i was at a grocery store really late one night and some old guy kind of eyed me as i walked out of the store next to this other lady. She and I made eye contact and i knew she was scared too. we loaded up our groceries into our cars as fast as possible and I had way more bags than her so she got done faster than me. I panicked because i was sure she was going to leave so i just hurried faster, shaking a little, and then i noticed she sat in her car, watching me and making sure nobody came near. She waited not until all my groceries were loaded, or until my cart was put away, or until I got into my car. No, she didnβt drive away until I drove away.Β
And that was the moment that I realized how much women need other women. That we canβt win this war without each other and we have to be looking out for each other, every second.Β
my last year in new york city, i got off the subway around 9 or 10p.m. i only lived about 5 blocks from the f train, but i hadnβt gotten more than two before a womanβs hand suddenly touched my arm.Β
βthat guy behind us is following you,β she said. βhe was watching you leave the train car and followed you up.β
i hadnβt noticed him, or at least not noticed him following me. when we stopped outside a grocery store, he stopped half a block back and loitered. the woman linked her arm with mine and walked me several blocks out of her way to my front door and made sure i got inside safely.
another time, nocigar and i were walking home and at a stoplight a stranger grabbed my arm when i wouldnβt respond to him and tried to physically drag me over to him. sheβwho is, by the way, not a very physically imposing girlβripped his hand off my arm and snarled, βdonβt fucking touch her.β
protect your friends. protect strangers. there are good men in the world, but donβt wait for them to do something if you can do it yourself.
I was at a club once and my friend left with her boyfriend so I finished my drink and was heading out to the parking lot when three girls came up to me and basically surrounded me.Β
βThose guys behind us were talking about following you. We can walk with you.βΒ
I have MMA training but have never in my life had been offered the protection and sanction of my own gender. This is so important.Β
GIRL CODE. FUCKINβ GIRL CODE. LEAVE NO GIRL BEHIND. EVER.
