2. Your past relationship

3. Your current relationship

4. Your best friend

5. Your worst friend

6. Your parents

7. Your siblings

8. Your pets

9. Your dreams

10. Your day dreams

11. Your sleeping patterns

12. Your eating habits

13. Your hobbies

14. Your hopes

15. Your fears

16. Your confidence

17. Your anxieties

18. Your greatest adventure

19. Your worst mistake

20. Your emotions

21. Your thoughts

22. Your physical ills

23. Your eyes

24. Your ears

25. Your taste

26. Your bad habits

27. Your good habits

28. Your music

29. Your writing

30. Your philosphies

31. Your sexuality

32. Your likes

33. Your dislikes

35. Your fetishes

36. Your turn-offs

37. Your first sexual experience

38. Your last sexual experience

39. Your fantasties

40. Your favourite games

41. Your favourite books

42. Your favourite play

43. Your personality

44. Your quirks

45. Your sameness

46. Your depression

47. Your happiness

48. Your role model/inspiration

49. Your flexibility

– Brianna Albers

“Flesh is heretic. / My body is a witch. / I am burning it.”

– Eavan Boland

“I think I was the tough girl for too long. My body is a wafer, a thin, soft melt on a choir boy’s tongue”

– Jeanann Verlee

“I hit upon the art of thinking away my body, my being, mind itself. To think away thought-luxurious suicide, delicious dissolution!”

– Vladimir Nabokov

“Naiad: cut your body into turquoise pieces, they will bloom resurrected in the kitchen.”

– Pablo Neruda

“I do not care for the body, I love the timid soul, the blushing, shrinking soul…”

– Emily Dickinson

“I inhabit the wax image of myself, a doll’s body. Sickness begins here; I am a dartboard for witches.”

– Sylvia Plath

“Her body is one long sigh.”

– Warsan Shire

“All I ever really want to know is how other people are making it through life—where do they put their body, hour by hour, and how do they cope inside of it.”

– Miranda July

“Suddenly I realize / That if I stepped out of my body I would break / Into blossom.”

– James Wright

“I feel the November of the body as well as of the calendar.”

– Anne Sexton

“My body passes vagrant as a bird’s shadow. I should be transient as the shadow on the meadow, soon fading, soon darkening and dying.”

Minor: *makes bdsm account on social media, explicitly sexual or otherwise, typically age 14-16, openly says age on profile*

Adult: hey, cut that out. It’s not legal and you’re putting yourself at risk and others.

Minor: STOP BEING MEAN TO ME !!!!!

🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

Do you know how many asshole “Doms” would JUMP at the fact they they can lure the girl into sending them nudes or have inappropriate conversations with them?

Underage girls are sexualized and forced to mature so much faster in today’s day and age as it is. 👏protect underage girls and KEEP THEM OUT OF KINK, FETISH, AND BDSM UNTIL THEYRE LEGAL ADULT AGE! 👏

As someone who was taken advantage of online when I was a teenager, I wish to GOD someone stepped in and kept the creeps away from me who always asked me for nudes and attempted numerous times into having activities with me that were COMPLETELY inappropriate, KNOWING I was a teenager girl and in no way shape or form legal (explicit sexual fantasies, inserting me into their fetish wet dream cover email, tryinglk me into masturbating, trying to get me strip down in camera over Skype, etc).

•buy toys/dolls/crayons •play with Legos •play old videogames/dress up games •weave friendship bracelets •watch cartoons •use stickers •draw pics of your favorite characters

If it makes you feel nice, do it. Don’t even worry about what other people think, because it doesn’t matter–if it brings you happiness, it’s not “ridiculous”, or “immature”.

“Growing up doesn’t mean you can’t have Zebra Cakes. Growing up simply means that, if you want to have Zebra Cakes, you buy them for yourself.”

“What the hell are you talking about, Bear?” Well, let me explain. For those of you who live outside of the US, this is a Zebra Cake:

It’s a little pre-packaged snack cake that is horribly cheap and junky and really not that great, but it is like manna from heaven to me. I fucking love these things. When I was a little kid growing up, my mom bought Zebra Cakes but once in a blue moon. They were intended to be put in mine and my siblings’ school lunches, but my brother and I would eat them whenever we wanted, so Mom just didn’t see the point. (They also used to be kind of expensive, at least for our family’s budget.) Needless to say, the coveted Zebra Cakes were a luxury for me, and were one of the tastes of my childhood.

Fast forward to my college years. I was living in an apartment with three other people, doing my own shopping and cooking. I was in the grocery store, picking up some stuff, and I happened to walk past a display of snack cakes. Among them were several boxes of Zebra Cakes.

I paused at this, chuckling to myself. Oh man. Zebra Cakes. I haven’t had those in years. I loved those when I was a kid. I reminisced happily and thought about how much I missed the taste of Zebra Cakes, then started to walk away.

And then I stopped dead.

Because I had realized that there was literally nothing stopping me from buying a box of Zebra Cakes. There was nothing stopping me from buying ten boxes of Zebra Cakes. If I wanted Zebra Cakes, I could have goddamn Zebra Cakes, because it was my money and my decision to make.

I put two boxes in my cart (they were 2 for $5) and never looked back.

Here’s the secret I learned that day: The idea of something being “just for kids” is, by and large, bullshit. What you do on your own adult free time with your own adult money is, by its very nature, adult stuff. It’s like comedian Eddie Izzard (who frequently performed his routines in drag) once said when someone asked about him wearing ‘women’s clothes’: “They’re not women’s clothes. They’re my clothes. I bought them.”

I am 25 years old, and yesterday I bought myself a shark lunchbox. Look at it. Look at how awesome my lunchbox is.

Was this lunchbox intended to by bought for and used by a child? Yes. The tag said it was for ages 3 and up. But it was bought by and will be used by an adult, and anyone who thinks that’s wrong is probably just jealous that they don’t have the self-confidence to rock a shark lunchbox at 25.

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sleep deprivation due to early school start times

the economy

oppression

high tensions between different political/social/racial/etc groups

technology/social media means constant updates on bad news

politics, made worse by the aforementioned constant updates

the state of the environment

education as it is right now not preparing us sufficiently for the outside world

pressure to grow up very quickly

parenting/teaching/etc trends in the previous generation(s)

competitiveness in schools, social media and other aspects of life

the world in general that the last few generations have constructed for us

NOT reasons my generation is so depressed:

Ok, repeat after me:

Only 20% of people with a vagina will EVER orgasm without clitoral stimulation.  The other 80% require more than vaginal penetration, usually clitoral stimulation, in order to achieve orgasm.

It is a classic story: vaginal penetration feels good, then like nothing much, then uncomfortable.  What you need, if you’d like to keep having penetrative sex, is simultaneous clitoral stimulation!

Again, let me repeat: this is NORMAL.  This is how your body is built.  If you’re not aroused, your tissue is much more fragile.  During arousal there are a bunch of changes in the vaginal canal to make it better equipped to enjoy penetration (including lengthening, swelling, lubrication, etc).  But if you stop enjoying it (maybe you just get bored, or maybe you’re frustrated that you’re not orgasming) then your arousal fades, and your vagina stops enjoying the sensations.  It TOTALLY makes sense that you have pain and frustration after 20 minutes of penetration without great sensation or arousal.  

If you don’t want to keep having penetrative sex, you can just call it off all together.  If you want to try to have orgasms during penetration, here are some ideas:

You or your partner(s) can use fingers to stimulate your clit during penetration.

You can use a vibrator.  It can be small or large, strong or not - just something to add a little zing.

Have sex with multiple people - one of whom is going down on you at the same time that another person is penetrating you.

Here are some vibrators designed for clitoral stimulation during penetration (and remember there are a zillion different types - going to a local sex toy store & fiddling around is the best way to find the right one for you):

If the person you’re having penetrative sex with is using a penis or dildo, you can get a vibrating ring to put at the base of their penis/dildo so that when they are deep in you, the ring presses on your clitoris.

A finger vibrator is a vibrator that you stick onto one finger.  It’s small and easy to hold in the right place during penetration.

There are some internal vibrators that are designed to be used during penetration, such as the We-Vibe.  One half of the U-shaped vibrator goes inside the vaginal canal & the other goes outside, and then a partner can penetrate at the same time.

The JimmyJane Form 2 and the Crave are both *very* strong vibrators that can usually fit between two bodies joined at the genitals.

The Eva is theoretically hands-free.

Yo… so I’ve been sitting on this dumb ask… cause like… I couldn’t believe it… But since I’m coming up on 30… might as well educate. First off can I just say for y'all niggas that claim to love women so much, it baffles my mind that y'all REFUSE to learn anything about them.

1st. The Vagina is a reactionary organ just like the penis. We get horny blood rushes to our penis and bam we hard. When girls get excited same thing blood rushes to the clitoris and it becomes engorged (that means it gets bigger) and then in preparation for penetration the body begins to produce natural lubrication to aid in insertion. Unlike us though this is not always an instantaneous process

2nd. So what does this mean? It means if you don’t do things to stimulate her… 9 times out of ten the vagina has no idea there is dick on the way and it stays dry. So when you try to stick your ashey ass dick in there it sucks for everyone

3. So spend some time playing with her… talk dirty to her.. rub on her thighs, kiss her neck, suck a titty (personal favorite), hell just makeout with her. Women have erogenous (that means sensitive and pleasurable) zones everywhere not just the places you wanna stick your dick. Explore your girl find them and make sex good for both of y'all. As little as ten minutes getting her started and can make all the difference.

This has been my TEDTalk.