to the manslator!

Manslation: Men oughtta be in charge of LITERALLY EVERYTHING because I decided we got better more stronger brains AND arms. And you better be grateful to me for protecting you from... me.

Due to a difference of opinion with the other mods, Mod L has decided to step down from Manslator.

She thanks everyone for their awesome contributions and encouragement over the course of her stay, and she says she will never forget the experience.

Manslator will never intentionally post any aphobic content (i.e., that attacks ace/aro people for being ace/aro). If something slips by us, we’ll publicly address it and commit to doing better, just as we’ve addressed posts in the past that were inadvertently ableist, transphobic, fatphobic, etc.

This blog strives to be a safe and welcoming place for all women and femmes regardless of what other marginalization they do or don’t experience. We appreciate legit callouts, but we will not tolerate homophobia (or anything else) wrapped up in the disguise of self-serving discourse.

The posts have been anonymized, as they are not an invitation to attack the person in question, merely a clarification of the situation for any concerned ace/aro followers. If you know the OP, you may certainly feel free to call them on their bullshit, but please do not seek this person out to attack them. (I personally verified that searching for their post would not turn it up.)

I’ve wasted too much time on this mess already, and this is more than enough information for anyone to form an opinion without needing additional clarification. We won’t be responding to further questions on this particular incident, and anybody else who feels like trotting their homophobia out for us will be summarily blocked.

Edit: Because this is now getting circulated outside our usual circle, I want to make sure people see that this is the post the OP replied to, which sets the stage for this entire interaction and includes the exact links that they didn’t see as demonstrating homophobia.

Then when I tried to correct him: “I would know I have ADHD so I went to a special school and a girl there had seizures”

He’s a firefighter which means at least in my town he would be called to help someone with a seizure or other medical problem kinda scary

- totally reasonable flatmate™

“Manspreading” is not “any occurrence of a man spreading out”: it’s specifically when a man on crowded public transit takes up more space than he’s fairly entitled to.They’re doing it because they feel entitled to space, not because they’re showing off their genitals. The problem isn’t their spread legs, per se: it’s that they’re spreading their bodies INTO OTHER PEOPLE’S SPACES (usually a woman’s personal space, or the personal space of someone they perceive as a woman).

We literally have like a thousand* posts telling terfs to go the hell away so I’m afraid you have lost your bet with yourself.

*only a slight exaggeration

Trump/Pence are going to be horrible for women and for people who can get pregnant. That is absolutely a fact. Regardless of the other ways in which we have privilege, we have a right to be terrified about the implications of this presidency, especially long-term ones that may echo down for decades to come based on Supreme Court appointments over the next four years.

But for those of us who are white, we also need to own that it was not men who handed this election to Trump: it was white people, including white women. Not just a plurality, but a majority of white women voted for Trump, and by a substantial margin.

As hard as things are going to be for us, we white women need to recognize that there are people who are going to be in more immediate personal danger as a result of this election than most of us, even before Trump is sworn in next year. Besides his misogyny, Trump actively targeted and campaigned on his disregard for racialized people and Muslims. Black women, Latina women, undocumented women, and hijabi women or those who otherwise “look” Muslim are among those we need to be centering and looking out for right now. (But let’s not forget other women of color, trans women, queer women, disabled women, and poor women as well. There’s really no marginalized group Trump won’t touch, and even some of us white women are affected on these other axes.)

We white women need to be dealing with the white women in our lives who supported Trump, and to help them work through their racism, xenophobia, Islamophobia, homophobia, internalized misogyny. It is going to be hard, brutal work. It is going to be exhausting. But if we don’t shoulder the intellectual and emotional labor of educating our fellow white women on these issues, it’s going to fall to women of color to take up that burden, which will be even heavier for them than it is for us.

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Some re/sources:

CBS News Exit Polls: How Donald Trump won the U.S. presidency: “Trump beat Clinton among white women 53 percent to 43 percent.”

I Will Never Underestimate White People’s Need to Preserve Whiteness Again: “This is on ALL White people. Who are complicit even if they didn’t vote for Trump. Because they obviously haven’t done enough to repudiate the mindsets existing in their families and amongst their friends; possessed by their co-workers and neighbors; shared during private holiday gatherings and public city townhalls.”