Actually Date 1
I forgot about this one - I guess you cont this as the rebound. Not even a year after my breakup of maybe 10 years? Some guy that works in my building asked me if I wanted to do a ghost tour in the city I work in. Would I???! Later I was told this is how people ask “goth” girls on a date. Shit. I didn’t want to go on a date. This man was my age exactly, nice and easy to talk to, he’s a chef. Never married. No children. We go and it was fun. We get to talking. He was born and raised in this town. He lives a few blocks away from his parents, his sister and brother are also very close by. That’s nice - sometimes I wish my brother was closer. So I decide even though I’m on no way physically attractive to this man but he seems so genuine and its time I let my brain lead instead of my eyes. We go on a few more dates. Mostly movies. His friends beg me to get him out of this town because he doesn’t leave it... I thought nothing of it. Same restaurant to eat, movies, same after bar. go back to his place - watch the same show while he sits in recliner. We can’t have sex because he’s on medication which kills boners - (PERFECT!!!!!)
I mention we should go to city island (during a viewing of A Bronx Tale). He replies maybe. I state lets go to another town tonight - eh I don’t like to drive. I ask to drive - eh I don’t like being the passenger either. Ummmm ok. Back to dinner at same place, movie, bar. I make mention I don’t stay in places too long. I get bored and restless, I require new sights, experiences. My mother recently died horribly. I realized life is so very short. I’m not wasting a minute. I want to move in two years. After a month of dating he decides he’s moving with me. I just gave a look.
I became excited when he received tickets for a comedy show in another state. holy shit and it was far away!!! an overnight trip. We got stuck in traffic for 20 minutes he got pissed, turn around....same restaurant, movie, bar. I suggested we could have just gone anywhere since we were on the road. Negative. What did you expect on a Friday in the summer? It was a disappointment. I was happy he was doing something new. But he was hopelessly stuck at such a young age in this pattern and dragging me into it.
Fall started to set in. Thanksgiving and Christmas were my mothers specialty. It was to be my first without her. My father came to stay with me which added some stress.
I started getting overwhelmed, depressed, my anxiety was through the roof. I always forewarn people this happens and I withdraw from society. I don’t want any help. I need to get myself through this and have the tools to do it. He says ok but he checks up from time to time which I appreciate it very much. Then he says, “You know I find your anxiety and depression very intriguing and makes you sexier”.
I’m sorry whaaaaaa? The fact I cant get out of bed for days, wish I disappear and fall into the rabbit hold of despair sexy? Since when? “ooh yea baby you haven't combed your hair or changed your clothes in a week that’s sooo hot”. I had to ask him if he ever met someone with depression or anxiety and he said no. I told him its not Girl Interrupted - AT ALL. He seemed to really become excited about the whole situation. I said I don’t want to do this anymore.
Still bought me presents apparently for Christmas and from the word was it was a shit ton.... after the incident he took a medical leave then work in another company. I had forgotten about him - I don’t even know why. So he would be
1- closed minded Chef
2-Videogame Dom
3. Coming Soon - Finance Divorcee
4 Coming Soon - Bi-Polar Musician
5 Coming Soon - The Playwright (still dating)
