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Do you believe a woman ought to marry a guy without a job?

I think a woman would and should marry an unemployed man. Why not if she met him while he was unemployed and fell in love with him? 

After getting married and leaving the military, I was a stay-at-home husband and father for quite some time. After my wife gave birth to our son, I got a job a few months later. But when I noticed she was getting depressed, I told her to go back to work, and I would stay home with the baby. It was easy for us to make that transition because I had more experience with children and I wanted to start an online business. 

For nine years, I was a stay-at-home father. When he got older, I occasionally worked as a temp, but mostly I was a stay-at-home father. I heard all the old clichés about how a real man would go to work while his wife would stay home and care for the house and children.

Sometimes it got to me. But the thing is, it worked for us. I even started an online business while staying home. People were still talking about how the man was supposed to be the sole provider. But again, it is what worked for us, and it definitely did financially. 

My issue is that, as a society, there are far more issues to be concerned about than who will be the breadwinner in someone else’s relationship. We should worry about where the next piece of bread will come from. Too many people talk about how things should be between men and women. Each of them should recognize what they want before telling someone else what they want from them.