4 Tips on How To Love Yourself

I just wanted to take some some time to give you guys some tips on how to love yourself a little better than yesterday <3 I hope you enjoy :)

1. Wear What Makes You Feel Good

It’s important to do things for yourself everyday !! That includes wearing the things you love that make you feel beautiful. Whether it’s crop tops or full length dresses; Maybe it’s leggings and an oversized shirt or it’s bright/dark colors !! For me I enjoy less (even with my new scars as of recent idc because an accident shouldn’t change what I like), and absolutely nobody should be able to tell me otherwise. I like showing my tummy & my cleavage I like being able to look in a mirror and think “you look great dude”. And whatever you like to wear should make you feel the same !! I still have to listen to comments from people (especially Grandma, still love her though <3) at times but that’s just how they like their body to be dressed. It shouldn’t matter what anyone else thinks when it comes to your happiness :))

2. Wear Less Makeup & Take Better Care of Your Skin <3

When I was in my teens, I used to wake up early as hell and put makeup on every single day (5:30am Sharp). I was convinced that was the only thing that made me look put together. My skin was unhappy with me, lots of breakouts on my forehead and nose (which really just made my makeup look worse). And every time I took my makeup off it was like they were yelling hey to me, it was all I noticed. When I went to college I just got tired and stopped putting in the effort to put on a full face everyday. I washed my face every night like I always should’ve done & now I don’t wear makeup more than 5 times a month (feels so weird to say that even all this time later). But I look in the mirror and I love what I see, minimal breakouts &soft skin. I get excited to wash and moisturize my face at night !! You just gotta take care of the things you care about <3

3. Replace Negative Thoughts with Positive

Now this one may seem impossible but I promise it’s do-able. I’ve been working on this with my therapist as of recent and she explained to me that my negative thoughts are just these panicky unreasonable thoughts that my mind is just using to hurt and give up on me. And when I think of them that way I just take a deep breath when they run through my head and tell myself “no that’s not true that’s just ridiculous I’m….” and whatever corrective thought that needs to follow. For example, I’ve had a thought that since my body is marked up, people will take one look at me and assume that I’m this damaged thing and different & no longer want anything to do with me. But I know that it’s just myself overthinking and I remind myself I didn’t do this to myself and a couple scars isn’t enough to render someone as “useless”. Whenever negative thoughts are taking over. Just breathe and reassess those unreasonable negative thoughts.

4. Making Space for Yourself Each Day

I am not so good at this when I have a lot to manage and I know everyone is busy at times; But when you make time for yourself to take care or spend time doing things you love, you feel better. You think to yourself “See, I did that for me and it made me feel great”. I love having “me” days where I can clean, draw/color, paint my nails, and listen to what feels like every song on the planet !! :,) You may enjoy different things. I have friends who like to write poetry, take photos, have photos taken, take long baths, spend time outdoors, travel, watch Netflix all day & eat their heart out while doing it, and honestly everything in between !! Investing in yourself is the most worthwhile thing you can do when trying to figure out how to love yourself. You will pick up on things you’re good at and look in the mirror and smile knowing you accomplished things that made you feel good !!