Anyone Can Wear The Mask

It's a disgusting predatory industry that takes advantage of vulnerable women & sells their babies. Adoption is not your family building tool no matter your sexual orientation, fertility or financial situation. It's a tool of genocide & the commodification of children.

Many of us were kidnapped, trafficked & sold and our families have been looking for us all our lives.

Many of us get abused, molested, tortured & murdered by our adopters.

We get rehomed on Facebook like animals when our adopters don't want us anymore.

Adoptees are also at a significantly higher risk of suicide than non-adoptees, there's even a day of rememberence for us.

Adoption needs to be abolished entirely & family preservation needs to be prioritized above all else ESPECIALLY over the wishes of people who feel entitled to buy someone else's child.

Here's a few more resources I could find

If you want more stories & evidence, look up #adopteevoices on just about any social media platform & listen to the adoptees who are telling the truth of what adoption is.

Adoption causes way more intergenerational trauma and collective health crises than I think many "kept" people realize.

If you bother to read it, the science is clear: adoption is violently traumatic, causing devastating, irreversible health issues for millions of human beings. Yet I'd have more luck conveying the severity and longevity of my own trauma to most non-adoptees with "I was dropped on my head as a baby."

Heck, I didn't begin to contend with the horrors of my own situation until my mid forties. Being yeeted directly after birth into foster care and eventually adopted by lovely, well-intentioned folks who were not prepared *at all* to help me deal with the lifelong neurodevelopmental disorders and physical health problems directly caused by my abandonment at birth has permanently damaged me. I'm saying so as one of the "lucky ones".

I adore my adoptive family. They're incredible parents. We love each other dearly. This doesn't change the fact, not for one second, that I wouldn't wish adoption on ANYBODY. Thankfully, my folks understand this. I wish more adoptive parents did.

The modern adoption industry* is, by design, deeply misogynistic, racist, transactional, ableist, imperialist, colonial. Ignorance and hate and apathy and coercion and subjugation and dehumanization and capitalism keep the machine running.

We're already seeing the beginning of Baby Scoop Too: Electric Boogaloo on Facebook. On Twitter. On Instagram. On other social media platforms owned and controlled by obscenely wealthy white men who don't consider private adoptions to be unethical.

You may *think* that legalized human trafficking doesn't really effect you, but soon, if the Christofascists continue their cultural blitzkrieg, the amount of infants and children who end up in the foster care system, adopted by unqualified people, in devastating private "rehoming" situations like the one shared above, or worse, is gonna SKYROCKET.

So...I'm barely on Facebook anymore for a few different reasons. One of them is that I couldn't handle watching a whole bunch of ignorant self-proclaimed feminists making shitty adoption jokes after Roe was overturned.

Another reason is that Facebook is LITERALLY A BABY MARKET.

ADOPTIVE PARENTS ARE BUYING AND SELLING CHILDREN ON FACEBOOK. WHAT THE ACTUAL UNFORTUNATE FUCK.

Nearly 100 million American families are in the adoption triad, with a majority of adoptees' needs and voices being considered last instead of first. It's so backwards.

Non-kinship adoption is a systemic violence that cannot help but touch the lives of billions. That is so very, very bad for ALL of us, not just abandoned infants and children or their struggling parents.

Some straightforward response questions for every person who has ever asked me about about my adoption:

Are you a feminist? Are you antiracist? Are you a humanitarian? Anti-ableist? Do you consider yourself lefty, liberal, or otherwise progressive? Do you respect science? Then please reevaluate your perceptions of adoption.

For every adoptive or bio parent you listen to, listen to three or more adoptees. For every shitty adoption "joke" you've ever told, check in with an adoptee (or first mom) in a kind and caring way. For every ignorant question you've ever asked an adoptee about our "real parents", crack a book!

Please. Do some research. Learn. Please. Center transracial adoptees, international adoptees, disabled adoptees, queer adoptees. Please. This stuff impacts all of us just as surely as countless other aspects of systemic rape culture do. Try to understand. Please.

I'm more certain than ever that we must abolish before we can rebuild.

Please give a shit. Please.

*The fact that adoption is an industry at all should shock and horrify us all, and yet... ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

It's a disgusting predatory industry that takes advantage of vulnerable women & sells their babies. Adoption is not your family building tool no matter your sexual orientation, fertility or financial situation. It's a tool of genocide & the commodification of children.

Many of us were kidnapped, trafficked & sold and our families have been looking for us all our lives.

Many of us get abused, molested, tortured & murdered by our adopters.

We get rehomed on Facebook like animals when our adopters don't want us anymore.

Adoptees are also at a significantly higher risk of suicide than non-adoptees, there's even a day of rememberence for us.

Adoption needs to be abolished entirely & family preservation needs to be prioritized above all else ESPECIALLY over the wishes of people who feel entitled to buy someone else's child.

Here's a few more resources I could find

If you want more stories & evidence, look up #adopteevoices on just about any social media platform & listen to the adoptees who are telling the truth of what adoption is.

Infant adoption is a preverbal trauma that stays with an adoptee for the rest of their life. These adoption fundraisers are a form of what we in the adoption community call premeditated trauma. Instead, donate to and signal boost funds for new or expecting parents who cannot otherwise afford to keep their baby otherwise, or family preservation groups like Saving Our Sisters, which helps parents considering relinquishment (often due to poverty or financial stress) get the help they need to keep their baby.

“Yes good”

“AND EAT THE BAD ONES”

“Wait no”

“EAT THEM”

You better watch out

You better watch out

You know how nosy ass cis people will ask you questions like "what's in your pants?" or "what were you born as?" or "what are you really?" to try and ask what gender you were assigned at birth or what genitals you have?

A lot of them, and other trans people tbh, have learned how to ask the same exact question, but dress it up in """progressive""" enough language that it almost doesn't look like they're being transphobic about it

Here's a few examples: "are you transmasculine or transfeminine?" "Are you amab or afab?" "Are you tme or tma?"

Which is. The same thing that the nosy cis ppl were asking in my previous example lmao

Cis and Trans are Adjectives which are describing words. Cis is not a slur or a pronoun. Cis is a Latin prefix that means "On the same side of" whereas Trans means "On the other side of."

Puberty Blockers were first created in the 80s to stop children from starting puberty too early. Children can get their period as early as 7 years old and a child shouldn't have to go through that. The effects are completely reversible, all the child has to do is stop taking them whenever they're ready and they'll start their puberty again. You only have a problem with puberty blockers when Trans kids use them.

No doctor is performing gender affirming surgeries on under age children, there's so much that you have to do before even being approved for top or bottom surgery (or any kind of gender affirming surgery), it's also very expensive, none of this would ever be performed on a child.

this aint much, but i was hit hard by art block all the sudden :(