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INFP: They’re fierce - INFPs often remain silent and are very observant of other people and what makes them who they are, but this apparent softness hides a very passionate drive to do what is right, and if ever a situation or a person does not align with their principles, you will definitely know about it - do not underestimate them.

ENFP: They’re very analytical - Yes ENFPs can seem a little crazy and like they’re constantly fooling around, but it is to be remembered that this type is extremely perceptive of their environment and of ideas, that they dissect carefully and draw conclusions from. They have true depth, and labelling them as shallow would be a big mistake. 

INFJ: They’re quite independent - It may sound strange but INFJs are quite independent. They strive to help people to be better individuals and to make the world a nicer place, but they follow their own rules and will not hesitate long to react if you go against them. Harmony is their priority, but don’t you cross them. The difference with INFP is that INFPs will simply see this other person who does not conform to their vision as not really worth their time, INFJs on the other hand trying to change this person’s mind-set for a kinder approach, etc.

ENFJ: They struggle - ENFJs are probably the most disorganised of all J-types, and they take on sometimes way more than they can carry. Even if these guys try to help people as much they can, sometimes it isn’t enough and that can go against them. The bubbly stereotype does not apply to all ENFJs unfortunately, since they can get depressed easily, and thereby stop their advising functions.

INTP: They really care - INTPs can sometimes seem off and uninterested, but this most-likely comes from a system of self-defence to prevent them from harm, as they may have been previously neglected for their ideas or conceptions of the world, and have been misunderstood. If an INTP likes and cares for you, there is nothing they would not do, and their aloofness is not to be taken as pride or smugness (although sometimes they like to be ;) and they genuinely care. 

ENTP: They’re just feeling half the time - ENTPs are absolutely mind-blowing master concealers. Their emotions get triggered by the littlest things, and they spend a lot of their time, if not almost all of it, concealing what they perceive as weaknesses under fair amounts of witty comebacks and confidence. These people are actually great empaths, but their chosen priority being logic, they often toss those feelings away for later, and often avoid them until it’s too late.

INTJ: They have feelings - Similar to ENTP, except INTJs truly master their emotions, and manage to chanel them instead of shutting them away. INTJs have a good deal of feelings, except they don’t necessarily feel the need to talk about them, and prefer rational advice when considering their emotional needs, which is seldom given. INTJs openly reject the myth that they lack feelings, and may feel even more misunderstood when they have the impression that they are expressing them, as sometimes they do, but in ways most people don’t perceive because they are seemingly so small, which can be hurtful. 

ENTJ: They’re understanding - I’ve said this already, I’m always quite awed by ENTJs, but once you get to know them, they are truly open people. More than once have I heard them give relationship advice, and try to help people understand concepts with detailed explanations and diagrams, they strive for a more efficient and knowledgeable world, which can be seen through a sometimes devoted attitude.

ISFP: They’re not always kind to themselves - ISFPs may appear as charismatic, different, inspired and like they like themselves quite a bit (and that is absolutely great) but sometimes, when their creativity lets them down for example, they have the impression that they are now devoid of their identity, and may feel lost, and even over-criticize themselves. They need to be understood and comforted in their unicity and worth, almost as if they possessed Fe but not quite.

ISTP: They can feel quite lonely - ISTPs love peace and quiet and alone time, but sometimes loneliness can become quite painful. Composing only 2% of the overall population, ISTPs often feel like few if any people actually understand them, and that it may be easier just to crawl back onto themselves and create a shell to self-sustain instead of socialising and creating bonds with people. 

ESFP: They’re nostalgic - Living in the moment is often a way for ESFPs to have peace of mind, as their brains are involved elsewhere. Their need for company and action is their way of escaping their responsibilities, that remind them once again that they’re adults or growing into adults now, and that means, for them, that fun is almost over and that they’re going to turn into “boring people”, or be coerced into becoming “normal people”, which their Fi has difficulty dealing with.

ESTP: They value your opinion greatly - ESTPs have strong views on many subjects and they are also very passionate individuals, but boy do they need to be validated. It’s not a bad thing, of course, it’s simply a little surprising (although it shouldn’t be) that someone under appearances so outgoing and frank and sometimes even careless may need approval that what they are doing is good, and that they are accepted.  

ISFJ: They’re strong - ISFJs may constantly be trying to please everybody and adhere to everything, but deep down, they know who they are. They know what they like, what they dislike, what they are willing to tolerate, and what they are not. They are capable of enduring so much without ever complaining, and are truly inspiring people, who can talk about anything they set their mind to. 

ESFJ: They’re insecure - Organisation and procedure are the ways in which ESFJs try to live by, but it can also truly hide a very anxious nature. Planning is what ESFJs do to prevent lack of resources and preparing ahead to survive is a way in which ESFJs feel that they are under control. Their bubbly nature shows their need to be loved and feel like they have worth. Don’t rely too much on them, although they really want to carry your load with, or even for, you.

ISTJ: They feel misunderstood - Nobody is as organised, structured and rigorous as ISTJs, and the world’ s messiness can be quite overwhelming to them sometimes. That feeling that they’re the only ones holding it all together and getting everything done for everyone can make them feel like they’re being used or that people don’t appreciate them for their true worth, for what they are deep down. 

This has NOTHING to do with your personality type. Anybody can use these tips

Also, please understand I am NOT a therapist. If you have severe mental issues GO TO ONE.

These tips are just quick and easy ways that make ME feel better when I’M feeling particularly sad or have had a bad day.

This post is rather lengthy but I feel like some of my followers need to read this. So if you do too, go ahead.

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1. Listen to podcasts instead of music

Podcasts are great because there are SO MANY OUT THERE. If you take the time to search you’re bound to find something that you can relate to.

Whether you’ve been bullied badly or burdened with carrying the weight of your friends or families problems on your shoulders. Whether you suffer from particular mental conditions such as depression or anxiety or you simply have no idea what you want to do with your life, you’ll often find people on Podcasts who have gone through the same or similar things as you, if not worse. But they kept going, they SURVIVED, hoping to reach the ears of people like you who needed to hear their story.

If you have a particular song that makes you happy when you’re feeling down then by all means listen to it. However, those times when you’re feeling upset and listening to music is not helping you, try podcasts instead.

2. Exercise (it WORKS guys) 

Yeah I know, you’ve heard it a million times before, but people say it because its true. Trust me, I’m no sports addict, up until year 9 probably the most exercise I did was walking to and from my classes. That’s probably a reason as to why I hated gym classes with a passion.

But when I joined the swim team I realised something. The constant exercise that killed my body and made me want to shrivel up, die and watch youtube at home, was for some strange reason making me happy. No, not when I was actually in the water doing the laps with our coach screaming at us. Instead what made me happy was when I got back home and locked the bathroom door, I would have a shower feeling so accomplished that I survived the challenge. My developing arm muscles and legs that were only just starting to tone were further proof for me that I was accomplishing something. That was what made me happy.

Don’t worry, I didn’t suddenly become a sports addict, I still continued to hate gym classes passionately. However, what I did learn was that exercise makes you feel amazing about yourself. The harder you work, the better it’ll make you feel.

So as much as I’d encourage you to take that 20 minute walk and clear your head, that won’t DO anything. No, if you want to truly feel accomplished you need to RUN for 20 minutes, at full speed, until your legs burn. That’s what’s going to make you feel accomplished and great about yourself once you go home and reflect.

But note that you’ll only feel great if YOU make the decision and do it yourself. If you’re being forced to exercise intensively or do a sport that you don’t like and makes you unhappy, don’t expect to derive happiness from it.

3. Stimulating your senses

Touch, taste, sight, smell and hearing; your five senses. By stimulating each of these senses in certain ways, it will almost always calm your body and make you feel a lot better.

So for example, hearing. In order to stimulate that sense we listen to music. Music works wonders on you, listening to it can definitely soothe you. However, we ALWAYS listen to music, stimulating our hearing is a norm for us these days. That’s why it’s a lot less effective to soothe yourself using your hearing rather than using your others senses. Putting it simply, music isn’t the most effective way to make you feel better because we listen to too much of it.

In order to feel better after a bad day, you need to stimulate your other senses. Simulating taste does work really well for some people, not for me though. Next time you’re feeling down try treating yourself to your favourite food and see if it helps you. There’s a very good chance it might so give it a go and see.

As for touch, try taking long, warm baths when you’re feeling upset. Being able to absorb the warmth of the water all throughout your body will make you feel a LOT better.

Smell is what I find the most effective to stimulate. We barely use our sense of smell in our everyday lives, that’s why when we’re properly stimulating it, it can make you feel a lot better. Try buying some extra scented, nice smelling candles to burn in your room. See if that eases your stress and makes you feel better. You can also buy scented soaps to use in the shower and scented bath bombs can be extremely soothing as well. LUSH is a good place to go if you find stimulating your smell makes you feel better.

Let’s recap

When you’re feeling down or have had a bad day try:

- Listening to relatable podcasts

- Exercising intensively (even if it’s only for a bit)

- Eating your favourite foods

- Taking a long warm baths

- Using scented bath bombs and scented soaps

- Burning scented candles in your room

Moving back onto familiar territory, the ENTP (Familiar because I use all the functions the ENTP does, but in a different order). Because the next two will be ENTP and INTP, I expect(ed) they’ll go faster. But I overestimated my own INTPness. Oops. Sorry.

So, here comes to extraverted cousins of the INTP: the ENTP.

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The dominant Ne (extraverted intuition) gives the ENTP a breadth of objective pattern recognition skills. There is no inhibition on the Ne (except maybe the Si, the inferior function, and whatever Si has determined to be an absolute, the Ne using ENTP will not budge on), so the ENTP naturally can easily connect the most farfetched ideas and concepts, seeing patterns, breaking patterns, potentially everywhere. In this aspect, ENTP will seem very similar to the ENFP. Thus it is potentially imperative that the ENTP develops his/her auxiliary function, Ti, in order to cull out what is sound pattern from unsound ones, to discern inconsistencies within thoughts, theories, and even conclusions. This is different from the ENFP, who needs to develop Fi in order to prioritize and champion for the goals ENFP deems worthy. This is how they can differ, and once they each learn to rely more on their auxiliary function to process thoughts accurately, they’ll be able to narrow down their endless amount of brainstorming ability and achieve some level of permanence and consistency in their thoughts.

The ENTP according to Keirsey, is in the NT group, or “Rationals.” Of course, like the INTJ, ENTP can only really be considered to be rational thinker once and if they develop their Ti, which allows them to become more effective in their ability to create systems of logically consistent and objective thought. Until then, it is highly likely, that the ENTP will function more as Devil’s Advocate and trollTM than “rational thinker,” and will have symptoms similar to ADD/ADHD due to Ne-Fe looping, which may seem as class clowning or much more “feely” than the traditional thinkers. For example, many Ne-Fe looping females may have trouble handling interpersonal frictions despite the need and desire to discuss and debate (which can sometimes end in contentious states). There are other problems associated with the looping ENTP (as it is for ENFP, but we’ll get to that below).

According to The Myers & Briggs Foundation, approximately 2-5% of the general U.S. population, with males (3-7%) outnumbering females (2-4%). This is a general trend though, by the way. Generally, for whatever reason, more females test/type as feelers than thinkers, so thinker women will be rarer than thinker men and feeler women. Same for feeler men, although the distribution of men typing as feeler is more evenly matched to that of the thinker men, even if thinker men outweigh the feeler men. There is no real explanation for this at the moment.

Anyway, the developed ENTP will process information in this order Ne>Ti>Fe>Si. Unhealthy ENTP will process information via Ne-Fe loop, or even through Si grip, at which point, ENTP will likely suffer paranoia associated with their health where they feel sick or out of balance within themselves, but it’s seemingly undetectable under medical examination (or have an outright health breakdown), or become stubborn about facts and figures, or processes.

So, we will examine how the healthy ENTP functions, and unhealthy ENTP functions, and what triggers the Si grip in ENTPs, like before.

The ENTP’s dominant function is Ne. Ne, like in ENFPs, is unfiltered and serves no other function except its own. This in theory, allows ENTP great ability to recognize patterns and make instant intuitive leaps on thoughts, systems, and even reality (on a side note, as INTP, my Ne serves the Ti, so I don’t get such width/breadth in the use of Ne as ENTPs/ENFPs do, and sometimes I get jealous of that. Sometimes, I don’t). Anyway, the ENTP can process the tremendous amount of data the ENTP picks up on every minute/second from his/her environment, whether that is through books, environment, or even people. Then the ENTP uses Ti to ask, “is this true? Is this false?” which will help the ENTP cull out what is real from what is unreal, or true from what is false. This will help ENTP help with the reduction of possibilities and competing thoughts/ideas. Then, using Fe, ENTP can test out the perceived “truth,” which will eventually lead to the creation of the ENTP’s ability to establish new “Si,” or in this case, new permanent standard of doing things.

Ne as already covered in the ENFP, is an extensive observation process which is geared toward objective intuitive observation. What does this mean? Ne creates observation in the immediate environment much like Se users, but they’re always aware of what is not being seen, said, heard, and always making random connections, which can lead to great brainstorming abilities. Also, as Ne tends to be removed from concrete reality (Se) and tends to operate with subjective memory/physical state/history, like other NPs, ENTPs are not well aware of the present or good at objective “concrete” observation. You tried to sit ENTP still for like an hour? They die a little (that’s joke, ha ha).

But in reality, ENTPs exist for a reason, and their brainstorming ability, coupled with their auxiliary Ti, can make them truly broad-minded yet systematically consistent, which can potentially create an intellectual who can handle tremendous amount of conflicting data and observation, culling it, and be charismatic enough to establish a new norm in the effected industry/neighborhood/society. 

But that’s the healthy ENTP, and sadly, I’ve not met many of those. So why don’t we focus on the unhealthy or the developing ENTPs?

Ne-Fe Loop

Like I remember saying with ENFPs, ENTP needs a narrowing/introverting function to cull the truly expansive mind they have. When the ENTP skips Ti introspection in favor of Fe, ENTP begins their route towards the unbalanced psyche where dooming inferior Si awaits (This is really dramatic; honestly, it’s not the end of the world to be in a grip, even if it feels like it). Ti, although needing development and preference in the ENTP, is still a very strong and preferable function to dealing with dominant level Ne strength. Fe on the other hand, as a tertiary function, does not have as much of an ability to handle the tremendous amount of data that Ne picks up on a daily, hourly, minute-by-minute basis. Ti with its ability/desire to seek consistency in data can cull out the correct Ne data from faulty Ne data, but without Ti, Ne would be bombarding Fe with simply too much information. Fe is a function that creates interpersonal relationships, meets needs (this is where the NTP desire to solve problems come from, by the way; NTPs want to meet the Fe needs of their community/environment by solving problems, which in turn helps them feel needed), distributes work so that everyone feels included and also contributes based on their talents and comforts, and feel validated by their distribution, and also be recognized/appreciated for them.

However, those in Ne-Fe loop rush in with all of their Ne ideas, which to the innocent bystander, will seem erratic, too off-the-wall, or even inconsistent/hypocritical. This is where the stereotype of famous NP types contradicting themselves in their first sentence come from. Had the ENTP taken the time alone to process his/her thoughts through Ti to detect inconsistencies and consistencies and establish a basic internal logical framework to work off of, it would naturally be more polished, consistent, and easier to “spread” or communicate to a third party. But when in Ne-Fe mode, ENTP sees the need to implement new ideas everywhere, and suggests lots and lots of things to people, only to see nothing getting done, and people being irritated from ENTP constantly bombarding them with Ne.

Furthermore, this looping behavior makes it nearly impossible for the ENTP to get anything done, because they do not care about establishing an internal structure, opposing ideas and patterns can essentially cause self-sabotaging behavior in the ENTP, and hinder the ENTP’s desire to establish a new social norm (inferior/aspirational Si). You may see this a lot in the ENTP/ENFP types, where they have a million different ideas they want to manifest, but a lot of them are in conflict with each other, some of them are not quite possible at the moment, and some will seem possible to carry out, yet they won’t (as INTP, when I listen to ENTPs talk about their plans, it is always very interesting, but I can’t help but wonder how they plan to manifest as I see too many loopholes/incompleteness within them). ENTP certainly have the energy to manifest their ideas, but this very energy can burn them out if they don’t take the time to build their introverted thinking function.

Instead of being recognized for their insight and brilliant brainstorming capabilities, they’re likely to be ignored, be known as being annoying, or even shunned; tertiary Fe can make the user appear like trolls (and they often don’t mind being one, which only exacerbates the issue at hand), all, while the weight of attacks ENTP faces begin to pile on the ENTP. This eventually leads to… 

Si Grip

Very similar to the ENFP; ENTP will physically crash, become reclusive, engage in repetitive behaviors, and become stubborn in certain areas. They will appear like very unhealthy ISFJs almost; unable to handle criticisms by anyone (even if valid, which ENTP would normally be okay with as Fe is lower in the ENTP’s function stack). They also will have trouble handling conflicts (even if they’re not the instigators), and will hide themselves away from the very people and adventure in thoughts they so crave. They will also find themselves having trouble coming up with new ideas which seemed like a well at one point.

When Si grip hits, a lot of ENTPs will initially show signs of hypochondria, and some of them will actually deal with a lot of physical problems. Due to Si being their inferior function, they’re usually not at all aware of their internal states, or maintain habits that can maintain one’s health (Si and Fe usually takes care of those). As a result, these things can unfortunately catch up with them, making them realize the importance of balancing the Ne and Si. The normally spunky ENTP will look almost depressed (and I mean… to some extent, they are); refuse to get out of their repetitive behavior pattern, and will think about the “good ‘ol days” despite not actually remembering as much. Unlike the SJ types whose Si is much stronger and preferred, the ENTP’s version of Si is highly likely to be off since they don’t stay in touch too often with them. ENTP’s Si is like… a muggle imagining the good ‘ol days at Hogwarts; it didn’t happen, it is riddled with false impressions, and contrast sharply to that of say, SJs, who would be more like the wizards that did go to Hogwarts; in the sense that the SJs actually do remember more accurately and knew exactly how it was in the good ‘ol days compared with the ENTP.

It doesn’t change the fact that they’ll still believe what their Si shows to be true, however. They will eventually need to get out though, as being in a grip is simply unproductive and draining way of life. Eventually, ENTP’s Ne will start firing again, and ENTP will get to leave the dreaded Si state. But when ENTP is in Si grip, a good way to get out of it, is to meet their Fe needs (connect with people, be reassured that they’re not jackasses, take care of their basic needs) But also, to engage in Ti. Si Grip in ENTP will tire them out pretty quickly, and they will find that they don’t have much energy to stay in such state. ENTP should take care of Fe needs for themselves; exercise, eat well, establish some basic schedule to optimize their bodily states (which I understand, is very difficult for someone with inferior Si, but even a simple sleep schedule/eating schedule/exercise schedule is generally enough to fulfill that Si need in ENTPs). As the ENTP meets the inferior Si needs, he/she will find that the Ne begins to come alive for them again. They’ll start becoming inspired, have more ideas, have a desire to learn; however, to prevent falling back into this cycle of Ne-Fe loops and Si grips, it is paramount that the ENTP learns not to overextend the Fe process, but let it assist Ti, which must be accessed consciously to weed out inconsistent ideas. It may seem a bit depressing at first for the ENTP to do this, but it is vital if ENTP is to gain some control over themselves and innovate.

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Ti will help ENTP’s exhausted psyche relax. Which if you’re a Ti using individual, you’ll think, “What?” But Ti will take off the tremendous load of heavy weight that Ne can put on the much weaker and less preferred Fe and Si, and help bring ENTP calmness, clear-mindedness, and eventually have ENTP brainstorming and creating new systems of thoughts that will meet needs and be established as new norm.

It is kind of interesting that… so many NPs actually feel so powerless, uncontrolled, and feel ridiculed by society, yet they are the very people that society needs to continue development and prevent stagnation (and therefore instability). NPs often complain about feeling useless, unproductive, and under-respected, yet there’s so much untapped potential in them, that if they don’t do the work themselves and bring themselves out to meet the challenge, they’d not only be doing themselves disservice, they’d be doing society a disservice.

INTP : BEING THOUGHT OF AS BORING OR UNINTELLIGENT.

INTPs derive most pleasure from solitary activities such as research and acts of creativity. Their minds are always bubbling with ideas and  random sometimes hilarious cogitations. INTPs know that if someone were to glimpse the amusing contents of their thoughts it would be clear why they are so absorbed with their inner world.

They do not particularly concern themselves with what people think of them but on some level they do realize that their penchant for being reserved and detached can lead other more extroverted types to assume they are boring, dumb, or arrogant. INTPs are sometimes torn between doubling down on their defiance of social paradigms or coming out of their shell to impress everyone with how witty and funny they can be. INTPs generally don’t feel the need to prove how interesting they are to anyone; it is enough that they know it. But when they sense they are being underestimated or labelled as dull, they may be compelled to unveil some of the brilliance they keep to themselves.

ENTP: BEING DISLIKED BY OTHERS.

ENTPs thrive on engaging in animated debates where they can flex their litigious wit. In the process, they can cultivate the reputation of a quarrelsome troll who will indulge in frivolous arguments just for the hell of it.

Others may quickly learn to avoid messing with ENTPs because of their skill with mordant retorts. ENTPs may sometimes be concerned if those even in their inner circle truly value their friendship. They want to be entertaining and amusing to others and they spend a lot of time trying to be charming and clever conversationalists. They can seem very airy and impersonal but they still desire deep and meaningful connections with people.

INTJ:  SHOWING EMOTIONAL WEAKNESS AND VULNERABILITY.

INTJs are not known for being soft emotional sponges nor would they want to be. Part of this is due to their disapproval of maudlin displays of sentimentality viewing it as a sign of weakness.

Having a bleeding heart does not jibe with the INTJ’s self-image, which in their mind would resemble a pillar of stoic strength built with the blocks of empirical truth. INTJs prize their independence and their sense of agency and self-sufficiency. Despite their phlegmatic demeanor, INTJs do experience a flux of emotions that threaten to destabilize their temperament, potentially sending them into fits of rage or into the pits of depression. They actively suppress the expression of these feelings choosing instead to examine their meaning intellectually. The realm of emotions is to them a messy and troublesome affair and INTJs fear baring too much of their soul at the altar of public scrutiny.

ENTJ: UNABLE TO SEIZE OPPORTUNITIES 

ENTJs are statistically the highest earning of all the personality types; a figure they would undoubtedly take pride in. They are enterprising and always casting their radar out into the ethosphere scanning for new horizons to explore. They are naturally competitive and know that there are always competitors who threaten to snap up an idea or opening before they can.

This is a source of stress for them and something they endeavor to mitigate by optimizing and refining their senses and ability to capitalize on good bets before others can. They can be so busy thinking ahead of the curve, that they overlook unexpected windows of opportunity that suddenly appear in the here-and-now. Being the ambitious high achievers they are, they would not want to miss out on valuable options just because they were too singularly focused on their predefined plans.

INFP: THEIR ABILITY TO TRUST AND FULLY OPEN THEMSELVES TO OTHERS.

INFPs don’t like getting burned but at some point in their lives, it’s bound to happen. When it does, the lesson can have lasting impact on future relationships making them more guarded and harder to get to know well. They can become very suspicious and distrustful of other’s motives for fear of being taken advantage of or betrayed again.Luckier INFPs may never experience the need to develop an emotional coat of armor but for many, it is essential for protecting their psychological balance. People who want to get past an INFP’s emotional barriers will likely first have to pass the battery of ‘character’ tests which the INFP administers through furtive observation of their subject over time.

ENFP: BEING VIEWED AS AIMLESS AND UNMOTIVATED.

Though often very talented, ENFPs at their heart may harbor some insecurities that they attempt to alleviate through achievement. Earning status, fame and recognition in the world may serve as tokens of validation for them and they pursue this end with charismatic chutzpah.

They accentuate their quirkiness and creativity like a peacock displaying it’s plumage. They contribute to the world through their unusual yet valuable and often spiritual insight. It would put a damper on their self esteem if they were viewed as typical or commonplace. They would like to fancy themselves as more than just another crab in the barrel but at the same time desire to uplift and inspire others.

INFJ: BEING TREATED UNFAIRLY.

For all their noble qualities, INFJs are apt to develop a persecution complex in response to criticism leveled against them. Their sensitivity to criticism and conflict can easily render them feeling victimized and beleaguered by others who disagree with their ideas or beliefs.  

In asserting their ideas they sometimes feel their back is against the wall as they contend with what they view as unfair treatment or willful misconstructions of their arguments by opponents. By their estimate, most of the problems INFJs face stem from a failure by others to properly understand them or simply a depravity of good ethical principles on their part. INFJs are inclined to cry foul when they sense the playing field is not level and often, the causes they take up are centered around equalizing it.

ENFJ: BEING ALONE OR OSTRACIZED SOCIALLY.

ENFJs may have the noblest of intentions but their lofty ideals can sometimes set them up for failure. Their desire to be everything to everyone leads them to become charismatic and popular moral leaders but sometimes come across as glib and disingenuous as well.

The effort to maintain the pristine saintly image they have built up can force them to conceal or deny the human flaws they share along with the rest of us. They fear disappointing other’s expectations of them or their idea of what others should expect of them. They want to be a belweather and shining example of decency and likability. ENFJs fear becoming a pariah and being cutoff from the social main and they can be quite officious in their effort to gin up their popularity and esteem within their community.

ISFJ: BEING VALUED AND NEEDED BY OTHERS.

ISFJs want to help others and derive much of their self-worth from how vital a role they can serve in this regard. They feel most secure when they are dutifully fulfilling a support function upon which others depend.

But like a crack dealer, they may go so far as to stimulate this dependence in others by monopolizing their role such that no else may be allowed to conduct it for themselves. In order to satisfy their own need to feel needed they may attempt to make themselves indispensable by performing tasks to such a high degree and standard that others would feel loathe or unwilling to match it. It would be heart-breaking for them to feel that no one truly appreciated or needed them for anything.

ESFJ: BEING APPRECIATED AND LOVE-WORTHY.

ESFJs will go to great lengths to please those around them, sometimes doing too much and annoying others in the process. This is because they want to be appreciated and valued by others and will make gestures to engender gratitude from them.

They may occasionally feel their place in the hearts of others unjustly threatened by someone or something and they may engage in not-so-subtle attempts at winning favor with them. They may particularly engage in shameless self promotion making exaggerated claims about their abilities and qualities. Within a group, they may become stressed out as they are pulled in a million different directions, attempting to please everyone while also becoming extremely sensitive to others’ opinions of them. They are extremely concerned with being accepted and feeling liked.

ISTJ: BEING RESPECTED AND SEEN AS TRUSTWORTHY.

ISTJs are tradition-minded empiricists who look to be a firm and responsible figure in both their personal and professional circles. They seek to position themselves in a place of authority where they can make decisions and assert control.

In order to justify this, they make an effort to maintain an image of high standards, and ethic. They want to be seen as diligent and dutiful and will cultivate this image even to the point of appearing self-righteous and sanctimonious. They will seek respect from their subordinates even if they have to demand it sometimes resorting to dictatorial means. ISTJs may be very fair but strict and disciplined. They view their conservative temperament as essential to being taken seriously as an object of authority and repute.

ESTJ: IMPLEMENTING PERSONAL IDEAS.

ESTJs usually look to their experience and history to guide them in their decisions and methods. They focus on facts and data and value tradition and customs but they also have ideas of their own although they may not always be confident enough to rely on them.

ESTJs do not like being seen as unoriginal  and unimaginative and will at times try to convey an openness to new ideas and possibilities whether put forward by themselves or others. Of course, it would be ideal if they could take as much credit as possible for the ideas that really work. Their sense of pride and self empowerment compels them to occasionally venture outside of their comfort zone when necessary and be more inventive.

ISFP: BEING UNDER OTHER’S CONTROL.

ISFPs have no desire to control other people and simply want to be free to be who they are. They want to express themselves and their unique creativity authentically and unadulterated by arbitrary social constrictions.

A rigid, stifling environment is terrifying to this type. They are insecure about feeling imposed upon or beholden to others particularly within a power structure or hierarchy. They fancy themselves as free spirits owned by no one. They do not like feeling common and lowly and crave the freedom to express themselves like the rest of us crave water and air. This type needs to go out into the world and explore, discover and create without limitations, in order to feel like themselves.  They fear having their self-expression limited in any way.

ESFP: THEIR ATTRACTIVENESS AND SENSE OF SELF WORTH.

ESFPs live to perform, entertain and excite those around them. The spotlight is where they thrive and their idea of horror is a world in which nobody finds them interesting or entertaining. They live to explore people possibilities and the idea of those possibilities disappearing truly scares them. They want to be popular and well-liked and will often blend in to their environment to do so. ESFPs take special interest in their appearance and social image and are very aware of how they are perceived by others. They enjoy being the epicenter of attention and try to gin up excitement when they come around. They also dislike being seen as unintelligent and will take that very offensively. Just because the ESFP enjoys having fun, does not mean they are not intelligent.

ISTP: HANDS-OFF LEARNING

ISTPs  cognitive style lends itself to a more tactile approach to education. They are statistically one of the least academically inclined personality types because classroom settings and literature-based curriculum don’t stimulate or cater to their way of learning. The ISTP lives to understand the world in a direct, concrete fashion. They learn by tinkering, testing, experimenting and meddling. A world in which they are expected to blindly accept how things work is a world that they don’t want to live in. The ISTP needs to get their hands dirty in life – and being held back from doing so is a truly terrifying thought.

ESTP: THEIR PUBLIC IMAGE AND BEING ADMIRED BY OTHERS.

ESTPs are often attention seekers who would be malcontent in a modest life of obscurity. They want to be somebody and can be very ego-centric and arrogant in their pursuit of prestige, adulation and acclaim.

The ENTP awkward phase is a time, normally in the teen years, where the naturally goofy and loveable ENTP, represses themselves in order to fit in. 

The problem with this is that ENTPs are well… naturally unique. Not everyone is like them which is why they’re one of the rarer personalities. Yet they want to fit in somewhat and to do this, they start repressing their naturally unique personality. It could be their weirdness, their loudness, their talkative nature, their annoyingness or anything really. But repressing it feels awful and it can lead the ENTP to feeling really upset.

When in this phase, ENTPs may fit in, but can still come across as rather introverted or just awkward. Yet this frustrates the ENTP because they know that that isn’t themselves at their best, and it feels like barely anyone knows what they’re actually like.

It can be hard to break out of this phase and be your happy ENTP self again, but the key is to not care about others. Their expectations shouldn’t be stopping you from being yourself. It doesn’t matter if they think you’re kind or not, what matters is your happiness and if being yourself upsets them, then that’s too bad.

Micromanagers

Micromanaging, when people feel the need to obsess and find out every little detail about you. They’ll freak when they find you were getting along well with that guy/girl at a party. They’ll message you about 50 times a day, trying to find out where you are every 5 seconds. They’ll ask all your friends about you, trying to get as many details of your personal life as they can. Insecure, overly needy and clingy, they obsess over the idea of you.

Yeah, if this is you, stop. It’s not cute, it’s freaky. ENTPs all around the world will run in the opposite direction.

People pleasers & attention seekers

So there’s this thing called dignity. Sure, I’ll charm people when I want my way. Sure, if I crave attention I’ll recall a crazy story and people will flock around. But the idea of stripping myself of my dignity and throwing myself at others in hopes they’ll accept me, it’s disgusting.

If you cry and throw an unnecessary fuss just to get people to pity you, be warned ENTPs will see through you as clear as day. We’ll have lost all our respect towards you and frankly, we won’t want anything to do with you.

Illogicalness & the inability to listen to reason

People with strong emotions are great, sometimes they are crazy inspiring. But when they’re so focused on their own emotions and views that they refuse to listen to any logic you present them with… it’s annoying.

Existential crisis, self-discovery, whatever you wanna call it, here’s my thing:

ENTPs are like motivated hippies. We wanna go with the flow–with every single thing–but at the same time we want to try NEW things everyday and all the time, so we PUSH ourselves to do those things. We break rules, break records, blow minds…we have to always be doing and thinking up something new.

ENTPs don’t have Fi, but our suuuuperbly HIDDEN values mean the world to us. We may not give a damn about a single thing on this planet but oNE and that ONE THING can destroy us SOOO easily. For some of us its religion, for some it’s a lover, for some it’s self-image/ego…whatever it is, it keeps us secretly grounded amidst our ever-changing persona. Without it, we are no one (because we try to be everything.)

ENTPs, although it’s antithetical, feel insecure about how other people see them. It’s tertiary Fe. You’ll hear us say things like, “I don’t care what they think! F*ck them!” But deep, deep down, it’s a lie. You have to think of it like this: truly smart people don’t have to say they’re smart, truly gifted people don’t have to say they’re gifted; SO people who truly aren’t worried about what people think of them don’t say they’re not worried about what people think of them.

And this leads me to… ENTPs are actually pretty antithetical people overall. I mean, other types say they’re living contradictions, but we really ARE. While we parade around saying we live in the moment, bad hair don’t care, say we’re smart and we know it…simultaneously we have well-thought out futures, we do care what you think of us (as aforementioned), and we struggle to be seen as smart by everyone since we, like INTPs, DO second guess ourselves a lot. We just don’t show it, and that in itself creates the contradiction. We ARE the ultimate devil’s advocate for this reason.

All in all: ENTPs live through the “masks” that we wear to the world, except the “masks” are hardly masks at all; each one is a part of our identity. Whoever we decide to be today is a part of who we are and a part of our growth as a human being, because seeing the world through different perspectives is a GREAT learning process.

As an INTJ, you’re a huge fan of ENTPs.  Unfortunately, ENTPs are always passing you up for INFJs.  Here’s how you solve that problem.

Step 1: Locate an ENTP

If you’re having trouble, contact your nearest entrepreneurial showcase.  If you happen to be at Comicon, find yourself a Tony Stark — I hear that’s a pretty reliable method.

Step 2: Establish a Rapport with the ENTP

Impress them with your intellect by way of sarcasm and puns.

Step 3: Lure the ENTP into your Secret Lair

Entice them with claims of time machine schematics for which you can’t quite figure out how to build a working prototype.

Step 4: Capture the ENTP

Why else would you have built that army of robots?  The dungeon should hold the ENTP for now… Just until you finish outfitting the ENTP’s basement room with a holding well (make sure the pulley system can be outfitted with both a hook and a tray, and can support the weight of an entire human being… and sometimes a cleaning robot, if need be).

Step 5: Marry the ENTP

Consent to marriage is for wimps.  Simply outfit one of your robots with the guise of the ENTP you captured.  No need to fool family and friends for an elaborate wedding ceremony — a simple town hall affair with a couple of witnesses should suffice.  You knew that handwriting duplication program you installed in your robots would come in handy someday.

Step 6: Cover your Tracks

You’re down the rabbit hole already anyway, right?  Telling the ENTP’s family that the ENTP has become a stay-at-home parent will only work for so long, and you’d prefer to avoid building a baby robot to substantiate your claim.  Dodge prying eyes by announcing the two of you have joined a highly secluded religious cult.

Step 7: Love Your New ENTP

ENTPs are adorable humans that bounce around so quickly that you can’t really take your eyes off them or they will build two machines running on carbon dioxide and have sharpies for fingers. Those said sharpies are for decorating the walls!, the ENTPs would have insisted, but you shouldn’t have listen, you told yourself regretfully when you woke up to a specially modified face the next morning. However, they are still in great demand for you’ll want to hit and hug them at the same time. Sadly, you’ll have to catch those little tricksters first. Rain or shine, ENTPs will make you laugh and it’s a noticeable fact that INFJs have an adorable ENTP at their side to shower with extra love and care.

But what about the rest of us? The INTXs would cry out angrily, unable to accept the fact that for once, they could not capture such fast-paced, trash-talking, happy creatures. After all, impossible was not a concept in those introverted rationals head unless we are looking at the emotional aspect of humans. Looking at the statistics, there should be plenty of ENTPs to go around for there isn’t enough INFJs to buy them all. So how do you capture an ENTP?

Step One: Grab their attention. They have short attention spans. The one way is to walk up to them and rattle off a series of numbers to your next pseudo-hydrogen-titanium bomb project. They would be so intrigued, they will run after you, demanding for answers.

That is, if they didn’t nod understandingly and classify you as an idiot first.

Step two: Keep them chasing. ENTPs get bored easily. Wonder why INFJs ever throw their hands up exasperatedly and charge towards the all-willing ENFPs that open their arms for extra glomps? Well, probably not, because nobody saw that happening. ENTPs wants you to keep up a conversation. But how, the INTXs will now raised their eyebrows suspiciously, wary that this might be another trap. Simple! This ENTP will flick her hair arrogantly while dodging the rolled-up newspaper her INTJ just swung at her. Saw a new topic on discovery channel? Great, tell them. Ask their INFP friends on what they like. Found out why Saturn has it’s rings and Uranus have an extremely retarded name? Even better, bring it up the next time they frustratedly looked at the ceiling in (useless) attempt to pass time.

Assuming if they don’t learn it all first, which they probably did.

Step three: Do not be afraid to call them out for their bullshit. ENTPs exist for one reason: to explain absolutely idiotic (and inaccurate) synopsis of any known scientific facts just to examine which are the ones foolish enough to fall for their convincing lies. Everyone, that is. However, call them out for it. Disagree with them, and let them know that you see through everything. (Well, not their clothes, even if they make sexual innuendos about it. Trade your see-through googles for their nudes, if you are that desperate, and prepare to be duped.) Wow them with your critical thinking and if you successfully displayed to the ENTP that you are more cynical than the status quo, congratulations, you are 70% there!

Until they completely forget about your thinking charm and decided that XSTPs are sexy, while thinking that they should obtain one.

Step four: Be unpredictable. This speaks for itself spiritually. Don’t blow up the barbies they are planning to dissect though, that’s cruelty on its finest level.

Step five: Be rare. Yes, you read that right. We are rare enough, the INTXs will now cheer after reading this. Finally, a step we can accomplish, nodded an INTJ approvingly.

Do not make yourself too available. That is to say, do not talk to them everyday. The ENTPs are actually great at spotting out patterns and they will eventually (in a week) learn how your mind works while getting bored of you since what you say is entirely predictable, which ruins step four as well. Be scarce. Approach them quite a bit during the first few interactions and be scarce after that.

Note: if they wander about, looking adorably lost, it’s time for you to step in and gently guide them back to you. Do not completely abandon them, you’ll regret it after realizing that they reigned in a black hole and sucked everything up since they went unsupervised. If they respond to your messages with long paragraphs and frequent replies, they are interested. Do not engage them in small talk.

Step six: Do not get discouraged easily. ENTPs are wonderful at forgetting things. That is to say, if they do forget to reply to your one sentence message, you are probably boring them to death. Feed them paragraphs of literature. Show them satirical pictures of politics and life. Talk about philosophy with them. However, understand that they have difficulties maintaining a consistent psychological distance with people. They might seem shockingly close to you one day and randomly distant the next. Try to perk them up with the newest picture you found of a Stalin and Hitler relationship and be sure to double check their drinks for any love potions placed inside by an INFJ.

There you go. 6 steps on how to capture an ENTP. Think you can do it?

Credits to rationals-pub.tumblr.com for the original idea of writing the manual for obtaining an ENTP. I got inspired after reading theirs, read that awesome manual in the link below!

http://rationals-pub.tumblr.com/post/111903140076/intj-manual-how-to-obtain-your-very-own-entp