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It’s really sad bc women especially are raised and positioned in society to learn how to care for *literally* everybody BUT themselves — girls are taught to physically and emotionally care for family, friends, superiors and even strangers before themselves. Wanting to put themselves first & asking for help is even taught to be a “selfish” thing for women to do lol — and self-care was literally revolutionary in encouraging women to care for themselves in a way that could prevent long-term physical and emotional damage.

Especially preferences that exclude people of color. We learn what race/ethnicity/phenotype are attractive by the social power structures we are surrounded by.

There’s absolutely no possible way for a person to find every single black, or every single Asian or every single (Insert race) person unattractive because there is so much physical, phenotypical and internal diversity within each race.

So, as an example, folks who say “I’m not attracted to black people, that’s just my preference” what they are really saying is “I don’t want to be with black people because I have been taught to think they are ugly, undesirable, and I know nothing about how diverse black people are”