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There isn't just one type of femininity! You don't need to be hyper feminine similar to a modern Marilyn Monroe, you can most definently be a "soft girl" you don't even have to go to extremes to be high maintence or have high standards. If you like fur jackets, hoops, heavy makeup, long weave etc. Then that's fine but if you prefer to be less dramatic like Audrey Hepburn do that or if you have a totally different style then dress that way! Softer femininity is perfectly fine and you don't need to have a baddie attitude. If you prefer to be soft spoken, not a barbie, no fake lashes, nails, or hair and you prefer absoulte softness that doesn't mean you're not a high maintence feminine women. Actually you don't even need to be high maintence to be "unbasic"