An interest in another character in the same movie, is it possible??

How does that work??

Absolutely not! There's no rules against that.

There's lots of different ways to handle that. Some people write out their f/os canonical love interest all together, some use self inserts to replace them, some rewrite their relationship to be something else, you can do whatever you want.

Shane's canonical love interest in my own canon is a close friend of his instead, and a close friend of mine for example! Doesn't get in the way of us being married at all.

Jackson's canonical love interest in my own canon is an ex and they're no longer romantically involved at all, he's all about me!

(Yeah for those who don't follow my other ship blog I uh- havetwonewboyfriends ANYWAAAAY)

Okay so I just had a jealousy ask that I referred to this ask right here on how I see our relationships that may help curb jealous feelings, I also suggest you take a look!

My F/O is the One. I love him so much and he loves me too. I'm gonna marry him.

But something that kind off rubs me the wrong way, is the fact that he's rather popular and that some people consider him as their F/O too.

How do I handle feelings of jealousy?

Okay, so as far as measuring how much time you've been together I it's personal preference. A lot of people I see measure the amount of IRL time they've been in love with them as the time they've been together, others have that and then an internal canon time they've been together. It really doesn't matter, it's completely up to you. Example, I've been with Frank for 4 years but in canon I've known him for almost a decade and I've been with him maybe 2 years give or take.

As far as when you should get married.. that's entirely up to you to! If it feels right, and you've been thinking about doing it, do it! I never saw myself marrying Frank, just because of the type of person he is and the type of lives we live in my canon but recently I just could not stop thinking about it and I really wanted nothing more than to call him my husband instead of my boyfriend so I said screw it, I'm marrying this man!

Thanks again

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I have a question that's constantly on my mind 🥺 the thing is I'm a selfshipper that loves the idea of my f/os getting jealous about me, angst included. I love those scenarios (in fiction). Even including some small arguments (nothing really serious). I know it may sound bad but it's just that it makes me feel like I have their attention and honestly it makes me feel good.

Is all of that wrong/unhealthy? Should I feel bad about that? I know every experience is unique in the ficto community but I would really appreciate an opinion 🥺

Also I know if it was irl I wouldn't feel comfortable about all that drama, cause I don't do romantic relationships irl, not my area.

Btw, thanks for existing ✨

Awh, no thank you!

Hm, I mean to be honest I'm sort of an angst queen myself. I'm infamous in my fiction for not letting my babes be happy. (Sorry, Frankie <3) I'm not gonna sit here and say you should feel bad for enjoying that type of dynamic in your own fiction, or that there's something like- inherently wrong with you because of it. A lot of us enjoy things in fiction that we would not be down with IRL.

But what I will say is that maybe it'd be good to consider what about that sort of thing in fiction does it for you, you know? I think we should be doing that with a lot of things in general, you'd be surprised what you learn about yourself. Maybe you find something you don't like and would like to change, and maybe you just get to know yourself a little better. I think there's a lot to be said about why the things we like make us feel the way we do, not just about ourselves but the environment around us as well. Sometimes the media we consume itself leads us to developing associations between things like jealousy and being wanted that applied to reality are unhealthy but seeing it depicted evokes romantic feelings even if we know it shouldn't in the real world. See here everyone that ships Harley Quinn and the Joker. We know the relationship would be horribly abusive and toxic in practice, but there's still legions of people who see them in comics and on screen and love to see them be together. You can be a fan of whomever but I think it's important to deconstruct why that is and make sure we're not applying that anywhere else.

I have answered this before! but it's been awhile so I'll go ahead and answer again.

Long and short of it; No, I don't find it unhealthy.

Example, aromantic people exist and are completely valid! Some aromantics do still date, plenty don't! Some experience romantic attraction rarely or under very specific conditions, some never do! I'm not saying that you're aromantic or that you have to be ace to self ship or be fict, but what I'm trying to say is that there are groups of people that for one reason or another have zero interest in being in romantic or sexual relationships with people and it's totally fine. Sometimes it's a lifestyle choice (like, being more into developing their career for example), sometimes it's an orientation, sometimes we really just don't have any interest.

Hey, Sock. I'm so sorry you're getting nasty messages about your relationship. Anyone here who knows you, knows you're an incredibly kind person and in no way shape or form deserves to be torn down like that.

This is what I mean when I say people need to learn to tailor their online experience to their liking. Maybe it does bother someone to see an age gap despite both parties being well into adulthood (aka not 18 or 19, we're talking late 20s), that's fine I'm sure they have their reasons, but in that case PLEASE just block or black list whatever it is that's bothering you. Sending hate to someone like Sock is not the flex or "activism" you think it is. To everyone; Absolutely keep yourselves safe, keep away from people who do things that make you uncomfortable, and just have a good time.

Hey, anon! I guess it has been quite a long time since I've answered this question and it has changed a bit.

I've started writing fanfics, and that's been really fun. I'd written some years ago but I had a hard time not caring if they were good or not and just writing for fun so I stopped. I've picked it back up and while it's still a personal mission for me to allow myself to write for my own self indulgence and not worry what it reads as to other people, it's been really good for me.

I don't know if this counts as interaction per say? but it helps me feel closer to them to keep some of their stuff around. So, I do have Shane's necklace that I wear but I also have a hat of his that I hang around my space just to have. I know this may not be super possible for everyone since it involves spending money or your f/o may outright not have things of theirs available for purchase. I do suggest maybe crafting something of theirs and keeping that! Think small, like trinkets or accessories rather than super prominent props, that's what really sells the feeling.

This is also not super possible for everyone but I have a small friend group now that I can openly talk about my f/os to without referring to them as f/os. Shane is my husband, and Frank is my boyfriend, no other stipulations needed. We all blab and gossip about our relationships the way anyone else would and that feels pretty cool too.