Misunderstood

I’m “finished” with school in a sense where I have a career. And any additional school I want to complete is to further myself in my career, but not to make more money, but just to allow myself to work in other fields in my profession.

My S/O is still in school working towards his career. But here’s the thing, he’s my boyfriend. Not my husband. And I’m not his mother.

We are adults - just two years shy away from our thirties… which DING DING DING. Means we have bills to pay. That’s the BARE MINIMUM.

Life’s not all about money, but you have to make enough money for your bills, food and gas. PERIOD. If you’re coming short every paycheck - then you work more hours. PERIOD.

I understand he’s in school, so I work a little extra and a little more so that he can finish school. BUT HERES THE CATCH. He comes short. Every. Time. And it feels like he EXPECTS me to pick up the slack.

He also coaches. Which takes up pretty much the majority of his day. He claims that it’s his dream. So I support it. But what I SHOULD NOT support, is being taken advantage of. What I SHOULD NOT support is letting him live his dream and putting mine aside because I have to work extra.

We’re at the adolescent stage in our life where we’re still figuring it out. But HE chose to move out with me. I don’t ask for much. But as an ADULT, if one chooses to move out of their parents house they are ACCEPTING THE RESPONSIBILITY of bills. Refer back to: PAYING BILLS IS THE BARE MINIMUM.

I’m tired of this BS excuse of not having money. I’m sorry. He has the choice to pick up more hours and work, but instead he chooses his dream.

I’m saying…. If you’re not done w school, and if you do not have the career choice you are going to school for yet in order to make a decent salary… then NOT HAVING MONEY IS AN EXCUSE. It is a CHOICE.

Life is about setting priorities. And I am OBVIOUSLY not a priority. So what do I do? Say my peace? Stay quiet? Bite my tongue so I could look like the bitch at the end?

No. I’m a bitch because he PUT ME IN THIS POSITION to be overworked and ANGRY.

My dream is to travel. So visit new places and try different foods and embrace myself in the different cultures in the world. I want to explore.

But I’m stuck in the same city working overtime so my significant other can live his dream as a coach.

I’m stuck between speaking the truth and being the bigger person. One path causes chaos in my relationship. The other causes peace in my relationship - but chaos within myself.

I’m tired of being taken for granted. I’m tired of being accused of being a dream killer when THIS IS FUCKING REALITY, BRO.

I’m putting my dreams on a hold so he can have his and he doesn’t even see it.

I’ve been a hopeless romantic since as long as I can remember. When adults would ask “what do you want to do when you grow up?” I’d reply: “I’m going to live with my boyfriend and then get married and have a family.”

Now I’m here. I want to get married. I want to have kids… but my s/o & myself aren’t on the same page. Do you stay because love is enough? Or is love not enough anymore? But if love is enough… why not get married?

I’m also at the age where living is expensive… to be exact, living in California is expensive. I’m not tech savvy. This world is growing too fast and I’m not moving fast enough with it.