it's funny because these days i feel like with the rise of "booktok" (im so sorry) and also popular films like saltburn, romance/love is being portrayed as having to be obsessive and intense (which are naturally scorpionic traits) to be considered "true" love, and i have definitely fallen for that notion. it has always been confusing to me how venus, the planet of love, could be detriment in the sign of scorpio, one that is characterized by its loyalty and depth of intimacy--is that not love? and after some life experience (aka being close friends with a LOT of people with prominent scorpio placements/dating those people), i finally understand.

while scorpio's intensity certainly encourages depth and intimacy in relationships, this same intensity also lends itself to black and white thinking, and if you know anything about relationships, especially ones that are built to last; there takes a certain degree of understanding and chill-ness (for lack of better word). loving someone and being in any sort of intimate connection with them also requires trust; sometimes people need space to figure out things for themselves, and then the ride-or-die traits of scorpio become overbearing. scorpio is also a fixed sign and thus stubborn, but relationships that stand the test of the time must be built on compromise and understanding, especially in the face of conflict.

love is also no fun when one person has all the power. you can shower another person with all the gifts, affirmative words, and favors in the whole wide world, in hopes that they will be dependent on you, in hopes that they will be more willing to do the things that you want them to do, but human beings intrinsically value their autonomy and individuality (over almost all things) and slowly become resentful--even unconsciously--of this behavior because covert control is still control.

that being said, scorpionic love forces you to take an honest look at yourself and your relationship with power. being in these dynamics has allowed me to see where i give away my power to other people, where i try to have power over others, and the almost unconscious mechanisms behind both. i have never left one of these dynamics untouched... for better or for worse.

i’m sitting here on webcam with a leo mars and he just flashed his torso and started working out in the middle of nowhere???? 

another leo mars tried to pursue me like 8 months ago and immediately when he came in he wanted us to go back outside so he could show off his skate tricks 

the rest of the guys i’ve liked i had to pursue because they were virgo mars, pisces mars, cancer mars and didn’t wanna make a move

cardinal mars signs are very direct and make the first move, they wont hide that they like you they’ll just say “wanna go out with me?” or “i love you!” - aries mars, libra mars, cancer mars, capricorn mars

if you’re someone who is attracted to females…

moon/venus-sun aspects = if your sun aspects either moon or venus, your partners are influential/popular/identity-conscious, if not a bit full of themselves. 

example: kanye west has sun square moon, he’s married to kim kardashian, incredibly self-involved and even has a book devoted to pictures of herself. 

moon/venus aspects = female partners who are ultimately maternal, ‘feminine’, romantically & emotionally expressive. 

example: brad pitt has moon conjunct venus, married to angelina jolie, known for their own many kids, her humanitarian work for children & women, and has never been one to shy away from expressing herself. 

moon/venus-mercury aspects = female partners who are excellent speakers, have a way with words, bookworms, or simply youthful. 

example: bradley cooper, moon square mercury, known for his atypical relationship with suki waterhouse as she was 17 years his junior and even read books together. 

moon/venus-mars aspects = partners are assertive women, women who are athletically active, women who are more ‘masculine’.

example(s): john cena, moon square mars, has only dated and is currently dating a female athlete (wrestler). dwayne johnson, venus conjunct mars, is in a relationship and expecting a child with an athletic woman.

moon/venus-jupiter aspects = partners are women of other cultures or women who are cultured or a connoisseur of sorts, women who are travelers, women who are excessive, bohemian types. 

example: robert pattinson, venus square jupiter, engaged to fka twigs who is of jamaican, spanish, and english descent, has definite style with bohemian influence.

moon/venus-saturn aspects = women who are authoritative/business women, mature women, women who are confined or reserved, women who experienced plenty hardship or strict upbringing. 

example: mark zuckerberg, venus opposite saturn, married to a harvard graduate who was the daughter of refugees who fled vietnam. bill gates, venus conjunct saturn, married a business woman who was raised by an aerospace engineer. both wives are now co-founders of companies. 

moon/venus-uranus aspects = female lovers who are outcasted in some way, women who march to the beat of their own drum, erratic or surprising behavior, self-righteous. 

example(s). tim burton, venus conjunct uranus, had a long-time marriage to helena bonham carter, known for her uniqueness. kurt cobain, venus opposite uranus, married courtney love who has been quoted saying “i’m not going to apologise for offending you. actually, I think you should thank me.”

moon/venus-neptune aspects = female lovers who are idealized, women who embody the imagination and fantasy nature of neptune, delusional, perhaps unconditional, partners. 

example: jay-z, venus conjunct neptune, married to beyonce, beyonce is basically whatever people want to perceive her to be and that just so happens to be the best, highly regarded. justin bieber, moon square neptune, quoted on his relationship with selena gomez saying, “my identity was in her. her identity was in me.” 

moon/venus-pluto aspects = partners are women who are compelling, obsessive/controlling, at times destructive, partners who bring a certain formidable quality. 

already dreading september ngl, i don’t want the disenchantment of saturn in pisces to return!!!!!!!