#fictosexuality

Yapping freely about your interests with your f/o because you know they genuinely enjoy hearing you talk about what makes you happy

Being able to let out your sincerest, loudest laughs around them with no fear of being judged

Being quiet together because they aren't pressuring you into filling the silence

Crying in front of them and knowing they won't think less of you

Getting excited over something small, and they don't really get it, but they somehow match your energy nonetheless

Feeling like you can finally breathe and be yourself because there isn't a single version of you they don't adore

Your f/o(s) loving you unconditionally>>>

the "ol' ball n' chine" in question:

lol I'm not even back in school yet, but i should be soon, but who knows!

In his world

In his clothes

Laying beside him

His hand in mine

I would happier in his world

Then I’ll even be in this one

And that I am certain

If he were here now

I would run off with him

Faster then you could blink

To feel his embrace

To run my fingers in his hair

To hold one I truly love

Like no one I can in this world

A friend a family member sure

But love doesn’t come easy in this world

It would with him

Or so I tell myself

i feel like those who date irl are often still accepted as selfshippers, because "it's weird but it's ok cuz it's only a hobby". but all hell breaks loose when you genuinely view a chara as your partner, especially if you don't want one irl.

the amount of times i've heard/seen stuff along the lines of "err it's kinda concerning when ppl treat a f/o as their real partner", "dw you will still get an irl partner", "not to offend anyone but it's a major red flag about someone's mental health if they're fictosexual" from people that claim to be extremely accepting & inclusive of ace (and generally queer) people is... concerning, especially on tiktok/yumetok. it sucks when you can't feel safe & accepted even within your own community.

genuinely it's a hypocritical madness – along with so many other casually aphobic things but that's a whole different topics.

and the assumption that we're the most insane, unstable people you could ever meet are pretty much used to stigmatize us.

literally a majority of fictosexuals i've met are the kindest, most accepting and least controversial individuals. or maybe i've only met the right people, dunno.

so since i can't talk for others, let me tell you about "why" i personally am fictosexual.

i am a mentally stable person (mind you, i – and many ppl i know – actually BECAME mentally stable by selfshipping) & often get told that i'm highly emotionally intelligent. i look like the most basic bitch you could meet, too, and am told i'm attractive. and guess what? i'm STILL a selfshipper despite being "so normal".

"but you're pretty! you could easily get a bf!"

I. DON'T. WANT. ONE.

literally, irl relationships just don't interest me. i feel no connection to anyone. i prefer being alone and am easily exhausted from social interaction. i see no reason to waste my time & energy on someone i feel nothing for only so i can "have a partner". the concept of physical intimacy is nice but the thought of doing the act irl disgusts me an insane amount. i don't feel sexual attraction towards actual bodies. i like the idea of romance, but the thought of actually having to do romantic stuff feels odd.

i am aroace. i guess you could also call me aego. and, of course, ficto – because i actively only feel romantic and sexual attraction towards fictional characters.

i am in no way defective. it's just that various circumstances make it hard to impossible for me to feel irl attraction, while things are different with characters.

aphobia is already a barely talked-about issue, especially because mainstream culture in general is aphobic. otherwise we wouldn't have such a massive virgin-shaming problem & "virgin" being used as an insult actively, and in general people measuring their desirability by body count or whatever :)

fictosexuality is just another form of attraction, another form of being on the asexual spectrum. it's not an illness, just an attraction pattern.

i was getting really stressed out trying to draw in my "real" drawing program so i just did it in ms paint instead :3

I love him. No I don't think he's real. But my feelings are real and they are not a delusion. My graysexuality is real. We don't need to "get over" our feelings and trying to find community and demanding basic respect because "the bigots will make fun of us if we keep inventing new microlabels!!". You know where shit goes when people start going by that mentality.