"Clearly I wasn't talking about disabled people-" yeah part of the problem is that the existence of disabled people just isn't considered in your worldview like that's the problem we're criticizing not a get out of jail free card

No, that's not the problem. Not everything is relevant to disabled people, nor does it have to be.

Disabled people are the world's biggest minority group and a part of every other marginalized community. Thinking that you can do progressive activism without ever engaging with the subject of disability is in fact a problem

Sunshine makes one want to eat an olive. Curious

can we bring back the term "fair-weather friend" bc I feel like if fair-weather friends got called that more this whole argument about whether or not you should be there for your friends when it's inconvenient/at what point of personal inconvenience it's ok to bail on your friends would kinda fall apart bc like. we literally have a word for "friend who's only there when you don't need something from them" because the baseline expectation is that a friend should be there even when it sucks. like we used to make fun of people for bailing on their friends.