stupid world

Painted some winter themed animals ❄️

When I was in therapy after surviving years of domestic violence, my therapist had to tell me that my personality was primed for abuse and we needed to work on that so I would be better equipped to see the red flags and respond appropriately in the future.

I'm still working on this, and it's been 8 years. If you tell someone how you want to be treated, what behaviors you don't tolerate in your life, what you're looking for in that relationship, and they react negatively, don't compromise yourself. Just move on.

I'm not comfortable with that.

I'd rather not, but thank you for the offer!

You're welcome to disagree, but that's not something I'm okay with.

No.

It's personal, and I'd prefer to keep it private.

That doesn't work for me. How about x

I respect your opinion, but I'd rather do it my way.

That is behavior that I don't tolerate.

To each their own.

I'm not looking for feedback right now, but if I'm looking for input later, I'll let you know.

Oh, I'm not sure I agree; I thought x

When you did/said x, I wasn't okay with that.

I don't accept your apology.

I can accept your apology once you've addressed the problem.

Hey, could you help me with x?

I need to stop.

I need some time to myself.

Changing her posture to something normal people do (bonus points for slouching/rounded shoulders, a common posture for tall and/or big chested women)

Making sure her outfit is appropriate for the situation (showing skin is not inherently sexualizing, lingerie armor or half-naked-in-the-snow probably is)

Making her torso/waist thicker, maybe even enough that all her organs would reasonably fit!

Exercises for all the homies who want to have a long career drawing.

The true problem with being an artist and drawing all day (as I wanted my whole life) is that human backs are not designed to hold that position, so it is very common for artists and designers to have really stiff shoulder blades, creating a chain of muscle strain towards the arm AND the back… and a lot of pain.

These are some physical exercises for artists and honestly anyone who works at a desk.