Maybe Tomorrow

adarra

“Bi woman brings shitty/violent homophobic boyfriend into lgbt safe space.”

Let’s think about that as a reason to exclude bi women from spaces if they want to bring a boyfriend..

What is the alternative for that bi woman? Being excluded from her community with her shitty homophobic boyfriend and being further isolated with this person.

The lgbt community is a community for a reason. OBVIOUSLY safety is the priority. So why is the safety of bi women so easily discarded?

The response to a bi woman with an unsafe boyfriend who likely will not allow her in these spaces by herself is to help her !!! Protect her ! Support her!

Like hello?!?

“Bi women can’t bring their boyfriends because they might be shitty and hate the lgbt and we need to think about safety.”

So we .... leave the Bi women alone with men who hate them? That’s the solution that keeps the community safe? Only when bi women aren’t members of the community.

honourable mention of course to Abra:

but the winner is:

[Note: When J. Elliot refers to her being classed as one of ‘your people’ in relation to black people of color, it’s based on her reputation of being an outspoken, anti-racism ally].

“Abolish I.C.E.

Also, when we move too much during an argument, or lean forward, it’s scary, and I never knew. I was even a little insulted at first, because surely she didn’t think I would hurt her. But see, that doesn’t matter. It wasn’t a sign that she mistrusted me specifically; it’s a conditioned response. (Although if you keep doing it once you realize it scares her, she SHOULDN’T trust you.)

Not every woman has been physically harmed by a man she trusted, but every woman KNOWS a woman who has.

I used to be horrible about this, because I didn’t realize how intimidating it was. I didn’t understand why the woman I was with clammed up or tried to tell me what she thought I wanted to hear, and I only got angrier, and acted even more like an asshole. It was wrong. It was abusive. It didn’t matter if I INTENDED it that way; it was still emotionally abusive. And it was inexcusable.

I get that when passions are high, and when you’re frustrated, it’s a natural tendency to let your voice get louder, to shout and gesture and lean forward. But you can train yourself to do better. You can train yourself to keep more of an even tone, to refrain from large and fast gestures, to not lean into her personal space. I did. I’m not perfect at it yet, but goddamn it, I WILL be.

History is littered with the bodies of women who believed a man “would never.” This includes women killed by men who honestly, deeply, truly believed they “would never”… right up until she said that one thing or moved in just that way and he just got so mad, just that once, and pushed her or punched her or slashed her or shot her… just once, y’know, to shut her up, or because she was flinching and didn’t she know that HE’S NOT LIKE THAT and I’LL TEACH HER TO BE AFRAID OF ME…

We are trained, from infancy, that Men With Loud Voices are a source of pain from which we cannot escape, and attempts to escape may result in more pain. And as soon as we’re old enough to comprehend a world broader than our immediate circle, a world that extends into the past and will run into the future, we realize that there is no way, no way at all, to tell which men “would never” and which men “would never… except if.”

We live or die on that “if.” And any man who doesn’t like facing that hyper-vigilance can work on fixing OTHER MEN, not women’s fear.

The reaction shouldn’t be “not all men are like that;” it should be “no woman should have to live in fear.”

She said “thank you, have a good day” in Catalan to a Spanish cop, and now she has to pay a fine of 200,000€ (222 927$) because of her language.

She works in the airport of Palma, in Mallorca. The island’s native language is Catalan (in its Mallorcan variant, of course), but since Spain invaded the island and the rest of Catalan-speaking territories in the 18th century, Spanish has been imposed (by law, by “prestige”, by force, and through the humiliation and stereotyping of Catalan speakers) every time more and more.

Like every day, she went to her workplace and had to pass a security control, but this time the machine made the sound like it detected something. It happens sometimes. So a Guardia Civil (Spanish military police) inspectioned her, and saw she had nothing dangerous and let her pass to her work. When leaving, she said “gràcies i bon dia”: “thank you and have a good day” in Catalan.

The policeman got very angry because she had used Catalan, and started threatening her and saying that “you must speak Spanish to the authority”. For this, he sued her for “threatening the security of the airport” and wants her to pay a fine of 200,000€.

Last week a man was arrested in the Valencian country for the same reason, just for speaking Valencian-Catalan to a Spanish policemen (we talked about it in this post). And before him, many more as explained in that post.

I’ve seen a few of these “Latino vs. Hispanic” diagrams on tumblr but none of them have been correct, so I decided to make my own.

Hispanic: relating to, characteristic of, or derived from Spain or Spanish-speaking countries that have a historical connection to Spain.

The word “Hispanic” comes from the Latin word Hispania, which was the Roman name for the Iberian Peninsula and its provinces, now known as España (Spain).

People from Spain and Spanish-speaking Latin American countries alike are Hispanic, since Spain colonized the Latin American countries that now speak Spanish.

Latino (Latina/Latine): relating to, characteristic of, or derived from Latin America. People from Latin America are Latine*.

These are countries that were (1:) colonized by European countries (i.e. Spain, Portugal, France) and where (2:) Latin-based languages (i.e. Spanish, Portuguese, French) were imposed upon colonization.

Many people from Latin America are both Latine and Hispanic, but not everyone from Latin America is also Hispanic.

Check your geography: Spain is in Europe, not Latin America; people from Spain are not Latine**.

BONUS: Spanish: relating to or characteristic of the Spanish language, or a person specifically from Spain.

Not everyone from Latin America that speaks Spanish is “Spanish”, unless they or their family are from Spain.

If you say “that person is Spanish”, you are saying that they are from Spain, not that they speak Spanish. So it is only correct if that person is actually from Spain. Spanish-speaking person =/= Spanish person.

Notes:

Some of these terms are very U.S.-centric. “Hispanic” was first adopted by the U.S. government during the Nixon administration and has been used in the U.S. Census since 1980. The U.S. government also adopted the term “Latino” as a way to identify and segregate mixed white, black, and native “mestizo” or “mulatto” people of Latin America.

Most people in Latin America will refer to other Latine people based on their nationality, so the terms “Hispanic” and “Latino” are less often used in Latin America than in the United States or elsewhere.

Even though these terms have specific definitions and their differences should be understood and respected, this is a question of identity. This means that not everyone from Latin American countries want to identify as Latine for a number a reasons, but namely indigenous people who don’t want to identify with their White European colonizers (for obvious reasons).

In addition to the previous point, there are also places in the Americas/Caribbean that are not technically considered to be Latin America due to the non-Latin languages spoken there (i.e. Belize, Suriname, Guyana, Jamaica, etc.), but that does not mean people from those countries can’t identify as Latine. A lot of their cultures and traditions and histories overlap due to their geographical locations and the similarities in European Colonization that they endured.

Thus, it is important to understand these definitions, but move forward knowing that we - especially people outside of Latin America - do not get to decide these identities for everyone, because there are many factors that go into how people identify themselves, and sometimes they are more important than dictionary definitions of terminology. This also applies to U.S.-born people with Latin American family, but struggle with how to identify themselves: there is no right or wrong way to identify yourself. You are the deciding factor of your own identity.

*Why am I using the word “Latine”?

I’d like to do a small correction: Hispania as OP says is the Roman name of the Iberian Peninsula, but the Iberian Peninsula is NOT just “Spain and its provinces”. Portugal is also in Iberia, and Andorra is sometimes counted as well.

Idk why many people from the USA believe this, but PORTUGAL IS NOT A PROVINCE OF SPAIN.

And there are many cultures that are native from Iberia such as: Portuguese, Galician, Asturian, Basque, Leonese, Castilian and Andalusian (Spanish), Catalan-Valencian, Aranese (a small part of the Occitan people who live in northern Iberia) and Aragonese. All these with their own language(s), culture, and history. As well as different Romani cultures who have also been living here for centuries and developed their own dialects and culture.

In my experience most of those people will not think of themselves as Hispanic because we’ve never had to think in USAmerican terms about ourselves, unless we move to the USA, in which case most might use it.

It’s true we don’t use those terms as much outside of the USA, but there is another term we use quite a lot which is Ibero-American. It refers to both Iberia and the countries in Latin America colonized by both Spain and Portugal.