Curious Crossdresser

IF YES, KINDLY MESSAGE THIS MISTRESS

I’d like to share some experience, ideas, and tips I’ve put together after about 4 years of dominating my BF. This is all my personal experience, so it won’t apply to everyone.

Firstly, I need to share that we aren’t in a 24/7 Domme-sub relationship. That doesn’t interest me or my BF. My BF came to me about 4 ½ years ago and confessed some of his desires for femdom sex, and I decided to entertain it with him. It’s been a lot of fun, but I’m not making it a “lifestyle”, although we do have some “extended” sessions, which I’ll detail later in this post. Its something we do for fun in the bedroom (well, not always in the bedroom). We still have frequent “vanilla” sex, he’s actually quite good at it. :) That being said, I’m not here to pass judgement on anyone else, or pretend to be an expert on the subject of BDSM. My current BF is the only person I’ve played with like this, but we’ve learned a lot about femdom by experimenting, reading, and talking to each other. A good portion of these ideas and suggestions were his idea, and many are mine. Some may think that this is topping from the bottom, but I don’t take it too seriously. This is all just in good fun for us.

Also, even though I talk about some of the stuff below being “forced”, that’s not to imply he hasn’t consented. We always have a safeword, and we discuss generalities before we decide on trying something new (although I do definitely surprise him with new activities to push his limits). Also, keep safety in mind with any activity. Not all of this is safe for every couple or every person. So, with all that out of the way, lets get to it!

I approach femdom by classifying activities into 4 categories, then I put them together for an experience. The categories I use are: Degradation/Humiliation, Pain and Control, Frustration/Teasing, and Service. I’ll go over activities in each then describe how I put them together.

DEGRADATION/HUMILIATION 

This is a very fun category and can include a lot of different things. Here’s a list of activities that I enjoy inflicting on him.

Forced feminization - I frequently make him wear women’s clothing during our sessions. This can include lots of different outfits. Feel free to mix and match to your taste. Amazon is great for getting lingerie on a budget. I like to go with really girly colors and patterns for my guy. My favorites are:

High heels. These are an absolute necessity. You don’t need to spend a lot of money on these, but you might want more than one pair if you insist his outfits match.

Lingerie. This can include teddies, stockings, babydoll, fishnet dresses, etc.

Just a pair of panties. This makes him feel very exposed. I like ones that ride up his little butt (cheekies, thongs), but still cover his entire penis. Don’t let him wear anything else.

Pasties. This is very, very fun. Pasties are cheap, and not something you ever see a man wearing. A pair of high heels, pink thong, and some pasties is great outfit for him to wear while he cleans the bathroom for you.

Schoolgirl outfit. This is a classic, and can lead to some incredible role-playing situations. The skirt should be short enough you can see his little white panties peeking out without even bending over.

French Maid. Another classic, useful for the Service category I’ll go into later.

Makeup. This is a favorite activity. I love giving him a makeover. Super slutty makeup is the best and can be combined with any outfit.

Tight jeans, yoga pants, leggings. Pair these with a skin tight top and you’ve got a great outfit for lounging around the house.

Short shorts. These can be cut off jean type shorts, yoga style shorts, or anything you like. The shorter the better.

Corset. Use this to give him a girlish figure!

Women’s bodystocking. These are hilarious. They come in all kinds of patterns and colors, and are really cheap.

Halloween costumes. Great for any time of year! Amazon has cheap playboy bunny outfits, tinkerbell costumes, sexy nurse, etc. There are so many to choose from!

Pegging/dildo play - This falls into the pain category as well depending on your mood. I really feel that in order to make this act as degrading as possible, its important to get a dildo that looks and feels like a real penis. It should have balls and be a realistic skin tone. It should also be at least slightly bigger than his own penis (within reason). A big aspect that makes pegging so humiliating is the mental side to it. Obviously, there’s some physical to it as well, but just being forced to “deal” with a dick is mortifying to most straight men. Some activities involving your strapon or dildo:

Deepthroat training. Let’s eliminate that gag reflex ladies! Seriously one of the most degrading things you can do to your man is fucking his face. I like to recreate positions from porn in this activity. Relax on the couch or chair while wearing your strapon. Put him on his knees and make him get to work. If he’s not going deep enough grab his hair and force his face down on that dick! Trust me, he can take it. Don’t be gentle. Make sure he maintains eye contact like a good little porn star! I also like to have him lay on his back on the bed or couch, with his head hanging over the side and cram my dick down his throat. Do this until he gags, over and over, he’ll be drooling all over himself soon enough. Have him lie down on his back, then straddle his upper chest/neck area so the only thing you can see is his face. Put your dildo in his mouth and jackhammer that thing down his throat. Don’t be scared of hurting him, even if your dildo is on the large side of realistic. he’ll eventually be able to take it balls deep. He might complain that it doesn’t fit. Well, its your job to MAKE it fit. Yes he’s going to cough and gag, a lot, yes he’s going to have a lot of drool and mucus coming out of his mouth. That’s OK. Don’t be deterred by any sounds, drool, or complaints. Also give him instructions and compliments when appropriate (“yeah, show me your tongue” “hands behind your back and open wide bitch” “give me that throat” “that’s a good little cocksucker”)

EDIT: I’ve received several questions about this point. I’ll clarify exactly what were doing here and why. When I make him suck my dildo, I’m not getting any physical pleasure out of it and neither is he. This is not meant to be physically pleasurable to us, it’s meant to make him feel like my bitch. When you do this, make it an ordeal he needs to suffer through. When he’s on his knees in front of you, fuck his mouth hard and fast. Really make an effort to get your entire dildo down his throat as you thrust in and out. Make him suffer here for quite some time, 5, 10, 15 minutes even. Don’t let him get away with pulling his head away or anything either. Make him keep your dick in his mouth, see how long you can keep it buried balls deep in his mouth, lock your legs around his head if necessary. His jaw and throat should be very sore after this ordeal, and his face should be a mess of slobber and spit. Once he can take your whole dildo down his throat without gagging, its time to upgrade to something longer and/or thicker. Your goal should be to have him performing at THIS LEVEL and he won’t get there without proper training.

Butt fucking. Work up to this using your fingers, plugs (he should wear a large sized one for a while before a pegging session), and other toys, but eventually your goal should be forceful pounding. Make him feel what its like to really get fucked. While pegging him, yank his hair, push his face down into the bed or floor, slap his ass. Be creative with positions and locations. One of my favorites is the tile kitchen floor, he doesn’t have to be comfortable while getting fucked. Use lots and lots of lube here, it makes getting your dick in a lot easier on both of you.

Dildo masturbation. Make him suck and fuck himself with a dildo or other toys for your amusement. This one can be done with very minimal effort on your part. Just give him a toy, order him to the corner, and tell him to get it up his ass.

Using other objects to fuck him with. This can be a lot of fun, but be careful. Some items I’ve fucked him with: Beer bottle, drumsticks, vodka bottle,

Forced Nudity - This one is simple, but you can spice it up with toys if you like. Simply order him to be naked while you remain clothed. If you like, make him wear a butt plug that you can smack and wiggle around while he gets you a drink. Put a collar on him if you want, or combine this with forced feminization from above (for example make him wear only high heels, lipstick, and a chastity cage for the evening). Sometimes its fun to combine this with pegging. I’ll strap my dick on over my jeans, while he’s completely naked. Its a very humbling experience for him. I also frequently have him sleep naked.

Forced Performances. This is very entertaining and again a low-effort humiliation. Sometimes I like to put on some music and have him dance for me. I’ll make him perform a little strip tease, twerk, etc. Sometimes I will have him masturbate for me. I’ll give directions. (these are great times for video recording)

Spitting. We’re getting a little more extreme here. Don’t be afraid to spit on your male. This can be especially degrading during pegging, even more so during deepthroat training. While he’s making eye contact, just launch a huge wad of spit right in his face. He’ll love you for it! It can also be degrading while you’re criticizing his performance to spit in his face.

Golden showers. We haven’t worked our way up to here yet, and to be honest, I don’t know if I want to. Something we have tried in this area though, making him lick me clean after I take a piss.

Verbal humiliation (Disclaimer: Talk to your partner about this first if you’re worried about crossing a line with him, because this can be emotionally charged.) I really like this, and to me, there are two components. 1. You degrading him with words. 2. Making him degrade himself with words.

You degrading him.

Name calling. Call him degrading names. This can include the following: Bitch, sissy, cunt, slut, whore, piece of shit, stupid, worthless.

Penis humiliation/emasculation. This is common on femdom porn sites. Make fun of the size of his dick, his sexual ability, the things he lets you do to him, etc. Terms like shrimp-dick, bitch boy, butt boy, fuck-hole, cum eater, cum dumpster, cocksucker, limp dick. etc.

Combine insults. Example: “You’re a little limp dick cocksucker.” “You’re a little cum eating bitch, aren’t you?”

Being forceful and insulting with your directions. Example: Instead of saying “get on your knees and suck my dick”, say “Get on your fucking knees and get this dick down your throat you little bitch.” Instead of using his name and telling him to bend over the kitchen table for his pegging, say something like, “Hey shrimp-dick! Get in here, bend over the table and get fucked.” Instead of saying come here and lick my pussy say “get over here and make me cum you little piece of shit”.

Tell him what you’re going to do to him later. Send him a text letting him know you’re going to make him eat your pussy and send him away hard and frustrated.

Order him to do things for you. *MOST IMPORTANTLY: Don’t be afraid to raise your voice, or even yell. Its encouraged in this situation that you will be very forceful with your voice. Yell in his face if he isn’t licking your pussy correctly. Yell in his face after you cum and tell him to get the fuck off the bed and do the dishes.

Making him degrade himself. This can be really fun.

Make him beg. Use this for anything, make him beg to fuck you, beg you to peg him, beg you to let him masturbate, beg you to let him eat his cum, beg you to spank him, etc. It doesn’t even have to be something he wants. The key to this though, is to make sure his begging meets your standards. If you don’t believe he really wants it, punish him and make him try again, and again until you really believe him.

Make him apologize. Maybe the orgasm he gave you was mediocre. Maybe he didn’t take your dildo up his ass with enough enthusiasm. Maybe when you told him to deepthroat your strapon, he couldn’t get his nose to touch your stomach like you insisted. He should be punished for such infractions, but he should also tell you how sorry he is first. (maybe after his punishment too.) Make sure he apologizes sincerely for any shortcomings. Shit, sometimes I make him apologize for having a small dick (even though he doesn’t).

Make him thank you. Did you let him have an orgasm? Did you fuck his little butthole really well? Did you let him lick your asshole? He needs to thank you for the privlege.

Make him confess. Make him tell you his fantasies. This works especially well if you have him on the edge of orgasm. Make him confess a deep, dark fantasy that he’s never told anyone before. (He’ll probably run out of ideas at some point, you can punish him for that)

Public Play. There are some really fun ways you can take this play out of the house for some really great humiliation that doesn’t involve violating other people boundaries.

Clothes shopping. I enjoy taking him to stores, wal-mart, target, etc. and picking out some really girly panties and outfits for him to wear. If there isn’t anyone around, I’ll occasionally make him go try them on in the dressing room.

Wearing plugs or other toys in public.

And finally, for one of the most humiliating things a man can ever do……

Swallowing cum and/or getting a facial. He fucking hates this, which is why I love it. Any time he has an orgasm during any femdom activity, he’s eating it or its going on his face. I don’t care where it lands, how he came, if it was an accident, or if he really doesn’t want to. That cum is going in his mouth and down his throat. There are a lot of ways to accomplish this, but I really enjoy planning ahead for it. Its also a huge turn on for him, knowing that he’s going to be forced to eat it, even though immediately after he cums he’s absolutely repulsed by it. Some of my favorite ways to do this are:

Make him cum into a condom, then empty it into his mouth.

Make him have a ruined orgasm (I’ll explain later) onto the tile or hardwood floor. Then make him lick it up. If he resists, shove his face in it. If you have carpet, that isn’t a problem. Make him suck the cum out of it until its all gone.

If you let him cum inside you or on you, make him suck the cum out of you or lick it off of you.

While he’s wearing a pair of panties, rub his dick until he cums in them. Then peel them off and make him lick it out, or smear them all over his face.

Flip his legs over his head into the piledriver position (good for pegging also) and make him shoot his load all over his own face. This is a favorite of mine, simply because of the role reversal mind fuck going on in his head. I also like making him leave the jizz on his face for the rest of the day.

Make him cum into a glass and then pour it into his mouth, or pour it all over his face and/or hair.

However he gets the cum into his mouth, occasionally I’ll have him “play” with it. Gargle it, show it to me on his tongue, drool it out and then suck it back up like a porn star.

EDIT: Ladies, he’s going to be much more compliant with eating his semen if he has had a ruined orgasm instead of a pleasurable one. I mention this below but I’ll go into some more detail here. When your man has an orgasm his sexual desire drops off a cliff. He won’t want to eat his cum and will resist. But if you give him a ruined orgasm, he doesn’t get much pleasure at all, and his sexual desire remains high, but he still can expel a good amount of sperm. The goal here is to make his semen come out of his dick without pleasure, but for most men, the pleasure and orgasm actually begins several seconds before he ejaculates. So I like to have fun with this. With him on his knees and his hands restrained I’ll stroke his dick until he gets very close to orgasm, and then when I think hes right on the edge, I’ll let go and watch. I’ll wait about 20 seconds and if no semen comes out, start again. If you’ve done this perfectly, his semen will leak out about 10-15 seconds AFTER you stopped stroking it. He’ll be left sexually frustrated, but you actually DID give him an orgasm, its not your fault he didn’t feel it! He’ll be much more compliant in regards to consuming semen in this way. I like to combine this with chastity sometimes too. I’ll have him locked in the cage for a few days, give him a ruined orgasm and then put him back in. Its wonderful!

ADDED HUMILIATION BONUS!

For added humiliation, I frequently take pictures and video of my pet during these humiliating sessions. I keep these and then use them later for addiitonal humiliaiton. Seriously, having a video of him, with his face covered in his own semen, apologizing for not deepthroating my strapon well enough, all while dressed in daisy dukes and a bikini top….well that’s just good entertainment. Sometimes I make him watch some of the videos with me and laugh at him. It always results in a giant erection in his pants, haha.

PAIN AND CONTROL

DISCLAIMER: It seems online, many people are nervous about this category, and with good reason. Its sometimes hard to tell what your partner is comfortable with, and they may not even be sure of it themselves. So take all of this slowly at first until you and your partner can figure out what works for you. That being said, I seek to push right up against my boyfriend’s limits here. This is where the “forced” part of the humiliation listed above becomes more real.

There are several ways to inflict some pain on your male, here are some of my favorites.

Face slapping. I really enjoy this. Nothing gets his attention so quickly as a pop to the side of his cheek. Several (5-6) in quick succession create a look of fear in his face that I love. He can take a lot of punishment here too, just watch out for his eyes and ears. This is an especially good thing to practice while you’re fucking his face or he’s licking your pussy and/or ass. Use your slaps to get his attention, give direction, and have fun. “I slap told slap you slap to slapfocus slap on slap my slap clit!! slap”

Hair Pulling. Grab his hair and yank his head around. Do this while pegging (in any position), while he’s giving you oral (or sucking your dildo), to lead him where you want him, to hold his head in place while you slap him, to force his face into a puddle of semen, etc.

Spanking/whipping. The most common. I like to use a belt, flogger, occasionally a cane.

Cock and Ball Torture. Another common theme on femdom websites. Here’s a list of techniques I use.

Squeezing/Pinching. Grab his balls and squeeze. Pinch the head of his dick.

Slapping. Simple. To make it hurt worse, you can grab his balls into one hand and hold them tight and steady while you slap.

Punching. Same as above but creates a lot more pain. :)

Kicking. Kicking him right in the balls after you just fucked his ass can be quite the experience for both of you. Take this one more slowly haha.

Nipple Play. Most people know about this already. Use clamps, clothespins, pinches, flicks, twists, and scrapes to inflict some pain here. He can take more than you think.

Chemical Play. Ok, we’re getting to some more extreme areas here again. This is not to be taken lightly, as many people’s bodies react differently. Here’s a list of things we’ve tried.

Ice cubes. Rub on his penis, balls, asshole, and nipples. This can sometimes eliminate a pesky erection in a pinch. I’ve inserted cubes into his anus as well, he doesn’t like that lol.

Ben-gay/Icy Hot. Rub this on the penis balls, taint, and anus. This creates a very unpleasant burning sensation. My pet feels very intense pain for about 10-20 minutes. It then subsides to a mild cooling sensation.

Tabasco/hot sauce. Same as above, rub on genitals and asshole. Your man’s experience will vary here depending on the type of sauce you use, the duration you leave it on, and the amount you use. I reserve this for serious punishment. I once poured some hot sauce on the dildo I fucked him with. Let’s just say he didn’t have a great night.

Electricity. You need to be even more careful here. My only experience is a dog shock collar. I attach the collar around his penis and testicles. It has a vibrate function (for when he’s been a good boy) and 8 levels of shocks. We’ve gotten up to level 6. He really hopes I don’t have to use 7 or 8 on him. You can experiment with the position of the collar on his genitals. If the contacts are touching his balls, he’ll feel it throughout his sack and his perineum. If you flip it over and the contacts touch the base of his penis, shocking sensations will affect his entire penis, all the way to the head. We’ve experimented with different levels here, and it seems his penis is much more sensitive to electricity than his balls are. Your man’s experience may vary. This collar also has a sound/beeping function that I use as a pager when I need him. If his balls beep, he has 10 seconds to be on his knees in front of me, regardless of his prior activity, or else he’ll face punishment.

Bondage and Restraints. I keep this simple as I don’t enjoy taking the time to set up intricate bondage situations. I’m sure my BF would like it, but its just too much effort when I can use simpler items to accomplish the same things. I own a few types of gags, a collar and leash, handcuffs, bed restraint system and, my favorite, a spreader bar (bar with cuffs for hands and feet).

Control. A lot of the more severe pain and control items above are essentially just a method to get my guy to do what he’s told. This is where the “forced” aspect really comes into play. For example, he absolutely hates eating sperm. But if I want him to eat sperm, he’s going to fucking eat it. So I use pain to get him to do it. One way I do this is with the electric dog collar and handcuffs. After he cums, and there’s a load of sperm sitting there on the floor, I give him a choice. Either put your face on it and suck up all that lovely sperm, or, get shocked in increasing intervals and strength. Eventually he’ll do it. This is an area where we’ve both agreed that he doesn’t get a choice any longer. He submits to being forced to lick his jizz off the floor.

Another example is dildo play. If i instruct him to deepthroat my strapon, and get the entire 7 inches down his throat while maintaining eye contact, that’s his job to do. If he doesn’t, I inflict pain. For example, I might start by slapping his face as a warning if he’s disobeying, increasing the strength and quantity of the slaps as I try to work the dildo down his throat. If that doesn’t work, I move on to other means. I may whip him with the belt, or punch his balls a few times then give him another chance. I increase the pain until he obeys. Its really fun to give him tasks that are hard to acheive. I also use pain as punsihment for failure. If he can’t make me orgasm in a certain time period, or its less pleasurable than what I expected, I may attach the spreader bar to his ankles and wrists, gag him, slather his cock and balls with ben-gay, and then go have a glass of wine while he contemplates how he can improve his performance next time.

This doesn’t mean I need a reason to hurt my toy. When we’re playing, I may slap him for fun or for no reason at all. If he’s getting pegged, he should expect to get popped in the face a few times just because I fucking feel like it. Maybe I’ll kick his little blue balls afterwards while he’s still on all fours on the kitchen floor, just because I want to be a bitch.

FRUSTRATION/TEASING

This is really quite simple. When we’re playing, I cum when I want, he cums when he’s allowed to. I enjoy making him suffer in this way, its honestly the most fun part of all this. There are a lot of ways I enjoy teasing and frustrating him and I’ll go over some of them now. There is one hard and fast rule in this game for us. He must always ask permission to ejaculate, no exceptions. He’ll be punished severely for an unauthorized orgasm or ejaculation.

Chastity. This is a must for us. While we don’t play 24/7, I enjoy making him wear a chastity device frequently when we’re apart. I work nights, so if I’m at work, chances are he’s locked into “The Vice”. This is a locking chastity cage, similar to others, only this one has an anti-pullout mechanism that makes it very difficult to remove without the key. Basically “The Vice” (available at  www.lockedinlust.com ) is a plastic sheath for his dick that attaches to a ring around the base of his balls. It prevents erections and masturbation very well for the price. I don’t want my man’s dick mangled by a piercing for this game we play, and some of the other devices out there require that to be secure. The Vice keeps it secure and out of his (or anyone else’s) hands. Its so empowering to be able to restrict access to his own dick. I have the power to grant him erections and orgasms, he can’t have them without me or my approval. The length of time he wears the device really changes, but is up to me. I usually don’t keep him in it for more than a couple days, but we’ve had times that I left him in there for over 3 weeks. He really wasn’t happy about the time I had to leave town for 4 days and took the key with me, AFTER he’d been locked up for a week already.

There are a log of fun chastity games you can find online. Some fun chastity games we play:

Try to cum. I enjoy leaving the device on him, and tell him to try to have an orgasm with it on (no vibrator allowed!). Its fucking entertaining to see him hump his hand, finger his asshole, shake the cage around, pinch his own nipples, etc. I like to offer some cheering words of encouragement here for him. Usually I have him do this on the floor in the middle of the living room while I sit on the couch and watch. He hasn’t been able to cum yet, but maybe one day he’ll get there. (Another great video opportunity)

Coin flip. If he’s been locked up for several days, I’ll strap him to the bed or handcuff him to remove the device. Then I’ll start stroking his dick until he’s very close to orgasm, right on the edge. Then I flip a coin, heads I finish him off. Tails, I immediately stop, put an ice pack on his dick and lock him back up once he’s soft again. Better luck next time honey.

Roll of the dice. If he rolls a six, he gets to cum. If not, that’s the number of days he stays locked up until he gets another chance. This went on for over 3 weeks for us at one point. He was really on edge lol.

Chastity can also play into the control aspect as well. Sometimes when we play I don’t take the cage off. For example, he doesn’t need an erection to get fucked in his ass or to use my dildo and vibrator on my pussy, so why take it off? If he starts giving me a bad attitude, I’ll simply add another day or two to his lockup time. I use this as punishment for disobedience when playing, so it gives me more control.

One of the big things you’ll notice if you start incorporating chastity into your sex life, is that he will become more and more agreeable and obedient as time goes on, if you restrict his orgasms. If we’re playing with chastity more seriously, I like to make him wait 1 to 2 weeks between orgasms. He has a high sex drive, so when I do this, he gets so horny he’ll do anything to get out of his chastity cage. Its really entertaining to see what I can get him to do. Once, after 13 days locked into the Vice, I insisted he detail my car if he wanted out of the device. He whined and complained, so I told him that he just earned himself another 3 days in the device, and I still expected the car detailed.

The MOST IMPORTANT thing when incorporating chastity into your sex life is this. SAY NO. Don’t be swayed by his begging, whining, or complaining. Firstly lets get this out of the way, no one NEEDS to have an orgasm. He wants to cum, he doesn’t need to. So lets get that little idea out of the way immediately. We have a rule, when he’s locked up, he gets to politely ask for an orgasm once per day. If I feel like it, I’ll have him earnestly beg me. This is great for extracting promises from him. But if I say no, he needs to shut the fuck up about it immediately. Occasionally I’ll say yes, but most of the time I’ll say no as I’ve already decided on how long he’s going to be locked up. Do not feel bad about this. In fact, relish your power here.

I get off on having him go down on me right after I tell him “No, you’re staying locked up.” While we both agreed to incorporate chastity devices into our sex life, the lockup duration is my decision alone. Use the device to modify his behavior to your liking. If you want something from him, sexual or not, give him the order. If he doesn’t comply, add time in the device. The power is intoxicating.

Teasing. Sometimes he wears The Vice around the house, sometimes not. But regardless I like to wear skimpy clothing, rub up against him, feel and squeeze his balls, ass cheeks, and body just to see him get a boner (or try to, hehe). I’ll take this a lot further sometimes, stroking his dick until he starts leaking precum, getting him close to orgasm, only to stop and tell him to calm down. Sometimes I even let him fuck me until I have an orgasm or two, then tell him to stop. This is delightfully frustrating for him. Other times I’ll leave him in the chastity cage and masturbate right in front of him. One of my favorite teases is to use his mouth to make me cum and send him away completely denied. Sometimes I tell him I’m going to make him cum, only to stop at the last second and tell him I changed my mind.

Ruined Orgasm. By far the funniest aspect to this whole femdom thing. Its really an artform. The basic idea is that you get your man very, very close to the point of orgasm and then stop all stimulation. If you do it right, he’ll just tip over the edge, and his semen will dribble out of his dick with barely any force, and next to no pleasure. This works best with his hands restrained so he can’t try to finish the job himself. I like to pair this sometimes with the shock collar to make it completely miserable.

SERVICE

So now we get to the fun part. A lot of the above is playing into my man’s fetish, and that’s ok. I do love him, and I don’t have a problem doing stuff for his enjoyment. But you can be sure I’m going to be getting something out of all this! A big part of femdom is serving the woman in the relationship. And I’ll detail how that all works for us now.

Sexual Service. This encompasses everything. If I want my ass eaten out for 2 hours while I watch TV, he does it. If I want a full body massage from a muscled, naked man, that’s what I get. If I want to fuck and get off two or three times, I get that. If I want my nipples sucked while I use my vibrator on myself, that’s what I get. Nothing is off limits to me sexually. I speak, he obeys. That’s just how it goes. I typically don’t orgasm from oral sex alone or penetrative sex alone, and sometimes it can take quite a while for me to get there. The point is, I get what I want. Not that I want him eating my ass for 2 hours necessarily, but I’ll make him do something like that sometimes just because I can. (Then sometimes make fun of him for it.)

Facesitting. I love sitting on his face. Its a great experience to cum all over his face. Sometimes I use just his tongue, while other times I’ll shove a dildo in his mouth and ride it while using my vibrator. I also have a gag that has a dildo sticking out of it. Whatever I’m using, its important that I’m only concerned with my own pleasure during this experience. Don’t worry about whether or not he’s able to breathe, if his tongue is tired, if his neck hurts, etc. In fact, its quite enjoyable to put him in intentionally uncomfortable positions for this. We have a hard wooden chair that I like to use for this. He’ll be required to sit on the floor and lean his head back onto the seat of the chair. This hurts his neck and head when I really start riding and bouncing on it, but who gives a fuck? He needs to focus on my orgasm, not his temporary discomfort.

As part of the sexual service aspect of femdom in our sex life, we’ve decided that he no longer decides when and where he gets to orgasm, when and where I get to orgasm, and he doesn’t decide on when or where any other sexual activity takes place. That’s up to me now. This doesn’t mean that he doesn’t initiate sex any longer, far from it. But it does mean he doesn’t get to complain, and he doesn’t get to turn me down when I want it either.

The goal of sexual service is two-fold. One, for you to get all the pleasure you want. Two, for him to feel completely objectified. When you are using him sexually, think of him as just another sex toy, a dildo that you can use up and throw away when you are finished.

But this isn’t limited to sexual service only.

Domestic Service. Basics. When we’re in femdom mode, he does the chores. All of them. We get to spice up mundane things like cleaning the bathroom and vacuuming in easy ways. For example, if the dishes need washed, and the kitchen mopped, I tell my bitch to get his maid outfit and shock collar on and bring me the large butt plug. While he gets dressed I may watch TV, text friends, do some shopping online, or anything else I want. When he’s ready, he lubes up the plug and I put it up his tight little ass. He then goes off to do whatever I’ve told him to do while I relax. After he’s done I may or may not inspect his work, if he did a good job then he may get a reward. His reward may be the privilege of kissing my asshole for example. If its not up to par he may get punished. This can be implemented immediately, or added to a play session later. If you are going to go this route though, I would suggest using punishments he really wants to avoid (extended chastity time, severe spankings, etc.) or else you may find him purposefully messing up in order to get some “punishment” he wants.

This applies to any chore we need completed. My laundry, dishes, car washes, lawn mowing (its funny seeing him on a riding mower when I know there’s a plug up his ass), cooking, etc.

Personal Service. These are generally intimate things that I want done for me. They can really play up the tease element as well. Some examples: 

Shave me. In the shower or bath, I like to have him shave my legs and pussy.

Toenails/pedicure. I pick the color, then he massages, moisturizes my feet. Then polishes my nails for me. He’s also responsible for removing any old polish from my nails. 

Massage. Sometimes just a shoulder rub, other times I’ll be nude and he is required to give me a full body massage with oil. I like for him to be nude for this as well. It’s really torture for him to give me a few orgasms afterwards and stay denied. 

Body worship. It can be really relaxing to have him kiss and nuzzle my thighs, feet nipples, and pussy. I especially enjoy having my asshole worshiped though. Just light kisses, licks and nuzzles. Basically he’s making out with my asshole. It’s a serious power trip to have him do this while I watch TV or play games on my phone, ignoring him except to give instructions if I want something done differently.

PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER

I’ve outlined several ideas and topics here, and now I’ll give an example on how I’ve put all of it together. Remember when reading this, its all in fun, and it doesn’t necessarily have to make a lot of sense. Remember, if your guy is into femdom, he likes a lot of this kind of stuff already.

I like to choose something from each category when we play, just to round out the session. Not always, but frequently.

For one session I decided we were going to do some pegging, so before I got home I told him to get himself cleaned up, naked, and get a plug in. I got home about an hour later, so he’d been stretched out for a little while. I got home, grabbed him by the hair and dragged him into the garage. I told him to get on all fours in the middle of the floor and wait. He waited there for 20 minutes. I know he was scared, he’d never been fucked on the garage floor before. It wasn’t clean, and he was completely naked except for the plug in his ass.

I came in turned all the lights on and started taking pictures. I was already wearing the strapon. I made him smile for the camera, and pose for me. It looked like a really trashy photoshoot. I took several pictures in varioius positions and then I told him it was time to get busy.

I lubed up my cock, slowly pulled out the plug and got to work. I fucked him on the floor of the garage for about 5 minutes, eventually really pounding him. I pulled him up by his hair, bent him over the hood of my car and pounded some more. I insisted he fake an orgasm like a girl. It was reallly funny listening him attempt to moan and scream like a woman orgasming.

Once he was done, I pulled him around by the hair and spit directly into his face. I told him that was the worst fuck I’d ever had and told him to “go clean my fucking bathroom”. He stared at me dumbfounded, so I slapped him hard in his face and repeated it louder. He quickly scurried off to the master bath. About 5 minutes later I came in and threw the strapon and butt plug on the floor and told him to clean up my toys as well. When he came and reported that he was done, I went to inspect his work. It was spotless.

So I told him to get himself cleaned up and ready for bed. As a reward I let him go down on me for a while and then use my vibrator to give me an orgasm. He didn’t get to cum that night. (but we did cuddle and watch a movie)

There are many more ways you can mix and match categories, and many of them run together. For example, you can facefuck your man with your strapon, while you rub his dick. Once you’re satisfied he’s learned how to deepthroat, pull him off and make him beg for the privilege of masturbating in your presence. You can record this on video if you like, then, make him eat his own cum on video. The possibilities are endless! Again, I know a lot of this isn’t “authentic” if you’re doing it for your submissive partner, but that doesn’t really matter to me. What matters is that we’re having fun, and I get what I need out of it too.

“But I am not gay” I said as she made my Tumblr profile.  “Josh, of course you are not gay, that is why it is time for you - a girl - to date boys.  We have been through this time and time again.  You wanted to be feminized.  You wanted dresses, stockings, and cute bra and panty sets.  You wanted your boy clothes thrown out.  So we did.  And look at you.  You are so beautiful.”

“You really think I am beautiful?”  “Josh, I mean Jennifer, if I was a guy, I would be all over your cute ass.  And look at those legs.  Just make sure to use a condom so you don’t get preggo.”  

That was all she had to say, that I was beautiful.  And then I got really girly and blushed.  “Well, I don’t think I can get pregnant” I said with a chuckle.

“So here is your profile: 26 tFemale, great legs, excellent kisser, and great at other things too.” 

With that, it was posted.  And just like that someone chose me.  A really, hunky older guy in his 40′s.  An executive type.  I love a guy in a suit.  And then it showed him in jogging shorts.  “Yum, I think you will like that” she said.  “But I have never been with a guy.  I don’t know what to do.”

Jennifer, she said, “I will teach you.  Learning to give a blow job is the hardest.  But the reward is great.  You just have to love it like a lollipop.  Keep sucking.  He will get pleasure no matter what you do.  And when he cums, you always keep it in your mouth.  You always swallow.  You never spit.  If he wants to give you a facial, that is his choice, but you have to swallow as much as you can.  A good girl always swallows.  Are you a good girl?”

“I guess so” I said.  “No, you are a good girl!  Tell me if you are a good girl or not?”  “Yes, I am a good girl.  I don’t let my reward go to waste.  I want my man to know how much he means to me and I will always drink his cum, no matter what” I said.  “Jennifer you are going to be a natural!”

With that, she set me a date.  The following week she helped me pick out a really cute little black dress, black thong panties, a cute black Demi bra, black heels, a necklace, and painted my nails.  She did my make up and hair.  I felt like such a woman.  Gary picked me up right on time.  We made small talk for a bit, had a drink, and went to dinner.  He treated me like a lady.  Opening my door, pulling my seat out, and afterwards we walked along the water.  I was cold so he put his sports coat on my shoulder.  And then we stopped and looked at the water.  He slowly put his hands around my waist.  I sighed.  He then turned me around, push my hair from my eyes, and kissed me.  He tasted so good and his manly scent.  He pressed himself against me, grabbed my ass, and kept kissing me.

After about ten minutes of kissing I said “that is really nice.”  “it was more than nice, it was heaven” he said.

I could tell he was excited as I could feel his bulge in his pants.  So I reached down and felt his cock.  It was huge.  He moaned.  He then looked at me and started to push me down.  “Not here” I said.  “Why not, no one is around and I really need your lips on my cock.”  

At that point I didn’t know what to do so I got down on my knees with my face at his cock.  I took his pants in one hand and slowly zipped them down with the other.  I couldn’t believe I was doing this.  But Sarah said it was time to be a girl and I am wearing girls clothes then I have to date men and if I am dating men I have to learn my place and know how to pleasure them.

I reached in his boxers for his cock and pulled it out.  OMG, it was huge.  I had never seen a real cock before, let alone touch one.  It was twice the length of mine and it was a big girth.  I didn’t know what to do, then I just remembered what Sarah taught me - treat it like a lollipop.  So I did.  I started kissing the tip and I licked it and I put it in my mouth.  I started sucking it.  It tasted so good.  He moaned.  Then he pushed my head and I swallowed it all.  I couldn’t believe. I felt like a natural born cocksucker.  

I kept sucking, deep throating as much as possible.  I just kept going.  Faster and faster.  His breathing was picking up.  He said he wanted to drop a load down my mouth now so he could fuck me longer tonight.  I just nodded, I mean, what could I do, I had cock in my mouth.  Then he said “don’t stop baby girl, don’t stop, I am going to cum.”  With that as my cue, I just kept sucking.  I felt his shaft straighten and his ball sack rise.  And then the flood.  OMG, the flood of hot, white sticky cum came.  I swallowed as quickly as I could so I wouldn’t drown.  It just kept coming, at least 7 full streams.  Finally it stopped.  I milked the rest out of his cock and thoroughly cleaned his cock before putting his cock back in his pants.  I swallowed every drop like a good girl.

He lifted me up and help me straighten my dress.  He kissed me like I had never been kissed before.  “You were wonderful baby girl.”  I blushed when he called me that.  He took me by the hand and as we walked back to his car he said “tonight I am going to claim you and put my seed in your pussy.  I hope you are ready to spend the night.  And tomorrow you are going home with a pussy full of come that will soak your panties.”  

“I am ready” I said. And off we went.

Choosing a Chastity Cage

FLR Tips is the sister site to FLR Info, where you’ll find introductory information about Female-Led Relationships. If you’re new to this, you should head over there. This site is about the practical, day-to-day aspects of FLRs. It is much more explicit and quite sex/femdom-oriented.

By making your man wear a chastity cage 24/7, you can control his erections and orgasms.

Stated matter-of-factly like that, it doesn’t sound like a big deal, but make no mistake - it is! Not only do you control his erections and orgasms, but he’ll be walking around with a constant reminder of your special arrangement, which goes a long way towards fulfilling his need for the arrangment to be rooted in something sexual and kinky.

In fact, I believe many FLR-leaning couples could simply add a constantly worn chastity device to their relationship and reap 90% of the benefits of a more elaborate FLR setup. The man gets his kink while at the same time building up his desire to serve, and the women gets her worshipping/pampering/sexual attention, without the ups and downs that comes with a man who can decide for himself when to become erect or have an orgasm.

But all of this hinges on the requirement that the man must wear the device constantly. Whenever you aren’t actively using his penis for something, it is securely locked away. In order to do this successfully, you’ll need a cage that works well with long-time wear, and that’s what the rest of this article is about.

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There are several factors you’ll need to consider when choosing a cage. Let’s go over them one by one.

Size

Men and their penises come in many different sizes, and you should choose a cage that fits your particular man. But what, exactly, makes a chastity cage fit?

In our experience, the most important factor when it comes to size, is that the part of the cage that holds the penis itself should be pretty short, so that even when his penis is in its most shriveled-up state, the tip of the penis will almost never have any clearance with respect to the tip of the cage - there should be contact at all times.

There are several reasons why this is a good thing. The most important one is that it makes night-time erections less painful. Somewhat unintuitively, the less room his penis has to grow, the less it hurts. When he can’t even get semi-erect, it prevents the cage from pulling too hard on his testicles (which is what causes the most pain).

Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy the thought of him having some discomfort during the night, while I am sleeping like a baby after receiving my massages and orgasm(s) for the night. Even a small cage hurts a little, especially in the beginning, but not to the point that it causes a real issue. I want my husband to sleep well too, for the most part - it’s important for his long-term health.

Another reason we like a small cage is that it really does prevent him from getting an erection. It’s not just a slightly crippled erection that hurts in that good way - there is no erection, period. He’ll swell up, of course, and push the cage away from his body a little, but that’s it. And we enjoy the fact that the control I assert over his erections is real.

Finally, a small cage is easier to hide under clothes, especially if you get one with an integrated locking mechanism (ie. no padlock required), which I highly recommend.

Material

Chastity cages typically come in three materials: Plastic, silicone and metal.

My distinct impression is that most people start out with a cage made of plastic. For the most part, they work really well as far as restricting the penis goes, and they are excellent starter cages to get a sense of how it feels to have one’s penis locked away, or how it feels to hold the keys to a man’s penis. And if you just want a chastity cage that you can use as a fun sex toy, they do the job admirably.

BUT, I do not want you trying to establish a long-term chastity regiment using a plastic cage. You see, the thing about plastic cages is that they are terribly unhygienic, in our opinion. After just half a day or so they’ll acquire an unpleasant odour, and they are notoriously hard to clean without being removed, which makes them simply unsuitable for our purposes.

Luckily, there’s a simple solution: Metal cages. I don’t know the chemistry behind it, but metal cages just don’t have any issues in this regard. And they are typically much more open, so my husband simply cleans the cage and its penile occupant every night with soap and water, while remaining locked, and it works like a charm. Both the cage and his penis dry up within minutes, with no moisture trapped inside the cage.

Not only that, but aesthetically speaking, metal cages are the only ones that work for me. They look masculine and shiny and incredibly solid (which they are), not to mention that they feel much better to touch and play with.

We have very little experience with the silicone ones, to be honest, and a big part of the reason is that they just seem too flimsy, too flexible. I’m sure they work for some people, but our tastes lie elsewhere.

So, metal it is. I’m sure you’ll find people who use plastic cages for long-term chastity with no issues, but this was pretty clear-cut for us. We moved on from plastic very quickly and haven’t looked back (or even sideways).

Security

By “security”, I mean the ability of a cage to ensure that the man is not able to free or stimulate his penis. The importance of this particular parameter probably varies wildly from couple to couple.

For us, it isn’t terribly important. I can certainly see the appeal in having a 100% secure cage, but not if it complicates things in any way.

Most regular cages can be escaped from. It might not be easy, and it might hurt quite a bit, but most determined men can find a way to pull their penis out and do the deed. It might be very difficult to put it back in without the key, though, so those who hope to be able to slip it out at their convenience and then put it back unnoticed may be in for a surprise. But frustrated men are resourceful, if anything, so I’m sure there are those who can do that successfully too.

It boils down to trust and intent. If the cage is intended to be a tool to help you as a couple to achieve the amazing life hack that a successful FLR relationship is, then the hoops he would have to jump through to free his penis without the key should be enough to remind him that he is not supposed to do that, and continuing on that path could easily end up damaging the relationship - not because chastity is important in itself, but because it is a violation of trust, which is bad for any relationship.

It’s very simple in our relationship: By mutual understanding, any attempt to escape or cheat when the cage is locked means jeopardizing the entire FLR part of the relationship. Others might have a more playful attitude towards this, maybe even develop it into a sort of cat-and-mouse game where he is always trying to escape and she is always trying to come up with ever more secure cages. That’s fine, of course, but not for us.

So why not dispense with the cage altogether, if it’s based on trust anyway? Many reasons! It’s not all based on trust, there is a real barrier to cross to be able to circumvent the cage. And even the most devoted man cannot just decide to never have erections, simply to please his woman. Not to mention the joy of having an actual, physical cage and an actual, physical key, that, for the most part, work exactly as intended. We get a lot of pleasure from the chastity cage.

If security is very important to you, and you are not afraid to take things pretty far, you should do some research on urethra cages and/or Prince Albert piercings and cages that are designed to integrate with them. I’ve also been told that there are outfits that make custom-built cages that can be very secure. These apparantly cost several hundred or even thousands of USD, but go nuts if that’s your thing!

Other considerations

Price is obviously a factor for many people. A quality metal cage actually costs less than many of the plastic ones, typically in the range of 25-50 USD.

I tried to dig up as many resources and tutorials as possible from old master posts and normals posts as a lot of people have been complaining about the lack of resource posts for trans women. If you have anything to add please go ahead

CLOTHES ETC

Fashion71 (F/M)

ClothingUnder10 

$5 Fashions 

TenFifteen 

TenDollarMall (F/M) (No international shipping)

Eastclothes 

Gojane 

Dresslink 

Moddeals 

dress lily 

sammy dress

brave store 

viejos amores

chiara fashion 

love culture 

ami club wear 

fashion 71

east clothes

Miss A  (Accessory/makeups $1 shop)

glitter  Accessory/makeups

kmms  Accessory/makeups

mba cosmetics  Accessory/makeups

Cheap makeup (ELF)

MAKEUP TUTORIALS ETC

How to hide stubble (Tumblr post)

How to Contour and Highlight Using Makeup (video)

How to Apply Eyeliner with a Spoon (video)

How to Apply Foundation (video)

How to Apply Blush (video)

How to Apply Eyeshadow (video)

tutorials for beginners

quality makeup for less money

choosing foundation

ask mod li about makeu

How to apply makeup for the absolute beginner

 [trans-specific, p. useful]

Foundation for Dark Skin (2) (3) What products are and how they are used

A brand that makes products specifically designed to go over stubble

What brushes do what

, 

(2)

How to Choose Foundation

How To Apply Eyeliner (Using Tape)

WIGS

amphigory

lock shop

funny wig

quality low budget wigs

cute hairstyles on pinterest

more cute short femme hair

hairstyle guide & beauty

GL Wigs

Wowwigs

Arda Wigs

Wig Salon

Hairbird

Others (in list format from a myriad of sources)

TUCKING

tucking and creating gaffe [video] 

tucking forum and thread 

Tucking How-to Guide

BREASTFORMS

sewing pattern for silicone bead forms

low budget diy breast forms [video] 

creating cleavage with bras [video] 

“illusion” cleavage with makeup [video] 

Realistic Breast Form Tutorial (Video)

The Breast Form Store

Cheap (Sale) Breast Forms

Breast Form Adhesive Discs (For wearing breast forms without mastectomy bra)

How to create cleavage using a silicone bra (video)

Measuring Bra Size for Trans Women

Mastectomy Bras with Built In Flap for Breast Forms

Breast Form Adhesive Discs (For wearing breast forms without mastectomy bra)

How to make home made breast forms

amoena

OTHER

Women’s Clothing Terminology Chrysalis (Lingerie for Trans Women, autoplay music) Cheap Control/Shaping Briefs TheLeelahProject (Provides free essentials to those who cannot afford them)

surgery booklet 

hrt booklet

Trans Health Matters: Trans Women

Bust enlarging pads

Bum enlarging shapers

Transgender advice and resources list

Female Dominance in 30 days.

Let’s face it.  You need this.  Dominant women get what they want, and people get out of the way of them when they go after it.  Either that, or they help them achieve it.  Dominance is a beautiful word, and you are a beautiful dominant inner goddess waiting to be released.

In the past, you let people walk all over you, including your husband.  You let friends, family, and others take advantage of your good nature.

In this article, we are going to teach you how to become a powerful, assertive, dominant woman that gets what she wants, when and how she wants its.

Sounds good right?

You bet it is.

However, this isn’t going to happen by reading this article once.

Bookmark this and register at femdomtraining.ca for more training in becoming more dominant.

You have years of patterns, behaviours, and reactions that all have formed part of you.

In this training session, we are going to unravel the pieces that do not work for you, and replace them with a strong, dominant woman who gets what she wants….

So listen to me very carefully right now.  This is an absolute must.  If you are going to learn how to become dominant, one of your first lessons is that you must learn self discipline.

The first discipline that is imperative for you to follow, is that you need to read this article every day for the next 30 days.

You have taken decades of your life to get to where you are right now and I am not about to be able to change you in 1 day.  However, if you give me 30 days in a row WITHOUT MISSING 1 DAY of reading this, you will change dramatically.  You can expect to find:

New found confidence and self discipline.

A 100% compliant obedient husband.

An incredible feeling of self worth and peace.

So let’s get started.

The dominant nature inside of you has always been there.  Every woman has it.  Few tap into it.

You and you alone are responsible for the way people treat you.  So, you will be re-training the people in your life to make sure that you are treated as the dominant goddess you are.

If you are to train people on how to treat you, it is not their say in what you do to train them.  It is yours, and yours alone.

Here are some proven methods to train your man so that he is 100% compliant and obedient to your will.  Always start with your man in training, because when you train him, others will follow.  To be dominant, one just needs to break another dominant person to their will, and everything else just starts to fall in place.

Pull your man aside at your earliest convenience, and have this discussion with him.

Let him know that for the next 30 days you will be training to be a dominant woman, and that his assistance in this is absolutely vital for your success.

You will require a few things of him.

Here is a list of things that you will require of him.

For the next 30 days while you are training, your husband is not allowed to cum.  There are no exceptions, and no feeling sorry for him, no matter how much he begs or pleads. NO orgasms for your man.  Period.

He is to do everything he is asked without hesitation, questions, or talking back on all matters inside and out of the bedroom.  Failure to comply will result in an extreme spanking.

He is to wear a chastity device of some kind for the full 30 days.  It will be taken off only for tease and deny sessions or penetrating sex, without any release for him.

Let him know too, that at the end of your dominance training for you to be a successful dominant, that you will require him to eat his own cum.  You will require him to shoot his load on you, and lick it off your body, and then profess to you that he surrenders his will, decisions, cock, mind, body and soul to you as his loving dominant wife.

These are your requirements for him.

Here is what you need to do over the course of these next 30 days.

1. Read this article everyday.

2.  Make him do things that he does not like to do in and out of the bedroom to push his understanding of what true submission is.

3.  Cum as often as you can by his hands, mouth, tongue, or toys.

As you start to do these things on a daily basis, your dominance will grow.

This is a REAL BOOTCAMP for your man, and it should not be pleasant for him, except for the new bedroom games you will be playing with him this month.

Aside from him doing ALL AND ANYTHING you ask for this entire month in the way of chores, in the bedroom, he will do anything you ask.  This is your chance to learn what true domination is.  This is how you awaken your desires, and unleash your inner goddess.

Your man has become your complete boy toy, with no restrictions on how you use him.

To complete training in the next 30 days, the end goal of this 30 days is to make your man eat his own cum.

Most men will gag, or hate the thought of eating their own cum, and your husband is likely no exception.  At the end of the 30 days, you are going to make him lick up every drop of his massive load off of your body, and profess to you, that he is yours eternally as your slave in and out of the bedroom.

He will do this out of sheer lust of not cumming for 30 days, and the training you will be doing all month long.

Each day, you will make him need to cum even more with teasing.  You will hint to him at times when he is very close to cuming, and desperate to cum, that the time is not right now.  Let him know that when the 30 days is up, he will be allowed to cum, but only if he eats his cum off of your body.  Constantly bring this up over the next 30 days.  You are planting suggestions in his head, so he will be able to follow through with what you ask.

Trust me when I say, that if you have him locked up for 30 days, he will do anything you want for him to cum, so this is what you want him to do.  The reasons you want him to do this, is so that you truly do dominate him.  It is all pretend until you make him do things he simply does not want to do under any circumstances.  Well, you are bending the circumstances so that YOU can make him do anything.  That is the purpose of domination.

IN this 30 days you will also fuck him regularly in the ass with a strap on, when you please.  If he protests, or is not in the mood, all the better.  This is when you do it the most.  Fuck him hard, and long until he begs for you to stop, and then a little longer after that.

This is an important part of submission training.  Each time you fuck him in the ass, he will feel humility, submission, and it works great coupled with orgasm denial to make him listen and respond to anything you say.

Make him do very degrading things during the month.

Here are some suggestions.

He should have a buttplug in as often as possible.  In fact, the only time he should have it out is when you are fucking his ass.  Somewhere in between always plugged and

sometimes plugged is likely the right place to be.  I am just a more dominant woman, and believe that my man should be plugged virtually 24/7.  It serves as a reminder to him that I am his boss.  If you try this, have 0 compassion when he begs you to take it out.  Say no.  Eventually, he will get used to it.  Use a metal one.  They are better for longterm use.

You should always make him get on his knees and suck your strap on for lube before you fuck him.

He will hate this, and you will feel very powerful with his inability to argue with you, or protest.

If he does, of course you know what happens.  He gets spanked extremely hard.

When he is in the kneeling position, and you enter your strap on into his mouth, grab the back of his head and slowly start fucking his face.  Think of the times when you were doing this for him.   Realize now, that you want him to feel true submission.

Start fucking his face hard. Make him gag on it.  Plug his nose with one hand, and fuck hard with your body and watch him gag.  This is great humility training.  It should be your goal to do this EVERYTIME you put on the strap on.  It goes hand in hand.  You need lube, and he is to provide it.

If all this humiliation becomes too much for him, and he wants to quit.  PERFECT.  You are doing a great job. If he doesn’t protest, find more humiliating things for him to do.  You are not doing your job right, if you he doesn’t want to quit at some point.  When he does  you tell him, that if he fails to do what you ask, that you will forget about all this femdom stuff, and he is to never bring it up again.

The part that most women do not understand in female dominance when they first get started, is that it is as real as you want to make it.  If you are just indulging in your husbands fantasies, and not really taking control by pushing your man into doing uncomfortable things, then you are really again, just being controlled by him.

In order for female dominance to become real, you must make it real, by forcing him to do things that he does not want to do.  You will either be done with all of this, or you will have the breakthrough, where you truly have brought your man to his knees in full servitude to you for the rest of your life.

Consider it like breaking a horse in.  Or training a dog.  Men are no different.  They can be trained to submit to your will on all matters but you do have to “break him in”.

What sounds better to you?

Indulging your mans fantasies….. or taking control of your man, your life, and your reality.

I know what I choose.  Join me, and make your man your bitch.

Take him, break him, mold him, and have a relationship with him, that few ever get to experience.

A relationship that puts you on a pedestal, with him serving you as you wish.

A relationship, where chores are the mans job, (unless you want to help), orgasms are an obligation for the men to give, and a privilege for him to be granted rarely for exceptional servitude.

This is your world now.  You are dominant, and your man is your submissive.  He asked for this, but he didn’t realize what it meant.  Too bad.  Either you take him now, or your window of opportunity will pass you by.

Do you want to be the passive, obligatory, serving wife, indulging your man’s fantasies, or do you want to be the dominant goddess that has all of her own fantasies fulfilled.

Make your man your bitch.  That is the secret to life for all womankind.

Now, that this article is almost over, you want to remember everything that we have discussed here.

You are now the dominant goddess of the house.

What you say goes, is what goes.

There are no exceptions.  What you want is what you get.

Be disciplined with yourself, and do not do things that contradict your dominance.

Your temple is your body and mind.  You and you alone can take your body and mind to places it has never been without the aid of alcohol or drugs.

Dominant women get a buzz off of dominating their men.  This is a high for you. You are now addicted to dominating your man.  You control him in every facet of your life and are free to explore boundaries limited only by consent, in which you can bend and manipulate to your favour.

Now, be a sweetheart, or a good sissy, and share this with as many women as you can.  The world needs more of us sweetie.  Help the cause.

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I tried to dig up as many resources and tutorials as possible from old master posts and normals posts as a lot of people have been complaining about the lack of resource posts for trans women. If you have anything to add please go ahead

CLOTHES ETC

Fashion71 (F/M)

ClothingUnder10 

$5 Fashions 

TenFifteen 

TenDollarMall (F/M) (No international shipping)

Eastclothes 

Gojane 

Dresslink 

Moddeals 

dress lily 

sammy dress

brave store 

viejos amores

chiara fashion 

love culture 

ami club wear 

fashion 71

east clothes

Miss A  (Accessory/makeups $1 shop)

glitter  Accessory/makeups

kmms  Accessory/makeups

mba cosmetics  Accessory/makeups

Cheap makeup (ELF)

MAKEUP TUTORIALS ETC

How to hide stubble (Tumblr post)

How to Contour and Highlight Using Makeup (video)

How to Apply Eyeliner with a Spoon (video)

How to Apply Foundation (video)

How to Apply Blush (video)

How to Apply Eyeshadow (video)

tutorials for beginners

quality makeup for less money

choosing foundation

ask mod li about makeu

How to apply makeup for the absolute beginner

 [trans-specific, p. useful]

Foundation for Dark Skin (2) (3) What products are and how they are used

A brand that makes products specifically designed to go over stubble

What brushes do what

, 

(2)

How to Choose Foundation

How To Apply Eyeliner (Using Tape)

WIGS

amphigory

lock shop

funny wig

quality low budget wigs

cute hairstyles on pinterest

more cute short femme hair

hairstyle guide & beauty

GL Wigs

Wowwigs

Arda Wigs

Wig Salon

Hairbird

Others (in list format from a myriad of sources)

TUCKING

tucking and creating gaffe [video] 

tucking forum and thread 

Tucking How-to Guide

BREASTFORMS

sewing pattern for silicone bead forms

low budget diy breast forms [video] 

creating cleavage with bras [video] 

“illusion” cleavage with makeup [video] 

Realistic Breast Form Tutorial (Video)

The Breast Form Store

Cheap (Sale) Breast Forms

Breast Form Adhesive Discs (For wearing breast forms without mastectomy bra)

How to create cleavage using a silicone bra (video)

Measuring Bra Size for Trans Women

Mastectomy Bras with Built In Flap for Breast Forms

Breast Form Adhesive Discs (For wearing breast forms without mastectomy bra)

How to make home made breast forms

amoena

OTHER

Women’s Clothing Terminology Chrysalis (Lingerie for Trans Women, autoplay music) Cheap Control/Shaping Briefs TheLeelahProject (Provides free essentials to those who cannot afford them)

surgery booklet 

hrt booklet

Trans Health Matters: Trans Women

Bust enlarging pads

Bum enlarging shapers

Transgender advice and resources list