delete apps and social media that lowers your moodĀ
wear a new scent, throw away things you donāt need, delete contacts of people who make you feel unworthy, unfollow social media that makes you feel bad in any way
make a new playlist that makes you feel confident and happyĀ
in a journal, write down why you want to change, the traits of the person you truly want to be, the places you want to go and people that make you feel inspired
write down the things that stop you and bad habits you have, and replace those with new mindsets and habitsĀ
before you sleep,Ā make a detailed, achievable routine for the next day, that includes everything you want to do, including activities that genuinely make you happy
try new hobbies, like baking/cooking,Ā playing a musical instrument, making art,Ā learning a new skill, a sport, or a new language. you can easily get free resources onlineĀ
think about the ideal version of yourself. you can be like that, if you try your best and work hard.Ā
do not overwork yourself or set overly lofty daily goals and forget to do things like drink water. make your sleep and health your number one priority.
spend less time on your phone scrolling through social media. have a method of focusing on other things, like Pomodoro method or using the Forest app.Ā
if you canāt concentrate, commit yourself to doing it for 5 minutes.Ā once you get into the flow itās much easier to concentrate.
be patient and kind with yourself. itās hard to change overnight. youāre the only one who can help change you, so be a friend to yourself.
once you start something, promise yourself you will finish it.Ā
have new weekly routines, like going to a cafe every Wednesday afternoon or indulging in your favourite tv show every Friday night.
do not deny yourself of good things; there needs to be a balance. similarly, do not be too generous and overdo it too much.Ā
dedicate a day to clean your room and organize your things if you feel stressed out.Ā
it may feel scary to change, as you may feel like itās not the real you. but youāre still you, just the best version of yourself.
have a relaxing morning routine to look forward to, like making a nice breakfast, having a skin care routine, stretches, journalling, or thinking about nothing for a few minutes
have a mental image that makes you excited to do something. visualize yourself completing the goal and concentrate on it every morning.
however, learn not to rely on motivation because your brain will often turn off motivation, especially when you first begin something. have a routine, a specific time to do something, and do it.Ā
notice the places and people that drain your energy, and try to avoid them. find people who make you feel energized and places that calm you.
think about an enjoyable part of something. for example, when studying you can look forward to learning new things and when exercising, listening to calming music or using nice stationery. itās actually more fun than you think.Ā
even though itās hard, donāt compare yourself. youāre on your own path, and it doesnātĀ matter if people are better than you, because there will always be someone better than everyone. donāt be afraid to suck.Ā so draw badly, write bad poems, run slowly, make embarrassing mistakes and fail everything. you canāt be good at something unless youāre terribleĀ at something first. and doing anything badly is so much better than doing nothing.
donāt tell anyone about your new beginning, just start and let the results speak for themselves.
you can change and be your ideal self. but it will be hard to do that if you donāt believe in yourself. so make sure you challenge negative thoughts telling you canāt do something. tell yourself firmly that you can do it and then prove your negative thoughts wrong.