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Anyhow, I am still peeking in here but I also created other blog on Tumblr.

I’ve been on tumblr for about five years now. The announcement yesterday that tumblr was going to ban all adult content was shocking, yet I’m sure many of us wondered if it was coming to this since apple had removed the app. I’ve felt so many different feelings since yesterday, but the one that keeps bubbling to the surface is sadness.

I’m sad because I’m already feeling the loss of my community. For years I struggled to understand who I am. When I discovered tumblr, I found my people. People who helped me learn about myself, being submissive and even being a better person. My community welcomed me. You all have made me feel safe in exploring things outside the “norm”. My community has been there to answer questions, to encourage, and to love. For that I thank each of you.

I’m sad because my place to freely express my thoughts and desires has decided that my thoughts and desires aren’t acceptable here anymore. Tumblr has been more than porn for me. I can find porn on many sites as pointed out by the powers that be. However, here I’ve been able to see the beauty found in submission. I’ve learned that the word submit isn’t dirty and doesn’t mean that someone is weak. I’ve seen how every woman of every shape, size, and color is worthy of love. I’ve learned acceptance of others through reading the stories written and stories told through photography.

I’m sad because my examples of D/s relationships will be going away. There are many couples who have shared the ups and downs of making a D/s relationship work in real life. They’ve taught me that it’s not all blowjobs and spankings. Instead they’ve shared stories about overcoming long distance, having kids in this dynamic, the bad days when D/s seems to be a struggle and overall the importance of communicating with each other. The honesty has been raw and real at times. I’ve felt their struggles and celebrated their successes. Many probably don’t realize the impact they’ve had on me and many others here, but without them I would still be questioning of what I want actually can exist.

I’m mostly sad because I’ve met some amazing men and women here and many of those connections will end. Friendships have developed over the years that I hold closer to my heart than those who I see on a day-to-day basis. Those friendships have impacted me on so many levels. Some have been submissives who I see as role models. Some have been men who have shown me the characteristics of strong, caring men/dominants and have set the bar high for any man coming into my life. And yes, some of those relationships have developed into love. While not all of those relationships lasted, I appreciate the time we spent together because I’ve been able to grow through the joys and the heartbreak. I will stay in touch with some of the wonderful men and women I’ve met here , but overall, we’ve lost our place to connect on common ground and I know many will move on in search of their new community.

Ok we received an ask about someone who was having trouble reaching sub space. @spoiled-lil-kitten mentioned (in a different ask) that there is a chemical element to sub space. Being that I am the resident Sadist on staff, I have done a bit (read a lot) of reading on the subject and will try to give you a highlight reel of what I have learned.

***WARNING CONTAINS SCIENCE***

What is happening when sub space is reached by means of physical and or emotional PAIN is essentially an opioid high.

Yep, you read that right. A good scene is like mild morphine straight to the brain.

A recent study at U of M also concluded that the same is true for emotional pain. So for all you humiliation and verbal degradation lovers these tips are for you too.

Let me nerd that out for you…

There are four opioid receptors in our brain: mu-opioid (MOR), kappa-opioid (KOR), delta-opioid (DOR) and nociceptin(NOP).  Increasing these receptors or the molecules that bind to them will produce an opioid high. These effects are most commonly found in the ventral striatum, amygdala, midline thalamus, and periaqueductal gray regions of the brain.

Depending on what receptors you increase the analgesic effect will be greater or lesser.

The MORs are the ones that heroin and morphine act on.

DORs are the receptors that most of your antidepressants latch on to.

KORs I’ll be honest I don’t know much about KORs except that they cause dysphoria when activated and counter a lot of the effects of MORs

Now wasn’t that fun?

Ok so what?

Well, the ask was about not being able to hit sub space. Here’s why all that up there matters. There are things you can do that will activate those receptors so that you can be “primed” before a scene to enter sub space.

Here goes:

Cold exposure also increases “Heat Shock Inducible Factor”, which increases opioid receptors. Specifically, mu and delta opioid receptors, the same receptors that heroin and morphine work on. By increasing these receptors, our innate opioids are more likely to bind to  receptors and activate them. So when the flog hits and the brain says kill the pain there will be more receptors available to flood. Meaning… take a cold shower before a scene.

Get some rest… Sleep deprivation decreases mu and delta opioid receptor binding in the limbic system, which controls emotions to increase feelings of pleasure

Have a drink. Drinking alcohol induces opioid release in the nucleus accumbens and orbitofrontal cortex, areas of the brain implicated in reward valuation. Just A drink. If you over do it you will negate the effect.

Take magnesium. Studies show that magnesium amplifies the analgesic effect of low-dose morphine in conditions of sustained pain this will allow our natural opioids to be more effective.

Melatonin. Melatonin exerts its analgesic actions by increasing the release of beta-endorphins.

Hold your breath (or have someone hold it for you 😈) Chronic intermittent hypoxia decreases pain sensitivity and increases the expression of Heat shock Inducible Factor, which increases opioid receptors. Specifically, mu and delta opioid receptors increase.

See. Science is fun!

Well if you’re still reading this… good luck!

Warm regards,

♠️1SL❤️

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-2462809/Brains-release-chemical-PAINKILLERS-reduce-sadness.html

https://selfhacked.com/blog/melatonin/

https://www.selfdecode.com/disease/sleep-deprivation/?utm_source=seo&utm_medium=selfhacked&utm_campaign=id00002

Where cars are parked orderly and in reverse

Where fruits can be cubes

Where people keep left

And lamps have different brightness for double beds

People queue up in lines

Applies to stickers too

Where what you get is the same as the poster

you get waved goodbye..?

Relieving both mind and body

Yup.

Smooth train operator

No embarrassing knocking or barging into rooms to check out if they are occupied

When you need an extra hand

For the selfiestas

Brolly holders

Because normal manhole covers are too mainstream

Think diagonal

And anytime u need to soak your feet

Where you raise responsible adults, not brats

And luggage is organised in color codes

When you need help after the condom broke

Instant sanitary gratification

Why they are so welcome at football matches

Where water is that clean in the drains

Nuff said