Village Girl with a bunch of Issues

One of the key things we teach at our Healing the Mother Wound program is how to set clear healthy boundaries. On my journey of healing my mother wound I realized just how important boundaries are and I can honesty say setting clear healthy boundaries saved my mother and I's relationship. Contrary to what we have been taught; rules and boundaries communicate Love and Safety. But it can be really difficult to practice this way of loving when all your life your thoughts and emotions have been disregarded by those older to you. It is however, very important to get to an understanding that when we are steadfast in honoring ourselves, by setting boundaries Our parents have no choice but to respect us and to trust our love and theirs. We are running another 7 day challenge on healing the mother wound- for sons. We have already started with Prep work.. for those interested in healing that part of themselves. The actual challenge starts the 29th. DM me so I can add you to the group. 💜 #heaing #themotherwound #mommyissues #menandmommyissues https://www.instagram.com/p/BwpgEnsB3c5/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=2kkcvtgufnem

The idea of black girls/women's photographs being art pieces in house holds around the world makes me so happy. Black bodies are so beautiful, it's insane. Anyways.. I'm so excited. Prior to my website launch I wanted to do something special for lovers of art. I'm selling this three beautiful babies of mine for a discounted price. It a give away really 😍😍😍. They are all A3 printed on Canvas. DM, call or email if interested. #ArtForSale #ArtBuyer #Artlover #nudephotography #photography #photographer #artbuyers #artbuyersandsellers #southafricanphotographer #photographsForSale #juliemillerinvestmentartinstitute #straussandco #byArt #byfromArtists #discount #giveaway #blackgirlsaremagic #melanin #melaninpoppin #melaninqueens #portraiture #portraits #nudes #red https://www.instagram.com/p/Bv1cefUh29O/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1cb7hs3xtc2qb

When an elderly woman was found dead in the mountains close to where we live. Rumors of witchcraft overshadowed her death. "O swanetše go be a dira tša bošego", they say. The man telling my father the news is a tall, slender man with a very wrinkled face- the kind of wrinkles men get from years of over drinking and not crying enough. His fingers are long , his finger nails dirty and ofcourse being a Pedi man he speaks in metaphors. So I turn my attention to what I was doing and wait for my father to report when the man leaves. This is a norm here, women who live longer than it makes the community comfortable are given the "Witch" label. My grandmother was thought to be witch, infact all the women in my village who outlived their husbands and maybe even their sons were "witches". As a child I too swallowed this lie. But I have come to realize that society is afraid of women, as young women there's an intense need to contain us, to dictate how we should carry ourselves. It's almost as though there's something within us women that is so powerful society isn't comfortable with us having the freedom to tap into it. I've also come to realize that older women have mostly run out of fucks to give 😅. At this stage they are uncontainable. There isn't much you can use to intimidate them. Most have found their voice and this is some scary shit for a patriarchal society. So they label you a #witch in hopes that you will shrink and wither away. Powerful woman = witch Imagine what they will call us!. Us feminist women of the 21 century who are finding our voices so young. Maybe they'll still label us "witch". I don't know about you but I'm looking forward to it. So here is a toast for the witches, dead and alive. Šatee! #photography #photographer #women #elderlywomen #woc #blackwomenstories #womanphotograph #villageliving #portraitphotography #portrait #portraiture #womenempowerment https://www.instagram.com/p/Btfjwl4hUtf/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1u0shis0qnqwr

"Maybe it is time we stop regarding victims of abuse as just victims but also potential abusers. In this way maybe, just maybe we can offer a safe space for abuse victims to not only release the pain associated with their trauma but also to recognise all the other toxic ways they learnt as defense mechanism or the norm during the abuse. Abuse is never the victims fault but the healing is definitely the victim’s RESPONSIBILITY ... taking the responsibility for ones healing is a very crucial stage…when the victim rejects the responsibilty to heal, they risk becoming the abuser or a bystander to abuse" Read more of this article, I wrote exploring the idea of personal healing as the only way to end all kind of abuse Find link in bio. Love and light 💜 #survivingRkelly #healingpersonaltrauma #endingabuse #healing #childhoodtrauma https://www.instagram.com/p/BsX3t0hBOUi/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=zosbrdgs8mlu

I feel I am called to change the narrative around how women relate to their bodies, themselves and other women. It is important to me that I hold up the mirror for women to see themselves and feel save enough to admit that all they have ever believed about themselves is not true. I have come to realize that the obstacle to women being empowered is not really the patriarchy outside of themselves but the internalized misogyny within. As within so is without. There's just so many lies that we have been taught about what being a woman means. So many standards and goal posts that keep shifting and leaving women feeling as though they do not belong or that they are not enough. Which in turn make us reject femininity and consequently all women. Which then leads stereotypes like "Women just don't like each other"... @thegoddesscollectivesa Is not a just a nude photoshoot campaign to help women heal their relationship with their bodies. It is a safe heaven for women to be seen, heard, heal their internalized misogyny and cultivate genuine sisterhood. I'm so excited for 2019 and all the work I'll be doing with the many amazing women. Very excited for the collaborations that will see us reaching more women. Also Very excited for the content I'll be creating. I am beyond grateful for 2018 and everything i manifesting. It was definitely a year of growth. @busiselesho a few weeks ago jokingly described me as 15 different people from when she met me in 2016 😅😅. I laugh but it is true. As women we have the capacity to change our lives, choose the direction we want to take with faith and confidence. This is why I birthed @thegoddesscollectivesa. For us Goddesses . 💜💜💜💜 https://www.instagram.com/p/BsAoZy3Bxvd/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=ck2dv9t82qaq

Soft habits. 😊 From the Goddess Collective photoshoot I did a few weeks ago. #TheGoddessCollective #weCelebrateWomen. #photography #YourfavouritePhotographer

"you are poetry. be #unapologetic in your steps, be unique in your process, write yourself as you please.” ~ @Iambrillyant #TheGoddessCollective #WeCelebrateWomen #devineFeminine

"You are #beautiful and loved by the #universe that made you, with every atom and star moving in perfect alignment to make you, you.” ~ #lainthomas #TheGoddessCollective #nude #nudePhotography #weCelebrateWomen #devineFeminine #yourFavouritePhotographer

Kgadikgolo, The Matriarch. #visualStorytelling #photography #kgadi #moshitadi

“I dislike it when you talk about all women as if they were fine ladies instead of rational creatures. None of us want to be in calm waters all our lives.” — Jane Austen Muse : @caseylehlomela #moshitadi #photography #melanetedgoddess #browngirlbeauty

“I dislike it when you talk about all women as if they were fine ladies instead of rational creatures. None of us want to be in calm waters all our lives.” — Jane Austen Muse : @caseylehlomela #moshitadi #photography #melanetedgoddess #browngirlbeauty

“I dislike it when you talk about all women as if they were fine ladies instead of rational creatures. None of us want to be in calm waters all our lives.” — Jane Austen Muse : @caseylehlomela #moshitadi #photography #melanetedgoddess #browngirlbeauty

I want to be beautiful the way worn out things are : Touched by time, and proud to be rough around the edges With a story to tell.

“Someone can be #madly in love with you and still not be ready. They can #love you in a way you have never been loved and still not #join you on the bridge. And whatever their #reasons you must leave. Because you never ever have to #inspire anyone to #meet you on the bridge. You never ever have to #convince someone to do the #work to be ready. There is more #extraordinary love, more love that you have never #seen, out here in this wide and wild #universe. And there is the love that will be #ready.” ~ Nayyirah Waheed #poetry #poem Photography : @bennierosevelt

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