So, first of all, I know I'm not that relevant enough to be making a statement, but things have reached a certain level where I feel the need to speak up. Again, since I don't post much, many may not know my blog, but yes, until the day of the slur usage on her post, I was there interacting with her.
I don't think it is okay to use a slur whether it is without "meaning to" or not. People called you out for it. Is it that hard to apologize? On purpose or not, you used it and it was harmful either way.
The attempts to deflect from the real issue by bringing other very much real problems to the table or by saying that you did other good things don't erase the mistake that was made.
Like other blogs here, I don't agree with everything Tyler does or say, but what's the beef between a 30 year old woman and an 18 year old? Also, posting her mom's Instagram? That's crazy.
This could have been much easier to deal with if only had you apologized when people first called you out. If things escalated, it was because you refused to take accountability for your actions. "I didn't do it on purpose/I didn't mean to" doesn't change the harm caused. Until people realize this, the perpetual cycle of making a mistake and refusing to take accountability shall continue.