the one piece is real ⭐

Anyone else remember having their parents try to teach you Emotional Regulation Skills way too early and only understanding in hindsight how fucking nuts it is to try to do what they were doing to a kid. Like having your mom tell you "you're the only one who's in charge of your feelings :) nobody can MAKE you feel bad unless you let them :)" but at the same time you'd get scolded for making someone else feel bad by being rude or acting out, so in practice you're both in charge of your own feelings but also everyone else's feelings, and that didn't feel fair, but you had no idea how to put that into words because you're five.

it only occurred to me years later, but if "you control your emotions" and "you choose how to feel" then every time my parents got angry at me it was because they chose to be angry, which doesnt seem like the kind of thing you want to be teaching your kid

Misogynists love to point out that women are the ones who file for divorce 70% of the time and paint this as proof that women are flighty and disloyal when in all actuality it is because straight dudes are too lazy and selfish to do it. They’d rather be miserable and live in a domestic double hostage situation for the rest of their life than possibly have to sell their boat in the divorce and wash their own underwear in their divorced dad apartment.

It applies also in relationships in general. Some dudes prefer to stay in a miserable relationship that doesn't give them joy instead of "having to look for a girlfriend all over again"

I have never understood the interest in reaction videos. this is because I care for no one's opinion but mine. I understand wanting a reaction from the people you know but this stranger?