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Treating fictives like they're your blorbo as opposed to a whole guy.

Deciding for yourself how a fictive or factive should relate to their source, if you think fictives & factives *must* be different from their source in some amount, you are not normal about plural identities. If you make moral judgements on an introject for the contents of their source material, you are not normal about plural identities.

Looking at spiritual aspects of plurality with undue skepticism and doubt when they don't apply to you.

Talking down to a fictive or factive for having a "problematic" source, and assuming that everyone gets to pick exactly who they are.

Refusing to use everyone's individual name when asked, or only recognizing one person in the collective.

Gatekeeping and fakeclaiming. You're not normal about plural identities if you insist all plural people need to have trauma. You're not normal about plural identities if you think someone has "too many alters" or perceive their conversation as "roleplaying".

Dictating what someone is or is not able to experience based on your personal understanding of their history.

Reacting to someone's plurality by imagining and feeling sorry for the trauma you assume they went through.

Finding the idea of plurality scary. Even past the evil alter stuff, if you think someone switching without you noticing is frightening, you are not normal about plural people. If you read or watch horror based around a killer with DID or a tulpa who kills its creator, you are probably not very normal about plural identities.

Any "eww" or "cringe" reaction to someone talking about themselves.

Shout out to that one tumblr post that was like: "You know it's not just trans people who ponder their gender, it's healthy for cis people to take a look inside and be like! Yep that's all good!" And I read this post and was like.... like what do you look at inside though T O T??? I asked my boyfriend how he knew he was a boy and he said he just felt this unexplainable intrinsic feeling he was a boy... and I'm like... I HAVE GENUINELY NO IDEA WHAT YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT WTF 😭😭😭!!!!!!!! So apparently its like. Normal for people to feel this inexplicable 'Gender' feeling or whatever,,, I feel like how asexual people feel when they discover people around them aren't making up the fact they experience sexual arousal T O T

Obviously all my sciency stuff is just speculation! But I'm the type of person who believe that everything has a rationale behind it, and like an adopted child who is curious about their biological parents, I am just interested in my origins! The field of genetics still is mostly just like,,,, hmmm we think this whatever MIGHT be a contributing factor to a person turning out this way... maybe. If you are more interested in the topic I discussed, just look up 'epigenetics' and there should be some more stuff OuO!

Our best and favourite example of this is Mabel. Fetti uses a range of neopronouns + expression to emphasize her gender identity and experience. (she/they/fetti/chaos/neo/neon/pink/pinkie/sola to list a few of shine's many pronouns) If they were to describe neo's gender, labels chaos has included before include Sungender, Pinkiepiegender, Partygender, Fungender, and Toygender, which she uses alongside demigirl (Pinkie says it's "half girl, and half all the other stuff. because I feel all those genders all the time, but it's specifically all in a 'girl way'. so it's like my gender is the sun and then the sun is also a girl.") And this all comes from how in both source and her source's fandom, neon is often associated with these concepts that make up their gender experience, and dollie finds herself comfortable with being seen and gendered in relation to these concepts.

"Are you dating anyone?"

Sweats in in-system dating

Um... it's complicated...

Like I've infiltrated. You don't even realize I'm gay kissing in front of you and your kids and your dog right NOW!!!!!! Bitch

so I was in the middle of answering this question when Tumblr apparently decided that it wanted to make me look at the post a mutual of ours we have post notifications on for reblogged instead of writing the post. so it also deleted the draft of the very in-depth explanation full of anecdotes that I was writing (and I was having a great time writing it, too! 😠) and put me on the page for the post my mutual reblogged instead.

so the explanation is coming! I am more than happy to talk about our experiences with in-system pregnancy! But it's gonna take me a bit because Tumblr is a little bitch and I'm making a very detailed post. I'll be sure to tag you in it when I'm finished! (And best wishes to the polycule!)