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doodles i guess, testing out a new lineart brush and all that

also spoiler under the cut

I want to make something very clear: Being a daughter is not inherently a tragedy. If your parents treat you like shit and try to convince you that’s just how life is for girls, if your mom treats you as a therapist, if your mom never apologizes when she mistreats you, if you’re “inheriting” your mom’s trauma, those are signs of abuse. You may have been manipulated into believing they are normal, whether intentionally or not, and it’s likely that both you and your parents should seek therapy.

I promise you, those things are not normal, and you should not stand for them. Demand better for yourself! And most importantly, stop talking as if these are normal things. For every post about the “tragedy” of “being a daughter”, there is likely a girl out there who will think “Well, I guess the way my parents treat me is normal and ok, then,” and continue on believing that the abuse she suffers is normal or even justified.

Instead of telling victims of abuse that this is just the fate they’re doomed to, we need to make it clear that what they’re going through is not normal, not ok, and that they can and should fight for better lives for themselves.