necromancer? i hardly know her

But since I’ve gotten too disabled to fight anymore, I… find myself coming back to that maiden in a tower. It’s that funny thing, where subverting femininity is powerful for the people who have always been forced into it… but for the people who have always been excluded, the powerful thing can be embracing it.

As I’m disabled, as I say to groups of friends, “I can’t walk that far,” as I’m in too much pain to keep partying, I find myself worrying: I’m boring, too quiet, too stationary, irrelevant. The message sent to the disabled is: You’re out of the narrative, you’re secondary, you’re a burden.

The remarkable thing about the maiden in her tower is not her immobility; it’s common for disabled people to be abandoned, set adrift, waiting at bus stops or watching out the windows, forgotten in institutions or stranded in our houses. The remarkable thing is that she’s like a beacon, turning her tower into a lighthouse; people want to come to her, she’s important, she inspires through her appearance and words and craftwork.  In medieval romances she gives gifts, write letters, sends messengers, and summons lovers; she plays chess, commissions ballads, composes music, commands knights. She is her household’s moral centre in a castle under siege. She is a castle unto herself, and the integrity of her body matters.

An agent is a person with will power, a person who makes choices, a person who acts according to their own desirea. That’s actually the root meaning of the word, “one who acts”. Whereas an object is just a thing with no power to make decisions for itself.

OP’s “the maiden in the tower” has physical or mental-emotional limitations, sure. After all, the maiden is (most directly) a metaphore for being disabled. But the maiden is still respected enough as a person (by others or by the narrative) to be able to makes choices within those limitations. Those choices are then treated (by others or by the narrative) like they matter. That’s the important part.

Compare OP’s “the maiden in the tower” with a stereotypical “the damsel in distress”. The real problem with that trope is that the damsel is not an agent in the story, but merely an object. The damsel is ostensibly a person, yes, yet the narrative and the characters don’t treat her like a person; she might as well be a thing (like an amulet or a really good burrito) for all that she’s allowed to act on her own desires. It’s not a sexist trope just because it’s about a woman needing to be saved, but because the woman herself doesn’t actually matter to a story that is supposed to be about saving her.

guys... guys... since phm and iron lung are enjoying popularity among the masses, i believe it is my duty to inform you about sunshine 2007 (dir. danny boyle). if you love a good patron saint of one way trips, then this movie is for you. it is truly one of, if not the best space movie i've ever watched. an underrated, beautiful, haunting, hopeful film that deserves so much love.

The Ilya we see in Heated rivalry would not be throwing the first punch, he's not an enforcer. Ilya is a star center and a Pest. He wouldn't be doing his job correctly if he was punching players every other game, it would end up with not enough ice time to let him be the playmaker he's paid to be.

But being a pest can be playmaking! Find a player to bait, emotionally push them just enough that they try to fight you, and then get the fuck out of there before the ref gives you both penalties. This gets your team the power play. There is probably someone on Ilya's line dedicated to helping him get out of the fights he starts, and finishing them for him!

I also think this is also something that Shane would respect. Ilya is good at it and it's a good strategy for his team. I don't think Shane would see it as some dirty tactic, because Shane probably thinks everyone with a brain can see it for what it is! He probably thinks everyone should be able to see that being an asshole is a tactic for Ilya, that it's something to ignore and not fall for, that it's a strategy and not personal beef.

thought you might be interested in this old article where the journalist absolutely fell in love with him over the space of a night

great interview. here are my highlights.

1. seems to really like halloween

2. stopped 6 times to buy candy

3. tried to pee on the coney island beach in front of the interviewer but was too nervous

4. gave the interviewer a diorama with a CD accompaniment

5. at 2am they meet some fun transgender individuals and it is revealed this was the day gay marriage was legalized in NY

Entwined 🧡

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