💞 Poly Proselfship Ask Meme 💞
How did you all meet each other?
Did any of you have any reservations about entering a polyamorous relationship?
How supportive are the people around you? Do they even know? What do they think, if they even care enough to have an opinion?
Who proposed the idea of a poly relationship? How did the relationship begin?
Was any part of your ship pre-established before adding others to the relationship?
What are the sleeping arrangements like? Do you share a mattress, or do you all have your own separate bedrooms?
Is jealousy ever an issue? Is communication strong enough to prevent these kind of conflicts?
How serious is every party within your ship about the relationship? Are some of you committed into a serious long-term partnership while other’s are only casual?
Would you ever add another person to your relationship? Do you have anybody in mind, or who you may think another partner would wish to include?
How open in the relationship? What are the dynamics? (Example: is A and B dating C, but A and B not dating each other)
What kind of dates do you all like to go on? Is there ever instances where only some of you go on a date instead of everybody in a group outing?
Do any of you know how to cook? How do you coordinate meals, or is it an every-man-for-himself situation where you all make your own food whenever and however you want it?
Have you all met each other’s friends and family? If not, would you ever introduce each other?
How do you navigate the stigma surrounding polyamorous relationships?
Does anybody want children? If yes, have you given any thought how you would arrange that? Would anybody feel jealous or excluded if they can’t biologically contribute to a blood-related child?
What do you all like to do together? Do you share any hobbies and interests, or do you prefer parallel play and just enjoy being in each other’s presence?
Do you all live together? What’s the division of household chores look like? If you don’t, would you ever consider it?
Does anybody steal the others’ clothes? Do you all share wardrobes?
What sorts of unique circumstances do you feel your relationship encounters that a monogamous relationship may not have to? Do you hardly notice the difference?
How do you navigate spaces not designed with three or more people in mind? (Example: walking side-by-side on a sidewalk, sitting together on a bench, traversing in a vehicle with only two front seats, etc.) Is it a nonissue that you don’t even notice, or do you all avoid these spaces to prevent anyone feeling left out?
How do you all make each other feel included? If somebody feels excluded, how do you make up for it?
Do any of you value your personal space and alone time still, or do you all find it more enjoyable to spend all of your time together without ever growing bored or annoyed?
If somebody is feeling upset, how do the others react? What do they do to help you feel better?
How does physical affection work? Do you take turns with each other, or do you only initiate whenever you feel you can include them all?
Do any of you ever feel the absence of any of them if they aren’t present? Do you have moments where you feel lonely because not everybody is present, even if you aren’t actually alone?
Would there be a relationship at all if not all of you were included? Would you have never gotten together with any of them if the other’s weren’t there as well?
Do you all have a healthy community of platonic relationships outside of the romantic relationship as well? Or are you all each other have?
What is everybody’s love language? Do any of them overlap, or are you all unique in how to express love and how you want to be loved back?
Are any of you in multiple consensual relationships? (Example: A is dating B and C, but they are also somehow involved with D, who isn’t established with A and B beyond knowing they exist and maybe being friendly or an acquaintance to them)
Has cheating ever been a concern? Do you have any strong, solid boundaries that help you all navigate the relationship and other’s that may come after?
Do any of you have “clashing” interests and aesthetics, or interests that seem odd when laid out next to each other (such as in decorations)? (Example: somebody who loves pastels and stuffed animals sharing a space and decorating with somebody who enjoys death metal and taxidermy)
How do you all feel about PDA?
Do you cuddle? What does that arrangement tend to look like if you do?
What do shopping trips look like? Do you all go? Is it chaotic, fighting over what goes in the buggy and what doesn’t?
Have you ever tried to all bathe/shower together before? How horrifically did that end up?
