musings!

Nobody deserves your tears, but whoever deserves them will not make you cry.

The first thing to understand is that it is not a serious failing in a human being to make mistakes. Everyone has to make mistakes; there is no way out of it.

To live in this world / you must be able / to do three things: / to love what is mortal; / to hold it / against your bones knowing / your own life depends on it; / and, when the time comes to let it go, / to let it go.

Everyone is my teacher. Some I seek. Some I subconsciously attract. Often I learn simply by observing others. Some may be completely unaware that I’m learning from them, yet I bow deeply in gratitude.

Love needs time and space; everything else is secondary. Time is needed to talk things over, to embrace leisurely, to share plans, to listen to one other and gaze in each other’s eyes, to appreciate one another and to build a stronger relationship.

When you realise that eternity is right here now, that it is within your possibility to experience the eternity of your own truth and being, then you grasp the following: that which you are was never born and will never die… .

Aware of the suffering caused by unmindful speech and failure to listen, I am committed to cultivating loving speech and compassionate listening to relieve suffering and promote reconciliation and peace in myself and among other people, ethnic and religious groups, and nations. Knowing that words can create happiness or suffering, I am committed to speaking truthfully using words that inspire confidence, joy, and hope. I am determined not to speak when anger manifests in me. I will practice mindful breathing and walking to recognize and look deeply into my anger. I know that the roots of anger can be found in my wrong perceptions and lack of understanding of the suffering in myself and the other person. I will speak and listen in such a way as to help myself and the other person to transform suffering and see the way out of difficult situations. I am determined not to spread news that I do not know to be certain and not to utter words that can cause division or discord. I will practice diligently with joy and skillfulness so as to nourish my capacity for understanding, love, and inclusiveness, gradually transforming the anger, violence, and fear that lie deep in my consciousness.

If someday the moon calls you by your name don’t be surprised, Because every night I tell her about you.

Love is here without reason. You’re not in love with a person, no. You’re not in love with a place, a substance, an object, even an experience. Every ‘with’ can crumble, die, be forgotten, lost to memory. No, this love stands on its own. You are in love, not with a person or a thing, but you are in love. That’s it. You are in love. That’s the only reliable love. The love that stands alone. The love that cannot leave. The love that will never abandon you. The love that never came. The love that cannot be broken. The love that is closer to aloneness. And a hair’s breadth from loneliness. And a portal to the most astonishing freedom. A love that encompasses the stars, the moon, the Sun, and all inhabitants of this strange planet called Earth. A love that makes you sing for no reason. That makes you throw off your clothes and dance. That makes you weep unexpectedly. That breaks your heart open a thousand times a day. That cannot be put into words. That stays with you throughout times of joy and great sorrow. That follows you into the fires of hell. This love is reliable. This love is real. This love is safe. This love is cosmic, yet so intimate. This love is your very own presence, your deepest sense of fulfilment. It doesn’t come from outside of you. It cannot be 'found’ - that is the greatest illusion of all! You are in love for no reason, friend, and they’ll never understand. And they never need to. Because love is yours. Love lives in you. Love is the open secret.

The mind creates the abyss, the heart crosses it.

Understand, I’ll slip quietly away from the noisy crowd when I see the pale stars rising, blooming, over the oaks. I’ll pursue solitary pathways through the pale twilit meadows, with only this one dream: You come too.

The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it is not. It is an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of the other person—without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other.

In Asia, we say that there are three sources of energy–sexual, breath, and spirit…You need to know how to reestablish the balance, or you may act irresponsibly. According to Taoism and buddhism, there are practices to help reestablish that balance, such as meditation or martial arts. You can learn the ways to channel your sexual energy into deep realizations in the domains of art and meditation. The second source of energy is khi, breath energy. Life can be described as a process of burning. In order to burn, every cell in our body needs nutrition and oxygen…Some people cultivate their khi by refraining from smoking and talking, or by practicing conscious breathing after talking a lot…The third soruce of energy is than, spirit energy. When you don’t sleep at night, you lose some of this kind of energy. Your nervous system becomes exhausted and you cannot sutdy or practice meditation well, or make good decisions. You don’t have a clear mind because of lack of sleep or from worrying too much. Worry and anxiety drain this source of energy. So don’t worry. Don’t stay up too late. Keep your nervous system healthy. Prevent anxiety. These kinds of practices cultivate the third source of energy. You need this source of energy to practice meditation well. A spritual breakthrough requires the power of your spirit energy, which comes about through concentration and knowing how to preserve this source of energy. When you have strong spirit energy, you only have to focus it on an object, and you will have a breakthrough. If you don’t have than, the light of your concentration will not shine brightly, because the light emitted is very weak,“ (35-36).