A Touch Of Sugar

*Long Post Warning*»You will learn the value of yourself the more and more you differentiate between these two words when accepting things (i,e compliments, gifts, money, etc)  from people,men especially. It helps you, at the same time more or less help them what you will and will not accept. Also, when it comes to excitement you have to learn which to internalize and which to express, how, when. and what, but I’m not going to teach that today.

Appreciation (1 or 2 emoji expressions insert here):

Compliments:

Some idiot your age: ” Damn girl/ma you looking nice!”

Pot: You’re so hot!

First of all he used slang, enough said. You simply say thank you and redirect conversation if there is any interest worth pursuing. If not thank you is simply enough for that simple ass compliment . You should not be jumping for joy.

Gifts:

A gift card specified to a specific store:

A Forever 21 dress

Here as well, “thank you and very sweet gesture.” Insert smiley face here. Most gc specified to a store are not really that expensive or the card amount is lower than you would like. Forever 21 can be pricey, but it is marketed toward high school girls not maturing young women.

Money

A certain amount given to you because of an emergency

Anything < or = $500

"Thank you for helping me. Very considerate and thoughtful of" If you are giving your time and or vagina to someone who claims to care about you, to help you in an emergency situation is something to be grateful and appreciative. 

I  know you’re thinking Honee is so calculated and cold, but it gets better from here…I promise.

Excitement:(Insert 5+ emojis here”&some by your name in my phone)

Compliments:

Some idiot your age: “Excuse me, can I talk to you for a minute. I really could not take my eyes off you as I saw you walk this way”

Pot: You are a really beautiful young lady and I would love to take you to dinner.”

Regardless,the compliments are a bit cheesy and may even be straight up game, but the approach is entirely different and more gentleman like.

Gifts:

A universal gift card you can use anywhere.

BCBG/Zara dress

Universal explains itself. BCBG/ Zara dresses are pricey but accentuate your curves in all the right places without looking like a a high school kid off the Disney Channel.

Money

$1k+

Your allowance

Any gentleman that can shell out $1k+ in cash,check or money payable to Honee,clears,and available for use, is worth keeping around. Any gentleman that shells out my requested allowance on a daily,weekly,bi-weekly,and or monthly basis is worth being excited for. 

You do not get EXCITED over things you can do yourself. You show APPRECIATION for them. Filling up my < or = $100 gas tank is or paying for a taxi,uber,not impressive. Now a $500+ gas card,send a limo paid for the day, or pick me the f**k up is my kind of guy.

You do not get EXCITED over someone taking you to a 4* or 5* restaurant. That is where he is suppose to take you. A real gentleman courts you properly!!

No Chill Zone Sunday,

From Sugardating101.com

FIRST SUGAR DATE TIP #1. FUN FIRST

The first sugar date is crucial. He’ll size you up. You’ll size him up. And you’ll both come to a decision as to whether you want an arrangement with each other.

There’s a lot going on. But that’s no reason not to have fun.

In fact, your most important priority on a first sugar date is to have fun. After all – what’s the worst that’s going to happen? He’ll decide you’re not what he’s looking for? So what? – you get a chance to try out your sugar baby charm on him while being wined and dined.

Just concentrate on having fun – that is the best impression you can make. And if it doesn’t “work out” – hey, at least you had a fantastic time.

FIRST SUGAR DATE TIP #2. KNOW YOUR STUFF ON HIS STUFF

Conversation is crucial to a successful sugar relationship. Most sugar daddies tend to appreciate sugar babies they can have good conversations with.

Brush up on your potential sugar daddy’s interests before meeting. From your emails and chats, you’ll already know what they’re into – are they history buffs? Crazy about technology? Love traveling?

Use what you know about them to get to know more before the first date. You don’t have to be an expert in anything they’re interested in – just get a general understanding so you can be an interested and attentive listener as well as ask relevant questions to keep the conversation flowing.

FIRST SUGAR DATE TIP #3. STAY SAFE

The first sugar date should always be at a public place. If you can – make it a place of your choice, somewhere you feel comfortable.

This should be easy since a sugar daddy will most likely let you choose the restaurant or recommend a few for you to choose from. If he doesn’t, suggest it with a “I’ve been dying to go to ___. Want to meet there?”

If he offers to pick you up, politely decline and ask for cab fare. Actually, even if he doesn’t offer to pick you up, you should ask for cab fare.

FIRST SUGAR DATE TIP #4. DRESS TO IMPRESS

Some sugar daddies love eye-catching arm candy. But most are low-key and prefer understated elegance or casual classy to outright flashy.

Choose your outfit according to the potential sugar daddy’s preferences, if you already know them.

If you don’t – for first sugar dates, we love understated, well-put-together outfits with a hint of fun. For ideas, check out some first date sugar baby looks we love.

FIRST SUGAR DATE TIP #5. YOUR EASE IS HIS EASE

You might be suffering a case of nerves over the first date, but guess what? You’re probably not the only one.

Quite a few sugar daddies are nervous the first time meeting. He might be feeling self-conscious about the fact that you’re much younger than he is (and appear obviously so) or he might be downright intimidated because of your looks.

Your job is to make him feel at ease. And the easiest way to help him feel at ease is to be at ease yourself. People play off each other’s energies and your body language speaks volumes so take the time to relax yourself before meeting your potential sugar daddy.

FIRST SUGAR DATE TIP #6. OLD FRIENDS OVER AWKWARD ENCOUNTER

There is nothing more lethal to a first date – especially a first sugar date – than bland small talk.

Instead of pre-prepared questions, approach the potential sugar daddy as you would an old friend.

Greet him like you already know each other: “Hey! It’s awesome to see you! How was your day?”

And launch straight into normal conversation, just as you would with a friend: “So…tell me ’bout your day…anything exciting? I, for one, would love a glass of wine. Anything you recommend?”

Smile often. Laugh more often. Maintain eye contact. And keep the conversation flowing easily, naturally simply by expressing genuine interest in his day, his life, and his interests – just like you would with a friend.

FIRST SUGAR DATE TIP #7. SIZING THEM UP

A person’s appearance and demeanor speaks volumes about them. Take advantage of the first date to suss out whether this POT is sugar daddy material.

Observe not their wallet, their cufflinks, or their shoes, but their mannerisms, their eloquence, their overall conduct.

Many good sugar daddies may not look the part, but they will act it.

Does he ask you first what you want to eat? Is he interested in what you’re saying? Is he asking questions? How does he talk about his family, his employees, i.e. the people most important to him? Does he like taking care of them and knowing they’re happy? Is he nice to the waitstaff? How much is he tipping?

These little details matter. A lot. A sugar daddy who expresses interest in taking care of those important to him makes a great sugar daddy. A sugar daddy who cares that you’re happy with dinner is going to care that you’re happy in an arrangement.

Take note of the important details.

FIRST SUGAR DATE TIP #8. LEAVE MONEY OUT

One of the best first sugar date tips we can give is: leave the allowance talk for later.

Find out why here.

FIRST SUGAR DATE TIP #9. STAY IN THE MOMENT, STAY POSITIVE

There might be a lot of things running through your mind on your first sugar date. Am I dressed appropriately? Does he like me? How am I going to pay my tuition if he doesn’t? OMG…do I know those people at that table?

Whatever it is that’s on your mind, you can come back to it later. For the duration of the sugar date, the present is the only thing that matters.

The best way to guarantee a great first sugar date is to stay totally and completely in the moment. Show interest in your date. Appreciate the yummy foods you’re eating. Laugh about things happening around you. Relish how beautiful you feel.

Everything else can wait. Don’t bother yourself – or your potential sugar daddy – with pressing worries or concerns. Stay in the moment and share only what’s positive.

FIRST SUGAR DATE TIP #10. IF IT’S GOOD ENOUGH FOR CINDERELLA…

An hour or two is perfect for a first sugar date – even if it’s a leisurely dinner.

Even if you’ve had a fabulous time and the dynamic is amazing – avoid staying too long. He might want to keep you out longer, he might suggest all sorts of fun and inviting things to do.

But don’t be tempted – whatever he suggests, politely decline and leave him wanting more.

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Hey :)

First and foremost, spend that cash! Anything you need that can possibly be paid in cash, pay it in cash. Any legit money going into your bank account, such as wages/ student loan/ money from your parents, keep it in your account and don’t touch it, let that be saved. Even if you have so much cash that you can’t spend, trust me, at some point you’ll need it, cash doesn’t expire. 

Study all of the information on this page:

http://www.money.co.uk/article/1004329-how-do-i-gift-money-without-being-taxed.htm

Plus research inheritance tax, sugar money comes under gift tax, however there are a couple of ways to be sneaky about it:

-Get your SD to pay for things direct- such as your rent, have him as your guarantor.

-if you have a student current account, (I speak from experience) They really kick up no fuss about whatevers being deposited into your account, this is because they are expecting parents/ relatives to be supporting you whilst you are a student and this money is not taxable:

‘Exempt payments include - Maintenance for your children, adopted children or step-children, as long as they are under 18 or in full-time education’

This is not fool proof however, but at long as you don’t go overboard it can work. 

-Gifts under £250 are not taxable

-Wait till your birthday/christmas to deposit a large amount of money, you can put this down to relatives gifting you that money.

-Tell your SD you’re concerned about tax- these are savvy businessmen the majority of the time, they may be willing to give you a credit card or make transfers to your account and pay the tax, or they may have another way round it. 

-If there’s something big you need, such as a car or a house deposit ( the dream haha) or a holiday you could negotiate them purchasing those things for you direct rather than an allowance that month, unless you have him round your little finger and can still get both ;)

** Cash tip: if you have large amounts of cash and are staying in student accommodation- Students get robbed all the time! find a safe place to store that cash. Unfortunately in the UK banks do not tend to offer safety deposit box’s for non-private customers, so either find a really good hiding spot, or if possible, stash your cash in your bedroom at home, somewhere you know your parents wont snoop. 

This is a good idea: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oW9cYSuNRoU

Or just buy one:  https://www.etsy.com/uk/search?q=safe%20book

As you never know when you need a spare ace in your back pocket. Plus, instead of being rude and having them come back at you rudely, this may just be an opportunity to further see if you can come to a better arrangement?

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I actually really hate it when I hear SBs say “allowances should be how much you feel you are worth”. 

No, no, dear girl, you have it all wrong. Allowances should be the price that you are willing to exchange your time for. Do I think I’m only worth $3,000/month? No, absolutely not. I’m a treasure worth a million times that and so are you! 

But we’re not talking about your physical, emotional, spiritual self here. We’re talking about the give and take of a sugar relationship. You’re SD wants to spend time with you. Whatever happens in that time is of course between the two of you. Also, the value of time is relative based on where you might live. 

I’ll reiterate a point I’ve made before. Allowances are different based on location. Why? Because of cost of living and saturation of rich individuals. I get a $3000/month allowance and because I live in a somewhat rural area, my rent is $1000 per month. Now, let’s take someone in NYC. They also get $3000 per month but the average cost of an apartment is $2500 a month. Now that $3000 isn’t looking that significant right? But because there is a much higher saturation of rich individuals in NYC, it might not be as difficult for a girl in NYC to find a SD willing to give her more because he’s used to the high cost of living.