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If Armie and Timmy are really together then his profile picture on social media doesn’t matter.

He could be thinking: we don’t need to hang on to this anymore, we have so much more - we have real life.

Also, his old profile pic doesn’t really make sense with everything else he has going on. It was from CMBYN era and this is the biggest professional thing to happen to him since.

His private life is just that, private - and his public life doesn’t necessarily have any bearing on it. Not that there aren’t hints or that they don’t blend at times (our boy can’t help himself), but how things appear doesn’t change how they actually are.

Whether it looks like they’re together or not doesn’t matter. What matters is what happens off screen.

So definitely feel your feelings and also know that we don’t know the truth. We can’t figure it out but we can continue to have faith and hold the hope. There will be more signs. There always are ✨

I get the sentiment, to a degree, but to a lot of people he is and always will be Elio because he's the only human on this planet to have conveyed a fictional character?

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With his upcoming film Dune and several other projects, actor Timothée Chalamet is well on his way to becoming a household name, and Call Me By Your Name was his breakout role. Taking place in the beautiful setting of 1980s Italy, it is about the budding romance between a teenage boy and an older man, his father's assistant.

Chalamet and Armie Hammer give performances that have been praised by many critics all around the world in what is one of the best LGBTQ coming-of-age movies. The film was adapted from the romance novel of the same name by author André Aciman.

Hey Nonny 💕

Don’t worry, I promise I won’t block you. 😘 You seem genuine and your questions are relevant to the fandom as a whole and not just targeted to harass one person. So I’m going to do my best to answer, but I should add the caveat that I myself don’t always understand these things, either. So I’m trying my best to be understanding and compassionate while also having many of the same questions you do.

So first, I just want to touch on one particular part of your ask. You seem to lump everyone who has stopped posting Armie content on their blog into one category of people who have “turned their back on him”. I feel like this isn’t accurate, and that the truth is much more complex. There are definitely those who saw the allegations and immediately decided Armie was guilty, made one post explaining that and then swiftly pretended like he no longer exists and now only acknowledge Timmy. And there are also those who went even further and turned full anti and started spreading hate about him based solely on the ridiculous lies of the women trying to bring him down. So I would definitely put those people squarely in the category of “turned their backs on Armie”. However, there are others who have remained silent about the entire situation, and unless each of them decide to explain in detail how they feel about the matter, I feel it’s unfair to lump them in with the previous two groups without considering that maybe they DO still love and support Armie, but have a personal reason for not speaking about it publicly. Or, there are also those who just don’t know how to feel and are trying to wait until both sides of the story are told before making any decisions. And that’s completely fair and valid. Some of us may be comfortable with saying that he’s innocent without any doubts. Others, even if they do admire him greatly, may need to take a more balanced approach based on their own personal history with this particular topic. Sexual assault is not something to take lightly, and I don’t blame those with personal experience with it for needing to step away for their own mental health.

Now, having said all that, I will admit that I also struggle with the idea that someone could know and love Armie so much and yet think he’s in any way capable of the things he’s been accused of. Not to mention the very glaring and blatant lies that every single person involved has told, along with how narcissistic and unstable they all are. But…and here’s where it gets tricky…it’s not up to me to decide for anyone else how to view a situation. What may seem totally obvious to me may not be so clear-cut for others who come from different backgrounds and experiences. We all have our own biases that lead us to one conclusion over another, and uncovering the real truth is often much harder than it seems. So I don’t think it’s fair to judge those who have simply gone quiet in the midst of this scandal.

There is so much to talk about here I’m afraid I’m going to be all over the place and maybe not very clear but I’ll try my best.

Back at the beginning of the year, I’ve put myself in an Armie hiatus for three reasons.

First, like I’ve said in a post back then, to protect me and many things I care about. I had to make sure these things were safe, not only from what could come right away from Armie side, but from what could come at any time, from anyone. Seeing these things threatened scared the shit out of me and myself and them were my top priorities.

Secondly, because right were all hell broke loose, everyone’s (at maybe one or two exceptions) behavior here made me fucking sick. Honestly, sickness were coming from everywhere, every side, every confession, people who were staying, leaving, on their way to leave, already gone. People I actually appreciate on a daily basis. I’ve come very close to yell at everyone but I also knew it wasn’t the right thing to do. I was in no mental condition to put these kind of talks on top of everything else and the last thing I wanted to do was add to the collective hysteria. I needed time and space to remember that’s who humans are. Generally.

Finally, it was because of Armie. Not because of what other people said or accused him of but because of words coming out of his mouth (or fingers) between quoting marks and his face on it (and to be clear, I'm not talking about various kinks that are his and not mine. We don't kink-shame here). With everything else going on, I think me not reblogging his face with a few emojis a couple of times a day for a year or two was a very small price to pay for him coming from me. I’ve come very close to drag him into trash for the weeks he has put me through and he’s lucky I didn’t because I would have done a way better job than whatever the anti-Armie pussy has been doing in their corner for the past 86 years.

So that’s where I was back at the start. Came the moment where I have to find out if I can follow the evolution of the… case and, if I’m able, whether I wanted to or now. And how i could do it if i wanted. It quickly appeared to me that the only decent way I could do it and still be able to look at myself in the mirror was to decide that, in my head, I had to start from a virtual point where Armie was guilty. And to be clear this is not me saying I thought or still think he’s guilty (or that he’s not). See that like an hypothesis to be tested, exactly like in your highschool’s labs. You don’t know if the hypothesis is right or wrong, you just have to try and test it to see what comes out of it.

Two things have been told over and over and I’ve felt like their meaning has been completely forgotten in the process.

Innocent until proven guilty is important but it doesn’t mean we have to jump on the accuser at second one and immediately calling them liars and god knows what else based on a hunch or what your guts or heart is whispering to your hear. Because it might mean something for you but it doesn’t mean shit for everyone else. And when you write things down on the Internet, you’re putting them out there in the world. You might as well write their in a public paper. It might be a small paper, but it is. And I think the I’m writing anything I want on my blog because it’s my blog shouldn’t excuse everything. Or allow everything. Use DMs. Go talk to someone in your living room. I don’t know. Just use the Internet a bit more wisely than a 14 years old or fucking Donald Trump.

Believe women is important but it doesn’t mean it’s open hunting season for every name coming out of every woman’s mouth. It’s doesn’t mean you have to harass every person more or less related to the said name for them to publicly trash their relative even if they are their mother, brother, son, best friend. In a general way, don’t harass people who are hurt, confused or going through something difficult.

Believe women is important for legal system. Believe woman is important because we need the cops to take complaint without trying to diminish women or what they’ve been true or saying you’re going to ruin a man's life. Believe women is important not to throw every man they want directly in jail. It’s important because it should mean believe women enough to open a decent investigation and for people in the legal system to actually do their fucking job. Believe women is certainly not here for you to use as an excuse to harass fans who just happened to fall in love with an movie and an actor.

So, like I said, I was very not vibing with any energy going on here and I guess I did what I think everybody non-concerned should have done : shut the fuck up. You don’t have to have an opinion, let alone express it, if you’re not part of the investigation team. And if you have a problem with the way an investigation or a case or justice is handle, I’m pretty sure there are plenty of organizations that could need help and I’m also pretty sure none of them is about insulting strangers on the Internet.

Talking a bit with a couple of people, I’ve come to a conclusion that I have a right to not have an opinion and that the right to not have an opinion is actually pretty important. None of the people involved in this thing has making me want to actually defend them in this specific case. And no, not saying anything is not taking side with the potential abuser, unless you’re George W. Bush or fucking Darth Vader, which, between us, aren’t people I want to be associated with. But you do you.

Like I don’t know any of the people involved, I’m not a witness of anything, I’m not a judge and lawyers don’t even have to have an opinion to do their jobs. Like fuck everybody who pressured anyone to defend an opinion, one way or another. How the fuck can you not see how dangerous it is to pressure someone to defend something based on nothing? Fuck this.

So does that mean I believe the allegations? No.

Does that mean i don’t believe the allegations? No.

A lot of bullshits have been said obviously, I can't vouch for how shady or not shady people are being close doors with no witness. So I won't try to do it.

Having enjoyed movies and interviews of an actor and loving him, don’t give me abilities or knowledge to judge something I have nothing to do with. Even more, even if I did believe some the allegations, or some of their were proven true by justice, it wouldn’t suddenly cancel anything i am/was thinking about Armie before. Because the world isn’t black or white and people are fucking complex. Good people can do bad things. Bad people can do good things. Bad and good are impossible to define in the first place, whether it’s for people or things. And this is not me justifying anything, it just means, for me when Anon says ‘I guess it just confuses me how they, who probably knew Armie more than I do can just walk away from this amazing being’ it doesn’t make sense to me.

Another thing about what Anon said:

‘in this time when fan support must mean more to him than ever.’

I so not agree with the statement. I've already defended my point of view in another situation about Timmy but the idea is the same. Fans really need to chill out regarding of how important they think they are, because they’re really not.

What do you think fan support did for Armie in this situation exactly, except keep the conversation going on when the best thing for him would have been the opposite and piss off the people who want to see him down enough for them to make more negative noise around him. Even without talking about this, I don’t imagine Armie, in the mental state that I think he was/is, in need to more noise coming from outside, from people who don’t know him, throwing not so healthy love at him without knowing what was really going on in his life.

For his sake, I hope the first he did was signing off Internet and that he doesn’t plan to come back before lots of therapy sessions.

A very private DM and supporting his career when/if he ever wants/can come back, that could be a healthy fan support. Insulting people around and screaming and state things you have no idea about as ultimate truth… maybe not so much?

About this :

‘And what happens now after he's proven not guilty? Because we know that it will happen and just waiting for the right time. Will they just come back to supporting him again publicly like nothing happened?’

If only it was this simple. I’m obviously not a law expert but many cases of sexual assault are just a fucking pain in this ass. In many cases, it’s just one version against the other without nothing else to judge the situation. Having nothing to prove that someone’s guilt doesn’t mean they’re not guilty. Having nothing to prove someone’s innocence doesn’t mean they’re not innocent.

So where could he go from there? I guess having another lawsuit so that the other side becomes the guilty one. Which means you have to be 100% sure of your win because being accused of something that goes nowhere then losing when you’re the one accusing would make you look even worse.

But let’s pretend that, in a few years, he has managed to pull himself out of everything and he’s somehow clean again. This is still being MILES away from working again and for fans to have anything to support. Look at how difficult it actually is for Johnny Depp, who is Johnny fucking Depp. Armie was nowhere near that kind of popularity or money maker. No studios would fight to hire him after that. He would be facing a major rebuilding image challenge and would need not only a really dedicated and competent team, but for himself to actually care about his image and be careful with it. And the last we can say is either one of this thing has never happened for Armie.

But let’s pretend all of that happens and it’s year 2029, and Armie has managed to come back and this is the moment I actually have to ask myself if I want to go back to publicly support him. Will I? I have no idea. I don’t know where I’ll be, if I’ll even be fandom active anywhere and if so, for which fandom. If the question is still relevant, I still don’t know the answer. It would depend a lot of what has happened since then and on Armie’s own behavior, even if he’s 100% proven innocent and everyone else has been jailed. Like I said in the beginning, there are quite a few things directly coming from him that I wasn’t very comfortable with and that won’t go away with a innocent verdict. There will be a lot to sort things out, between what will look like pr work to clean his image and what could be genuine. I can’t predict if I’ll ever be satisfy by what I’ll see. If I am, there will still be a lot to rebuild about my relationship to him.

Long story short, in the meantime, I’ve decided that it was ok to not have all the answers to things that are going to happen in 2029.

Does all of this mean I completely turn my back on him, don’t love him anymore, regret everything I’ve said or thrown away everything he did or that has happened before? Of course not. Firstly, because I’m physically and mentally and emotionally unable to stop loving someone. Sometimes I miss him. Sometimes I miss him a lot. Sometimes I’m pissed at him. Sometimes I’m frustrated. Sometimes I’m indifferent because that what I need the most right now and because where he is at the moment doesn’t concern me at all. Let him do whatever he needs to do to resolve his issue with his family, justice, his mental health and whatever else he needs to do.

During the last few months, I mostly thought about context, about people’s backgrounds, where they were coming from and why they were acting the way they were acting. Fans and people involved in different degrees and from different sides. I’m ok with some, including from people who has been demonized here. I’m not ok with others, or I haven’t found some yet, unless I admit it’s just plain stupidity. And I can deal with a lot of stuff but stupidity isn’t one of them.