venus is detriment in scorpio bc... what??
it's funny because these days i feel like with the rise of "booktok" (im so sorry) and also popular films like saltburn, romance/love is being portrayed as having to be obsessive and intense (which are naturally scorpionic traits) to be considered "true" love, and i have definitely fallen for that notion. it has always been confusing to me how venus, the planet of love, could be detriment in the sign of scorpio, one that is characterized by its loyalty and depth of intimacy--is that not love? and after some life experience (aka being close friends with a LOT of people with prominent scorpio placements/dating those people), i finally understand.
while scorpio's intensity certainly encourages depth and intimacy in relationships, this same intensity also lends itself to black and white thinking, and if you know anything about relationships, especially ones that are built to last; there takes a certain degree of understanding and chill-ness (for lack of better word). loving someone and being in any sort of intimate connection with them also requires trust; sometimes people need space to figure out things for themselves, and then the ride-or-die traits of scorpio become overbearing. scorpio is also a fixed sign and thus stubborn, but relationships that stand the test of the time must be built on compromise and understanding, especially in the face of conflict.
love is also no fun when one person has all the power. you can shower another person with all the gifts, affirmative words, and favors in the whole wide world, in hopes that they will be dependent on you, in hopes that they will be more willing to do the things that you want them to do, but human beings intrinsically value their autonomy and individuality (over almost all things) and slowly become resentful--even unconsciously--of this behavior because covert control is still control.
that being said, scorpionic love forces you to take an honest look at yourself and your relationship with power. being in these dynamics has allowed me to see where i give away my power to other people, where i try to have power over others, and the almost unconscious mechanisms behind both. i have never left one of these dynamics untouched... for better or for worse.
if you're lucky, both people in the dynamic can look an honest look at their part in the whole thing, and things--the relationship, you, the other person--can be transformed for the better.















