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⏳ 24 HOURS IN DIAPERS

psychological evolution : The excitement of novelty dominates. Your brain releases dopamine, which reinforces the initial motivation. But you may experience physical discomfort from constant wear.

evolution of acceptance : You're still in the testing phase. Acceptance will depend on your ability to stay in your diaper without reflexively removing it.

strategy to implement :

Staying in diaper NON-STOP, without giving yourself the chance to remove it

Wear clothes that hide the diaper well (to avoid social anxiety)

Exercices :

Doing everyday tasks in a diaper to normalize the feeling (cooking, working, going out)

Look in the mirror and say to yourself: "I wear diapers, and that's normal, and it suits me fine."

Definitely sleep in diapers and get used to it.

⏳ 1 WEEK IN DIAPERS

psychological evolution : Your brain begins to associate diapers with your daily life. However, moments of doubt may arise. Social embarrassment can be intense.

evolution of acceptance : you still feel the urge to take it off and give it all up. But the diaper is becoming more and more natural !

strategy to implement :

systematize the wearing of diapers, put one on without thinking.

accept the sensations and focus on the benefits (safety, calm, excitement)

Exercices :

Wear a diaper under your clothes every time you go out in public to test your comfort.

Start training yourself to forget that you are wearing a diaper by focusing on something else.

Think about your diaper needs so you can try out several diapers and choose the one that suits you best (it's really important to have a diaper that you feel comfortable in).

⏳ 1 MONTH IN DIAPERS

Psychological evolution : Your brain adapts. Diapering becomes more natural, but there may be relapses or you may feel like giving up.

evolution of acceptance : shame decreases, but there may still be internal conflict over the social aspect.

Strategy to implent :

Normalize diapers in all situations (work, at friends' houses, at concerts (if you're a musician like me), when traveling, etc.)

Associating wearing a diaper with something positive

Realize that you are capable and that it's just a matter of habit

Exercises :

Stay in diapers even in uncomfortable situations (family meals, concerts, with loved ones, everywhere in fact)

Write down the benefits you get from your practice and when in doubt, connect what you have written.

⏳ 3 MONTHS IN DIAPERS

Psychological evolution : Diapers are part of your daily life, and the habit is ingrained. There are still adjustments to be made for social management.

Evolution of acceptance : you accept it more and more, but some social situations can still be delicate.

Strategy to implent :

Reduce the importance you give to the opinions of others.

Be prepared to respond if there is a comment.

Exercices :

Go on long outings (like hikes) without thinking about your diaper.

Wear a diaper more visibly with close friends, to see their reactions... If he asks you questions, just say you need one...

⏳ 6 MONTHS IN DIAPERS

psychological evolution : you hardly think about your diaper anymore.

evolution of acceptance : you feel from me within me the need to justify yourself internally.

Strategy to implent :

Plan long-term change routines

Prepare to make your final commitment.

Exercices :

If possible, go on a trip far from home in a diaper.

Write out a contract by hand and sign it, stating why you want to make wearing diapers mandatory from now on and that you are definitely committed to this.

Get rid of your old underwear, you won't need it anymore.

⏳ 1 YEAR IN DIAPERS

Psychological evolution : the diaper has become your reality. Psychological relapses are rare.

Evolution of acceptance : you no longer feel the need to ask yourself questions and you largely accept that diapers are your new reality permanently forever.

Strategy to implent :

You can change your wardrobe to optimize comfort and discretion!

Exercices :

Observe your evolution from the beginning and be proud of you

Test new situations to see if you are still comfortable

Learn to fully appreciate this habit

⏳ 5 YEARS IN DIAPERS

Psychological evolution : wearing diapers has become an automatic reflex. Your brain no longer has any resistance.You don't remember what it's like to not be in a diaper.

The evolution of acceptance : it's totally integrated into your identity.

╔═ . ☾ . ══════════════════ Hey there little one! I think it might be bath time, don't you?

Thank you so much for your last response regarding poopy diapers and helping embarrassed littles feeling shameful especially for genuine accidents.

Another question I have, and again if this is too personal for public posts (or if it’s just something you don’t want to answer for Riley’s privacy) that’s totally fine! I’m wondering if Riley likes to be changed right away after making a stinky diaper or if he ever wants to stay in it? The same little I mentioned in my last post, sometimes he wants an immediate change (especially if it happens in public or if he’s feeling embarrassed/icky) but other times he wants to stay in his diaper for a while before we get him changed.

I’m always torn by this because in one aspect, I know it’s common for many littles to want to enjoy being in a full diaper because it makes them feel extra small and vulnerable. But at the same time, it’s not good for his skin for him to sit in a full diaper for very long and the resulting diaper rashes make him uncomfortable and itchy which often leads to a fussy couple of days.

I’m torn between wanting to respect his agency and let him make a decision to enjoy feeling small in his dirty diaper for a little while if that’s what he wants, and also wanting to step in as a adult who is thinking more about the long term consequences than he is in that moment. I don’t want to overstep and at the same time it’s my job to keep his whole body safe.

We’ve had talks about this when he’s feeling big but that happens less and less as time goes on tbh and sometimes I worry that he overestimates his ability to make safe decisions for himself when he’s feeling small and vulnerable. And then in combination with his difficult autism days/meltdowns etc which adds an extra layer to everything.

But then again, it’s his body and if he wants to risk a diaper rash then who am I to stop him? 😂😂 sorry for the ramble, do you have any thoughts?

Honestly these questions are very much at the heart of what we want to support the community with. But you're always welcome to send a DM. More Daddy friends!

I totally hear you and understand where you're coming from. For me it firstly comes down to dynamics, whats in your rules about this and then discuss together.

My take for Riley and our dynamic, we function like Daddy and Child, in that I make the decisions, set the boundaries and the expectations. He makes the mess and I clean it up!

Here's the balance, yes we want our kiddos to be happy and safe,but we also want them to explore those needs. But those come in different varieties!

For example my little one loves sweets and crisps, but he can't eat sweets all day because it's not good for him. As is our dynamic and in that way any loving parent would, I limit them.

Yes there are sometimes tantrums, but that's why I practice gentle parenting, I help guide him to being in a more regulated state.

So poopy diapers in public - he's probably always going to want a quick change like mine. But back home that's different.

As long as you use proper rash cream and Powder, 20-30 minutes of wearing a dirty nappy will be fine. As his parent you need to discuss with him first, out of little space the concern and the expectation. Then agree the way forward, remembering to reward him afterwards.

I hear this idea about littles feeling the most little and vulnerable whilst messy, let me permit you a different Idea.

Next time you are together, turn the lights low around 630, pull curtains/blinds, turn lights down low.

Go run him a bath, come back and watch a cartoon for 20 minutes, holding him close, stroke his hair, telling how much you love and care for him.

At 7pm take him upstairs, slowly undress him, explaining everything that's happening. Then give him a bath.

I lift Harley in and out of the bath, which aids the next part. Wrap them in a towel, if you can, carry them your bed, if you can't don't worry as long as the next part happens on your bed- it's an important part of this process. Make sure the lights are low.

Dry him and then place another towel under him, bigger the better, then tube baby lotion all over, giving him a nice massage. If he's anything like mine he will be a visibly happy mess.

Cuddle with back rubs, bum pats, kisses and pet names until you talc him, put his rash cream, nappy and jammies.

Then.

Curl up on the sofa with a warm bottle and a movie!

Trust me he won't care so much about his messy bottom - he will want that 10 times a day!

Plus the skin care and airing his bottom will help with rashes.

If he does get a rash, get anti fungal cream, it's the bees knees in bum rash repair!

We honestly want to help and sounds like you're a new Daddy with lots of questions, so keep them coming and don't be afraid to send us a DM.

But my best advice is for you both to sit down and ask what it is that you both want from this, then work to make it happen.

Have a wonderful day

Not sure if this makes sense. I ask because one of the littles I sometimes care for also has partial incontinence related to autism and he has gotten very ashamed and embarrassed at times of letting himself have fun by acting little/silly when he goes poopy. I’ve tried to encourage him that it’s okay and doesn’t mean he’s doing anything wrong but I know it’s something he struggles with. Especially if it happens in public! We practice discreetness of course and never risk violating consent of others, but it’s also a very legitimate medical need he has like you mentioned on one of your last posts. And I think it’s okay to be discreet and respectful but also to let himself feel a bit small to help overcome the shame and embarrassment of a stinky diaper!

What are your thoughts?

That's a great question, I think first of all we have to separate the 2

The little experience

The incontinent experience

Both are valid experiences from our community.

First up is helping our little ones know that we aren't angry when they have an accident. I find quiet soft tones during a messy bum change essential, along with lot's of reassurance that this happens to lots of boys and girls' "their age".

At the end I would offer to buy them a toy. This does 2 things, reassures them that you still love them. And it playfully reinforces the "childlikeness" of accident and that it's ok.

Lots of talking about how they feel, how it makes them feel. Just tell them that you're very proud of them for using their Diaper like a good boy.

As for Riley, he tends to try and run and hide before the eventual, stop, drop and potty.

When it's a genuine accident but we are using little "features" like pet names and cute voices to overcome their embarrassment; I don't see anything wrong and this doesn't break a boundary - we are just being reassuring in a safe way.

Before we go out I make sure I know exactly where the facilities are in case he needs changing, we head straight there. Get it done and move on.

Personally I would pull him up on your lap hold him close and let know how loved he is. Then talk to him, he's probably got a number of nightmare stories.

Remind him that whilst how he feels is valid, these experiences are in the past. But you will always make sure he's safe and protected with you.

The most important thing to remember, is that to these little ones we are their entire world. They will often project all their missed feelings and experiences from their dads on us. Essentially asking us to fill the void left behind by their biological fathers.

And as a Daddy I know that there are many men who "play pretend" at being a Dad, and fail miserably. That's where we come in, we are called to do more than change diapers.

We are called to hold hands and hearts, to provide safety and structure and to lift their beautiful little faces up so that the whole world can see how bloody marvellous these little creatures are!

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Every little one has their special Bear, the one if they could, they would take everywhere, and quite often do!

Of all the Teddy's I've bought Baby, the first remains his favourite. There's nothing particularly special about him, I bought him from the Range, but it was Baby's first Bear from Daddy.

So he's very special!

He's very cute!

He loves that bear so much

I find myself often drifting watching him with his bear. The love that I watch him pour into it oddly calms and soothes me, as if he just resets my frazzled nervous system.

I wish I could describe the wholesome, warm feelings it inspires in me, yet words don't truly describe it!

Being a Daddy to a little boy means I'm Daddy to his favourite Bear, his fluffy, padded best friend. They've shared many adventures, he's been cried on, coughed over, drooled into.

He smells of baby powder, wee and drool; regularly in need of a Bath! Because just like his little boy companion, he's stiiiinnnnnkkkkkyyyyy!

And washing him is a major drama, I've got to get him washed and dried before he misses him. Not having him will cause a meltdown, its difficult enough with the change of smell.

Not having his favourite comfort item would be catastrophic! He's his confidant, and has a deeply calming presence, like all stuffies!

As you may be aware I'm a Witch, so I know Magick, and I know Magick Bears! And that Bear is very Magickal!

Whether it's a movie, dinner with nanny, changing time, bed time, play time, basically anytime, he's there with his bear!

Littles and stuffies go together nappies and wee wees! There's an undeniable bond between baby and their favourite stuffie/bear!

So if you aren't already give your little stuffie a big huggle! Get comfy and snuggle!

Many partners new to Diaper Discipline struggle to increase their involvement, the below list is designed to provide ideas and inspiration for you to implement in daily life.

You don't need to do all of these every day but try incorporating 2-4 elements a day and work up in terms of frequency and progressing from Beginner items to Intermediate & Advanced.

Beginner

Make an effort to talk about their diapers. Casually ask things like:‍

“How’s your diaper holding up?” “Your waistband is showing baby” “Do you need to change?” “Those jeans hide your diaper well” “These diapers look cute on you” “Do you need to order more diapers soon?” ‍

Let them know you expect them to use their diaper, by saying things like:

- “This diaper should hold all of your wee’s and poops” when changing them into a fresh diaper - “Remember you’re not allowed to use the toilet today” - “Did you wet your diaper like a good boy/girl?”  - “Good boy/girl for messing your diaper.“ - “Did you poop today or do you need something to help tonight?” ‍

Make an effort to interact with their diaper. Squeeze it, pat/smack their bottom when padded, rub the front of it to get them excited, and when hugging place a hand on their diapered bum, etc. ‍

Implement simple Baby elements:

- Call them your baby boy/girl, etc - Dress them in baby-style (AB) clothes at night  - Give them a bedtime drink in a sippy cup or baby bottle - Have them use a adult pacifier at night ‍

Each morning check their diaper, this can be done in bed by just squeezing the front of it. ‍

It will likely be wet so comment on that by saying something like “I’m glad you had a diaper on or you’d have wet the bed” or “You really are turning into a bedwetter aren’t you” ‍

After their morning shower either change them into a fresh diaper if you’re up, or if you're still in bed, get them to come over and drop their trousers / lift skirt so you can check they're wearing one. ‍‍

Each evening lay out a thick diaper and ABDL bedtime clothing and tell them to go get ready for bed. This should be a few hours before you actually go to bed. ‍

Before leaving the house make them drop their trousers / lift skirt so you can check they're wearing a diaper. For day trips, also ask them if they've got their diaper bag packed. ‍

Once or twice a week force them to mess themselves by giving them either 2x Ducolax tablets or a suppository which they must take/insert. ‍

When not wearing diapers, make them wear pull-ups, training pants, girly underwear (if male), or childish patterned pants. 

When at home and not working dress them in embarrassing clothing, good options include:

- No bottoms / exposed diapers - ABDL onesie / romper - A skirt (male or female) - ABDL shortalls or dress - Childish 2-piece PJs - Footed sleeper

Experiment with light bondage:

- Add a locking diaper cover over their diapers - Restrain them to a bed for 2 hours after making them insert a suppository - Chain them to their desk using locking ankle cuffs or diaper cover - Use other locking clothing to prevent diaper access (e.g. rear zipping footed sleepers)

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Intermediate

In public, ask them about their diaper or do a subtle diaper check (squeeze front/back) when nobody will hear or see.

Add more elements of babying:

- Feed them a bottle of milk each night - Make them sleep with a teddy - Talk to them like a baby during diaper checks and changes - Make them use a pacifier in the daytime

Encourage them to mess in their diaper for convenience. For example, if heading out for the day ask them to fill their diaper before leaving so they won’t mess in public.

If you notice their wet diaper is starting to smell take them by the hand, lay them down, and change their diaper. Don’t ask if they need one or make it a choice. ‍

Surprise them by buying new ABDL items (clothing, diapers, pacifiers, etc)

Punish any bad behavior by making their diaper experience less pleasant:

- Smack them until crying before changing them into a new diaper - Add elements of forced regression such as locking mittens, pacifier gag, restraints  - Make them stay in messy diapers for extended periods - Feed them a blended or cut-up version of their meal. Use a bib and mittens to force them to let you feed them. - Treat him as a sissy/girl with pink diapers and female clothing or baby girl AB items.

Twice a week, force them to mess themselves. Insert a suppository into their bum (wear disposal gloves) or use a fleet-enema (no gloves required) during a change.

Make them ask you for permission to get changed and use the opportunity to inspect their diaper. If it doesn’t look full, make them wait 1-2 hours longer.

Get them ready for bed each evening by changing them into thick diapers and dressing them in ABDL clothes.

At home only allow thick or ABDL diapers to be worn.

Take them shopping while diapered to buy new medical diapers, pull-ups, feminine/childish underwear/clothing, and other baby supplies (powder, baby food, etc)‍

Make their diapered / baby status obvious around your home when visitors aren’t present:

- Have a dedicated changing area with diapers stacked up clearly - Keep a pacifier next to their bed - Have a few ready-made bottles in the fridge - Hang up their ABDL clothes so they’re easily accessible ‍

Make them wear a swim diaper on vacation (at the beach/pool)

If they're male, experiment with treating him as a sissy/girl some days:

- Pink / girl-themed diapers - Feminine ABDL clothing (onesies, rompers, etc) - Women’s clothing (dresses, skirts, leggings) - Butt plugs - Chastity

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Experiment with more bondage:

- Use locking mittens at night - Restrain them to a bed overnight after giving them 2x ducolax tablets - Add ankle and chest restraints to their office chair to prevent movement while working from home - Use a pacifier gag regularly

Advanced

Change their diaper while out in public. ‍

Look for a changing places toilet (Europe) or a standard accessible restroom can be used by bringing a disposal changing mat for the floor. You can also change them laying down over the back seats of your vehicle if in a secluded area.

Increase Babying:

- Create a baby bed for them, ideally a single bed with childish sheets, teddies, and restraints to simulate being locked in a crib. This can be used for naps or overnight punishments. - Regularly feed them a blended or cut-up version of their meal. Use a bib and mittens to force them to let you feed them. - Make them wear mittens to bed each night  - Force them to crawl by using training booties (small spikes prevent standing) - Pacifier must be attached to them at all times while at home - Setup a playpen which they must stay in for extended periods (even if still doing more adult activities like being on a phone or gaming)

Force them to mess themselves in front of you.

Administer a suppository or fleet enema but make them stay laying or sitting next to you. Encourage and then tease them for messing themselves like a baby.

Occasionally change them out of their messy diapers. Disposal gloves and adult wipes are recommended.

Force them to mess themselves while out of the house:

- Hand them a suppository to go and insert after finishing a meal at a restaurant. They'll have to try to hold until you’ve got the bill and left. - On long drives make them insert a suppository when you’re still 1-2 hours away from your home/destination - Administer a suppository or fleet enema before sending them to go shopping or other out-of-home chores.

Incorporate bondage into their forced babying by:

- Use locking diaper covers, plastic pants, or onesies to prevent self-changing - Attach hands and feet to restraints during changes - Restrain them overnight - Use a straightjacket 

Take them shopping to buy supplies from an ABDL shop 

If male, treat him as a sissy most or all of the time at home:

- Pink / girl-themed diapers - Feminine ABDL clothing (onesies, rompers, etc) - Women’s clothing (dresses, skirts, leggings) - Chastity cage - Pegging

Dress them as a baby most or all of the time at home:

- Exposed diapers & babyish t-shirts  - Baby-themed onesies (not plain) - Baby dresses/rompers - Baby-style socks & tights - No adult clothes (if working from home, adult clothes can be worn on top but the lower half should still be babyish)

Force them to lose control by adding laxatives without their knowledge to some meals and drinks (have prior consent to do this).

Restrict their diaper changes to certain times ensuring they’ll sometimes have to wait a few hours to change out of well-used diapers.

Switch to thick or ABDL diapers exclusively, making them less discrete in public.

Increase use of bondage:

I get asked a lot about how much it costs to keep Riley in full time ABDL Nappies, a lot but not as much as you think.

To be honest if we only used ABDL Nappies then it would cost around £300+ a month. We actually don't.

We use a combination of ABDL, medical and cloth. This keeps the cost down to somewhere around £200-£250 a month, that's just nappies!

Food, formula, nappies, toys and clothes it all gets expensive!

But it absolutely doesn't have too!

My top 10 tips to be an amazing little on a budget!

10. January sales, summer sales, black Friday deals, are literally your besties! Why buy at full price, milk that sale like you milk that bottle!

9. Buy Preloved toys, books and stuffies. I'm a massive recycler. We shop at a pre loved toy shop, charity shops, pound land - I'm a single Dad and I don't get Tax credits for having a little - poo poo government!

8. ABDL Nappies are glamorous, cute, and expensive! Especially for something that's about to wee wee'd and poo poo'd! Do not believe the hype, 6000ml may be epic, a nappy is a nappy, provided it does the job. Get pens and decorate those little soakers! Make your own unique nappies!

7. Make your own T-shirts, tie dye, get paint pens. Invest in a cheep screen printer. Get patches and sew them onto jeans, joggers and dungarees. I buy all Riley's dungarees from Amazon - £20.is a bargain! Buy kids t-shirts and cut out the logo/image etc, and stitch it on our use iron hemm to stick it.

6. Shop around, don't just reach for the onsie, look around for cute Dino t-shirts, create a signature look. Don't copy the influencer, have the confidence of a toddler in a Paw Patrol t shirt!!

5. Invest in different Cloth nappies, not for everyone I know. But a fluffy bottom is a cute bottom. Check out different types! There's lots to dive into. 1 nappy could cost up to £50, look after properly and it will last you years

4. Learn how to be creative with play, build blanky forts, turn old boxes into awesome creations. Tie a blanket around your neck and turn it into a cape, now fly around your living room like superbaby.

3. Colouring books, pens, crayons and paper are relatively cheap activities that will keep any entertained without breaking the bank.

2. Go on adventures, collect the things you find, make scrap books of all your "expeditions. Do cute and fun things, let your creativity fly.

1. You don't need anything to be a baby, it's a feeling inside you, put your thumb in your mouth, rock and forth and grab your toes. Gently rock yourself into little space.

Being a little doesn't have to be expensive to be fun!

Think outside the box!

Better yet, go sit in the box and pretend it's a space shop!

All littles especially our neuro divergent ones need quiet time, in truth, we all need quiet time. A time to sit, to relax and to reset our central nervous system.

Quiet time is sacred ground for me, that is it's special, it's uninterrupted, and adult creeps in.

Little man has nursery rhymes and a projector star lamp going all night to help him sleep. This is part of how we manage quiet time for him!

However this post is not about him, but about me, more to the point all the Mummies, Daddies and CG out there!

Quiet time is Sacred ground for us too, right now I'm writing this whilst having my morning bath. Many of my posts are written in the moment. Moments such as these!

I'm enjoying 20 minutes in a steaming hot bubble bath, yeah I'm using Thomas and friends bubble bath, it smells like apples 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

And I'm using this post to reflect, which is something as parents we need to get really good at. Right now I'm reflecting on the quality of my own self care and how my self neglect could become neglect of my little one if I'm too burnt out!

That's a part of our opportunity to rest, reflect on what we've done well and what we can do better. This alone allows us to understand the good job we are doing- this week reset our central nervous system,by recognising what stresses we are holding on to!

Rest

Reflect

Recognise

Reset

Jobs a done!

And little ones you can do this too! Grab your stuffie, blanky and dummy, get comfy then follow those steps!

Everyone remember to breathe as you do this, in through the nose out through the mouth, just allowing yourself to become more and more relaxed. Safely contained within a protective bubble of warmth and self love ❤️

Try this and believe me you will be smiling!

However reflection and recognising is not an opportunity to beat yourself up!

From now on, every time you put yourself down you say 3 things that you love and appreciate about yourself!

And if like me you are doing this in the bath, complete with visualising washing away all negativity and self doubt!

That's how you turn 20 minutes into a Spar day 🤣

Grab those minutes whilst you can parents!

When I was a little boy I used to have this fantasy of being in an ABDL nappy advent saying X brand was our family brand. Just the same as certain families trust certain baby nappy brands.

And as a Daddy it's hard to say I would choose this brand over another, and the reason why. We've tried them all!

We had huge issues with ABU and Tykables tapes not sticking about a year or so ago. And then there's cloth my personal favourite type of Nappy.

So how or what would I choose?

Kiddo by Diaper Minister, I can't thank them enough for making an incredible Nappy!

Not only are the designs super cute, they absorb quickly, and definitely keep my little one dryer, even if his bladder can't!

And boy does that boy love those nappies! His favourites are teddy Ultra 2 tape and premium nights.

I love the Owl Night, Sea friends ( the beach trip!) and Junior plus - the plastic, I can't keep my hands off his bottom!

And their clothes are off the hook! Just bought our first jogging suit from there - I love joggers and jogging suits on Riley, total toddler vibes!

Can't wait to put them on him on Christmas day for dinner with Nanny! He's going to look gorgeous!

As a Daddy of a little boy with Autism, sensory issues create a real challenge for us. But Diaper minister's nappies and clothes are perfect, soft and no annoying seams or stitching.

Honestly such an amazing company!

Check them out!!

I've recently sent them an email thanking them, because honestly having a special needs Kiddo means I need nappies we can depend on. And they've not let me down yet!

The funniest things get sent to me!

I just received a message from a Daddy, I'm not going to name names or anything but I will share the synopsis.

"you talk big, but you're not very strict with your kiddo". He then went on to lecture me about how being a "gentle parent" makes me so much less of a Dom!

My response

Your baby is still running around in big boy clothes and have to "force" your little to be little.

Where as my little boy dresses like a toddler 24/7. Wear things like his Thomas jumper and doesn't give a flying F***. Sorry kiddos!

The lesson here is simple!

Being a "Dom" is about energy and presence,. and it looks different to different people!

Oh and come for my little boy and I will wipe the very floor underneath my feet with you- that's quite dominant, isn't it?

Gentle parenting helped shape this little boy!