why do so many freaks go right to “there should be exams or tests before you have kids” when the real solution is better social services, robust infant and child development education that is accessible both financially and schedule/distance accommodating, and resources throughout any stage of a child’s life. genuine question like did you think about any social development before going straight to eugenics
Look i am not even a proponent of parental testing measures. However. having *entire classes* on parenting, and "robust social services" (notoriously misused to steal kids) is much more eugenics-minded than having a simple 10 question test to assess that potential parents know that they should (1) feed shelter and clothe their children and (2) refrain from bullying or physically harming them.
How To Stop Abuse:
“Do you think abuse is bad, yes or no?”
Idk man classes on how to handle parental frustration and difficult times without taking it out on your kids would save a lot of people a lot of therapy
it reads to me that people who do not see the benefit of these education services being widely accessible operate on the thinking that abusive parents are like, innately abusive instead of once being children that were likely also abused and traumatized and never had access to healthier ways to cope and some got their damage dealt so long ago that it’s calcified a little and the idea of resources to help them hasn’t settled in as a reality or option for them because trauma and abuse rewires your brain and to recover means to actively, over and over, try to rearrange the wiring. like maybe we might see less abuse in families if we got therapy and education from the top down and a less damaged parent would raise a less hurt child. but idk. maybe i’m the fool for sympathizing with my mother for growing up in the midst of an attempted genocide where men and boys just went “missing” so of course she wasn’t equipped to be the Best Parent instead of calling her an evil malignant narcissist
That's a valid point. I was a bit sarcastic, but truly where I'm coming from is a desire for everyone- parents, children, everyone in between- to have unlimited access to physical and mental health resources so that the cycle of misery can not only be ended, but those caught in it can begin to heal, too.
