kiss the one you are right now

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love in the time of the apocalypse

a late valentine’s day post, but a valentine’s day post nonetheless <3

Silly Little Centipede, Counting All Your Legs - Submitted by SeesawSiya

“See this lie, this golden strand of falsehood. Take it in your gaze and pull it, follow through its curves and twists and knots as it unravels all before you.”

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I listened to the Magnus Archives

the way people swarm to justify their conformity to gendered grooming standards any time rejecting those standards is brought up is so frustrating and missing the fucking point

like all personal grooming choices are valid, obviously. and ALSO your choice to do the thing you're supposed to, regardless of why, is the normalized, unmarked, safe option and you need to fucking own that! sit with the discomfort of it! and stop derailing every attempt to embrace bucking those standards with your need to be told that it's okay to conform or whatever. not every conversation about living outside the boxes society puts us in needs to include a billion caveats and preambles about how it's sooooo valid if you're still in those boxes

hairy pits and legs are gonna get uncomfortable stares from people and your shaved ones are not. whether i want mine to be visible in any given context is a calculation i perform in hot weather. you do not have this. your shaved body is reflected in virtually all movies and television no matter how realistic it is for the women in context to be hairless.

full bushes are the ones called dirty and unsanitary and stinky and inconsiderate to your lovers. your shaved bush is reflected and approved of in porn, in shaving ads, in general sentiment. your default is not seriously subjected to widespread criticism and erasure and stigma.

this one's thankfully shifting, but make-up is still broadly expected for professionalism. never wearing make-up is something i worry about in respect to my job prospects, especially if i pursue a teaching career. the women in media are never seen without a full face of make-up even when they're meant to be sick or dying or filthy. obv there actually ARE lots of freaky non-standard ways to do make-up, but if you're just wearing normal ass make-up--that's still the unmarked choice. that's the safe choice.