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Please have a moment of silence for the people who were killed instead of freed when news of emancipation finally reached the furthest corners of the american south.

have another moment for the ledgers, catalogs, and records that were burned and the homes that were destroyed to hide the presence of very much alive and still enslaved people on dozens of plantations and homesteads across the south for decades after emancipation.

and have a third moment for those who were hunted and killed while fleeing the south to find safety across the border, overseas, in the north and to the west.

black people. light a candle, write a note to those who have passed telling them what you have achieved in spite of the racist and intolerant conditions of this world, feel the warmth of the flame under your hand, say a prayer of rememberance if you are religious, place the note under the candle, and then blow it out.

if you have children, sit them down and tell them anything you know about the life of oldest black person you've ever met. it doesn't have to be your own family. tell them what you know about what life was like for us in the days, years, decades after emancipation. if you don't know much, look it up and learn about it together.

This is Juneteenth.

like yes dude us other autistic bitches have had these problems too but social norms being less intuitive and harder to pick up doesn't mean it's impossible. it is a skill you can learn like any other if you stop acting like the people trying to teach it to you are snuffing out your divine spark or whatever, and stop plugging your ears whenever other people tell you how they want to be treated.

i think ultimately frustrates me the most about this behavior is that it's just such an insanely selfcentered understanding of human interaction. you think that conversation and behavior You don't personally see the purpose or value of has no purpose or value at all. and instead of trying to meet other people half way in their expectations of how relationships develop, you expect them to instead abandon all their criteria for socializing in favor of yours because you believe your own social framework is innately superior.

Also here is a convenient step by step guide for how to get to rge talking about OCs stage:

Tgis is social media so you can actually skip a step and check if tgey hace OCs of tgeir own and then ask them about their OC and then wait for them to do it back but generally it goes like yhis

Ask Hiw they’re doing

Listen

Ask follow up questions about the most interesting thing they’ve mentioned.

Now social norm dictates if you ask how tgey are doing tgey have to ask back

When you answer talk about what you did more than how you are feeling unless you’re already friends. You can try soft launch a convo about OCs or D&D characters or whatever by mentioning something like “oh I’m doing pretty well I have a D&D game on today”

Now if they wabt to talk avout D&D tgey will take the bait and say something like “oh neat I also play D&D”

Then YOU have to ask THEM something like “oh what do you play?” UNLESS tgey ask you first. You DO NOT start talking about your DnD character unless they ask you about it ok?

Now if they did not ask about DnD during step six you have to let it go. They will choose the most interesting part of your day to them to follow up on and if you want to seem cool and interesting to this person you hace to talk about what’s interesting to thwm. Juat likw how you guided them into taljing avout Whats most interesting to you out of the thibgs avout themselves tgey chose to share in step 3.

I’m autistic enough to get overstimulated by rain on the rooftop noises and to bring up pubic hair at Christmas dinner (I know I fucked up. I did NOT do it again) and these facts do not change Hiw other people receive my actions, autistic ir not. It is UNPLEASANT when my other autistic peers start talking about their interests without asking me avout my day first. I go to my friends yk have a DIALOGUE with them not to attend a Ted talk. You need to know and understand that if people want to talk avout something with you they will ask follow up questions. You just have to drop a hint. If they don’t pick it up it’s because either they want to talk about something else first or not talk avout it at all. You could even just fucking ask “hey can I talk avout my OCs” if you are friends and are confident they will say “no” or “not yet” to you if that’s how they feel about it.

But please be considerate avout how other people in conversation with you also have things theu want to share, or hear about just like you do. And it’s incredibly unpleasant when you ignore those things. I’m sure you’ve felt crap when you get steamrolled over in conversation before. Don’t be like that.

like yes dude us other autistic bitches have had these problems too but social norms being less intuitive and harder to pick up doesn't mean it's impossible. it is a skill you can learn like any other if you stop acting like the people trying to teach it to you are snuffing out your divine spark or whatever, and stop plugging your ears whenever other people tell you how they want to be treated.

i think ultimately frustrates me the most about this behavior is that it's just such an insanely selfcentered understanding of human interaction. you think that conversation and behavior You don't personally see the purpose or value of has no purpose or value at all. and instead of trying to meet other people half way in their expectations of how relationships develop, you expect them to instead abandon all their criteria for socializing in favor of yours because you believe your own social framework is innately superior.

I need every single person to understand how horrible tumblr’s tagging system is

I go into the tag for epilepsy and its all flashing lights. We can’t use our own tag because people without epilepsy fill it up with improper warnings.

Use ‘flashing’ in place of ‘epilepsy’ in your tags. You aren’t warning people of epileptics, you’re warning us of flashing lights. Please please tag properly. Epileptics say this endlessly and constantly and it’s ignored. You are risking lives by doing this.

Here’s proof of what I mean: