on the role of Male authority figure in the submissive’s life and using their power to enrich that life. Daddy/lilgirl verbalizes that feeling, and adds a dimension of warmth, caring, and ritual that it’s participants crave.