How do I (erotically) hypnotize others?
The first thing (Well⌠one of the first things) you need to know about hypnosis is that itâs a completely natural state. People enter trances all the time without even realising thatâs whatâs happening.
Any time you become very focused on something, youâre in some form of hypnosis. It happens when you lose track of time because youâre embroiled in a book. It happens when you feel happy or sad watching a film because youâve become emotionally invested in it. It happens when you daydream, or when you concentrate hard on study, or play, or youâre doing something complex but familiar that over time has become very natural to you, like driving home, singing along to a song you know well, drawing, writing, or even (if youâre a kinky sort into bondage and rope-play) tying up a loved one.Â
Any time you feel like youâre âin the zoneâ, youâre in some form of natural trance.
Someone that tells you that theyâve never been hypnotized is probably mistaken. Odds are they have been⌠but not in the way they think hypnosis works. Be gentle when you break this to them. Coming across as wise in the ways of trance will score you brownie points and make it easier to hypnotize your glamorous volunteer later. Coming across as a smug know-it-all will lose you points.
If someone tells you they want to be hypnotized but it âdoesnât work on meâ.. or âI canât be hypnotizedâ, it might just be that they havenât met the right hypnotist yet. Everyone can be hypnotized to some degree⌠it just doesnât always follow the traditional set of feelings and behaviours outlined by Saturday morning cartoons and campy black and white vampire movies⌠for some people being in trance is something relaxed and detached⌠for others, itâs something sensual and erotic⌠and for others⌠it can follow the traditional portrayal of being mindless, compelled and mind controlled in exactly the same manner as those old cartoons and movie scenes. Right down to someone becoming your hypnotized zombie slave, intoning âHow may I serve you Master / Mistressâ any time you snap your fingers in front of their face.Â
Because itâs a natural state, very often people donât realise that theyâre even hypnotized. A lot of people expect to feel *very* different once theyâre under, and just because they donât suddenly feel like a zombie, slavegirl or robot, theyâll think that means theyâre not under.
The blame for this lies largely with Hollywood.
Classically, (In most movies and TV shows) hypnosis is portrayed as a very unusual and mysterious state of mind, where the person in trance has no awareness or control of whatâs going on. Theyâre often presented as being little more than a puppet or plaything, and the person whoâs placed them in trance, (The Vampire, The Svengali, The Stage Magician) has total control of that personâs thoughts, actions and experiences.
Now⌠this *can* be how hypnosis works. Especially if your subject is attracted to the idea of feeling that way, but for someone whoâs just interested in exploring trance itself, and hasnât come to hypnosis through Hollywoodâs or The Jungle Bookâs portrayal of hypnosis, rather than blank minded obedience, most people will just feel very very chilled out within trance.
This brings us to the *other* first thing you need to know about hypnosis (I did say there was more than one):
All hypnosis is *Self Hypnosis* to some degree, and how a person will feel in trance depends on what they expect to feel, what they **want** to feel, and whoâs hypnotizing them.
This leads us to one of the most important things to bear in mind when youâre hypnotizing someone:
THE BEST TRANCE FOR YOUR SUBJECT
ALWAYS find out from your subject up front what it is she or he wants from the experience.
If your subject just wants to feel relaxed, comfortable, chilled out and safe⌠thereâs not much point in doing an induction with them that focuses on helplessness and loss of control. Theyâll become uncomfortable with the ideas youâre presenting them with, they might feel wary, they might feel irritated, they might feel scared, and either way they wonât be engaging with your words, or relaxing effectively.
Equally, if your subject is a kinky so-and-so that *wants* to feel manipulated, helpless, coerced, teased and toyed with, but your induction focuses on feelings of safety and empowerment⌠theyâll probably find the experience very dry and boring, as a result they wonât engage effectively, as a result, they wonât achieve the kind of trance that youâre both interested in exploring.
ALWAYS tailor the experience to your subject so you can be the hypnotist of their dreams.
Hereâs a (none exhaustive) list of possible trance âFlavoursâ
Brainwashed & Mind ControlledÂ
YOURSELF AS A HYPNOTISTÂ
Speaking of being the hypnotist of their dreams, this brings us to the most important thing to remember about yourself as a hypnotist, and that is:Â
Confidence is key.Â
When guiding someone into hypnosis, they need to be relaxed and at ease. If itâs your first time hypnotizing someone and you *tell* them that, then no matter how much they like you, theyâre not going to feel particularly confident in your abilities. If you donât know what youâre doing, or youâre not quite sure of how it works or what will happen and you say any of the following:Â
âCan I try to hypnotize you?âÂ
âIâve never done this beforeâŚ"Â
âI donât know if this will workâŚ"Â
âSorry, I donât know what Iâm doingâŚ"Â
âI donât really know how this worksâŚ"Â
Then youâre pretty much shooting yourself in the foot.Â
Even if youâre not entirely sure of what youâre doing, what direction things are going to go in, or whether or not itâll work, you need to present a confident face to your subject. This puts them at ease and creates the expectation that everything will be going swimmingly.Â
Using words and phrases like âTryâ âUnsureâ âSorryâ âDonât knowâ âNeverâ and âNewbieâ will kill any confidence in it working.Â
Alternately, if you say any of the following:Â
âWould you let me hypnotize you?âÂ
âItâs easy, you get hypnotized often without realising anyway"Â
"You like feeling helpless? Well youâll find trance *deliciously* helpless"Â
"You like feeling relaxed? Youâll find this more relaxing than anything!"Â
"After youâve been hypnotized, youâll feel like youâve had the best sleep"Â
"In trance youâll feel all your favourite things."Â
Youâre creating the expectation that not only is this going to work, but itâs going to be deeply enjoyable for your subject.Â
Thereâs actually some NLP (Neuro Linguistic Progamming) in there. Thatâs not something Iâve studied it in any great depth, but in essence youâre using predictive language to create assumptions and shape expectation. In the examples above, youâre basically telling your subject that:Â
a) This is going to work.Â
b) Itâs going to be very enjoyable.Â
c) Iâm very confident that itâll work (So you should be confident in that too.)Â
Simple, right?Â
Speaking of "Right?â thatâs another thing.Â
TRICKS OF THE TRADEÂ
If you can get your subject to agree to you several times, that places them in a more acceptant, agreeable and directable mindset. If you get them to say âYesâ three times, that naturally places people in a state where theyâre more likely to continue agreeing.Â
This is why itâs important to build trust and rapport with your subject. If you know up front that your subject wants to feel enchanted and intoxicated⌠but doesnât want to feel *too* out of control or sexual, then you can build the start of your induction out of ingredients that you already know.Â
Hypnotist:Â Would you like me to hypnotize you now?Â
Subject:Â Yes okay.Â
Hypnotist:Â And youâre happy to feel enchanted, a little dazed, and intoxicated, right?Â
Subject:Â Yes.Â
Hypnotist: But you donât want to dance around naked *just* yet⌠right?Â
Subject:Â Heh, right.Â
Even though in the example above, something has been presented that the subject might not be keen on (dancing around naked), itâs been highlighted as something they *wonât* be doing (making them feel happier), a jokeâs been made about it (making them feel amused and comfortable) and theyâve still followed up the question with an affirmation, right? ;)Â
âRight?"Â
"Yes?"Â
"D'you follow?"Â
"Are you with me?"Â
Are all phrases that invite agreement from the subject. Society and language being what they are, many english speaking people have been trained to agree in response before theyâve even analysed what it is theyâre agreeing to.Â
Anyway. Youâve discussed with your subject what they want from trance and how they want it to feel. Youâve hopefully put them at ease by making it clear the trance youâll be doing with them is tailored to their own specific interests. Now how do you begin?Â
Again you need to tailor your induction to your subject.Â
THE INDUCTIONÂ
Back to the trance flavours above. Once youâre ready to begin hypnotizing your subject, try to use language that reflects their chosen flavour. If they want to feel dominated and overpowered: be dark and dominant. If they want to feel safe, be reassuring and calming. If they want to feel objectified: talk at them like theyâre an obedient thing before theyâre a person. Youâll find you have much more success that way than if you use the same induction on *everyone.*Â
Do they want background music? Put some on.
Do they like the idea of focusing on a pendant, or crystal? Get one.
Are pendants a little too clichĂŠ? Use a candle instead.
Is the idea of focusing on *anything* like that kinda laughable? Just have them close their eyes.
Are they a visual person? Describe a relaxing scene.
Are they more tactile? Describe enjoyable sensations.
Do they want helplessness? Describe a bondage scenario.
Do they want relaxation? Describe a beach or a warm bath.Â
Iâm assuming first time round youâll be doing some form of progressive relaxation with your subject. Itâs not too flashy, but itâs what a lot of people expect. (Though if your subject **expects** a rapid instant SLEEP induction, then by all means, do that with them!)Â
Spend about 5-10 minutes talking softly to your subject, guiding them and relaxing them as much as possible. Â
You might notice them twitch a little (a sign the muscles are relaxing)Â
You might notice their eyelids flickering (a sign in some of entering trance)Â
They might grow totally still and limp.Â
They *might* be kind of a fidget (annoying, sure, but not everyone will immediately go into deep comatose states.)Â
HOW DEEPLY HYPNOTIZED ARE THEY?Â
In the early stages of trance, a person feels disarmed and agreeable. After a hypnotic stageshow in which they were lightly hypnotized, they might carry out every suggestion theyâre given, but come away from the stage saying "I was just playing along. I donât think I was *really* hypnotized"Â
In medium states of hypnosis, people feel very focused and involved. Theyâll say after the show that whilst perhaps they knew they werenât *really* Lady Gaga, they kinda felt like they *had* to dance and act like her whenever they heard a hypnotic trigger or piece of music.Â
In deep states of hypnosis, people can feel so enchanted and hypnotized that they believe almost everything theyâre told (within reason). After the show theyâre likely to admit to believing for a while that they *were* Lady Gaga, that the audience were totally naked, or that they firmly believed that the hypnotist was the cutest guy theyâd ever met.Â
There are lots of tricks you can use to get a subjectâs trance deeper.Â
One tool is "Fractionationâ. This is using contrasting states to deepen the level of trance.Â
I often have my subjects picture a scale from 0 to 10.Â
0 is wide awake, full of energy and bouncing off the walls.Â
10 being totally enchanted, obedient in every way.Â
(Or whatever analogue fits their preferred flavour.)Â
If my subject says sheâs at a 5 or 6, Iâll ask her to allow herself to drop to their deepest level of relaxation every time I say âSleep"Â
Then Iâll tell her she can easily follow my words into or out of trance. To begin with, I might start counting them out of trance, counting fairly quickly from 5 to 1, then telling them that at 1 they feel more or less awake⌠the only difference being that theyâre calm, and still, and their eyes are closed.Â
Demonstrating that trance is easy to come out of by following my words naturally creates the counter belief that trance is easy to get into by following my words deeper.Â
Then Iâll say "Sleepâ and tell them to notice that theyâve gone from almost awake⌠to very very calm and still. Â
Do this a few times, counting near 0 and telling your subject that she can move and stretch and open her eyes and smile⌠then telling her to âSLEEPâ and telling her that sheâs too calm, too dreamy, too dazed and too still to do anything but breathe, relax and follow.Â
If your subject likes the idea of feeling helpless, you could initially place control over their depth with them, telling them that as they count, they take themselves deeper or bring themselves out of trance. If this works, you can then tell your subject that they *canât* bring themselves out now, and that any attempts to do so only take them deeper.Â
(Be aware, you should only use this particular method on someone who *likes* the idea of being locked helplessly in trance.)Â
SUGGESTIONS AND DEPTHÂ
In a light state of hypnosis, you can affect someoneâs behaviour.Â
In a medium state, you can affect their memories and drives.Â
In deeper states, you can affect their senses and experiences.Â
In order to build depth throughout your sessions, with most subjects youâll want to start at the lighter end of the spectrum, as opposed to immediately aiming for deep and potent suggestions.Â
Light Suggestions
Youâre too relaxed to move, trying to move only relaxes you more.
Any time I say somethingâs âBoundâ that part of you will stick in place.
Any time I use the word âSPANKâ youâll slap your own arse.
You have touretteâs syndrome, the moment a rude word enters your mind, you speak it. You deny that this is happening.Â
Any time I say the word âBlankâ your mind becomes neutral and empty, like your thoughts have slipped out of great.
Your name is forgotten, when you try to say it itâs on the tip of your tongue⌠but you canât quite recall it or speak it.
You feel very submissive and obedient.
Any time music plays, you canât stop yourself dancing.
Youâre a nudist. You love being naked. You donât see the point in clothes.
Youâre a slavegirl, you love to obey in every way.Â
Youâre a rubber sexdolly. All you want to do is be fucked.
Even though youâre nude, you believe that youâre fully dressed.
Any time I use the word âBrinkâ youâll come to the edge of orgasm.
Any time I use the word âSPANKâ youâll feel your arse being slapped.
Your clit is turned off, playing with it is about as sexy as playing with your own elbow.
Your clit has been relocated to the tip of your nose, rubbing *that* is now the sexiest thing in the world.Â
Use deepeners, stick to your subjectâs favoured areas, and work your way down the depth scale and youâll soon have a subject trained to experience whatever hypnotic phenomena you wish them to feel almost immediately!Â
After youâre done playing, in most cases youâll want to remove the suggestions you gave your volunteer during playtime. Hereâs a (paraphrased) wakener that I was introduced to by Rich of UK Southwest Hypnosis:
â5. Rising from trance now.Â
4. All suggestions being washed away, returning to normal.Â
3. Feeling restored and refreshed. Cleansed by crystal clear spring water.
2. Taking a nice deep breath of energy giving Oxygen.Â
1. All heaviness dropping away. Feeling light and wonderful.Â
0. Wide awake. Eyes open. Recalling as much or as little of your trance as you like. Feeling great!â
Following that, have a post-trance chat with your subject and make sure theyâre feeling good. If they like the idea of forgetting their trance, it might be they donât even recall that they went under. In most cases people will retain a fair degree of recall though.Â
Depending on your subject, hypnosis can be a very powerful tool. As such, you should treat it (and your subjectâs mind) with the right amount of respect when you play. You wouldnât go nuts with a hammer and saw whilst decorating your bedroom, so thereâs no reason to go bananas when playing with the mind of a friend or loved one.Â
If your subject gets a headache from all the mind fuckery, bring them completely out of trance, (this will usually mean removing all suggestions as you do it.) and take a break. Trance can be a mental workout so itâs not unusual to feel tired or fuzzy after a while.Â
A safety suggestion I give most subjects is âIf you should receive a suggestion within trance that would endanger you, or seriously upset you, you can easily resist and say "noâ to it. Suggestions you like though, youâll be totally unable to resist.â Sure this spoils the illusion of being an all powerful hypnobastard a little and makes it clear weâre not going to have our wicked way if that would make our subject uncomfortable⌠on the other hand, itâs more likely to make them trust going into trance, knowing that they do have that safety net there if they should ever need it.Â
Donât feel like you need to leave your subject with a list of triggers or behaviors to ensure youâll have full control of them in future. If they want to be controlled by you. Theyâll be controlled. If you end up being more possessive than they find comfortable, youâll creep them out, it doesnât matter how many times you tell them "Youâll love and obey me and ONLY meâ theyâll probably just get uncomfortable.Â
Donât hypnotize pregnant women for none-beneficial, none-therapeutic reasons. (Unborn babies can detect the emotional state of their mother, so itâs unethical to mess with that.)
Donât perform age regression on someone who you suspect of having a traumatic childhood.Â
Itâs best not to hypnotize someone with mental health issues whoâs currently on medication for it. Trance can be an emotional rollercoaster, and just as you wouldnât ride a rollercoaster if you had a heart condition, you shouldnât be experiencing a barrage of hypnotic highs and lows if youâre in a vulnerable mental state.Â
If your subject does experience an abreaction (which is a sudden flood of strong and possibly upsetting emotions, sometimes triggered by repressed or unpleasant memories) if possible, tell them youâll be putting them back into trance briefly, so you can wake them up feeling better. Let them know everythingâs fine. Use whatever method you can to get them back into trance then tell them: âOn waking, youâre going to be your normal self, feeling refreshed and happy in every way, leaving all negative feelings, worries and sensations behind in trance. If you want to recall and discuss them later youâll be free to do that. For now though, theyâre all melting away, and youâre going to feel totally fine and back to being your normal self when you wake.â
Hope this guide helps you on your way, hypno-fans!Â
Entrancement /Â Hypnodolls / Hypnofantastico
