it does not die

When Anaïs Nin said “I don’t want worship. I want understanding,” and when George Orwell said “Perhaps one did not want to be loved so much as to be understood,” and when Marina Tsvetaeva said “In my early childhood, for as long as I can remember, I thought that I wanted to be loved. Now I know and tell everyone: I don’t need love, I need understanding.”

dear brain shut up pls

telling abuse victims & sufferers of trauma that “everything happens for a reason” and saying what they went through has made a victim stronger is really belittling. im sure people who say this have good intentions usually but please be aware of what you say. none of us deserve/deserved the abuse we went through and it didn’t make us stronger. it made us numb, angry, depressed, etc and now we have to deal with the pain probably for the rest of our lives.