Love Advice Given Freely

If you’re getting vibes that he doesn’t like you, plus the fact that he has a girlfriend, you’re going to have to sit this one out. Distract yourself in your hobbies, schoolwork, good friends, extra curriculars, family, job, or whatever else you’ve got. And the year is almost over. You’ll move on if you remind yourself that you haven’t got the chance, I promise. Crushes, even big ones, aren’t forever.

You should text him! I don’t think those “rules” or “customs” of who texts whom have any meaning in 2016. Who cares if he’s the last to text you? Especially if he seems that interested in you, you feel free to hit him up! He might have got distracted or maybe he just doesn’t know what to say next. Good luck, and have fun!

There’s precedent here that shows that your feelings about this make sense. But just because your bestie shouldn’t set you up with him doesn’t mean that you can’t have him! Go after him yourself, or have someone else help you out if you’re uncomfortable.

Ask him what he wants. He might have changed his mind, or maybe he’s just a chronic mind-changer. If his response to you is in any way wishy-washy, make sure to stay away from contact with him so you don’t drive yourself wild trying to figure it out in the future.

You better cut that other boy out of your life immediately. You’re not going to break up with your boyfriend, which is good because he wants you for more than just your body. Still, you need to start cutting back on bad influences in your life. Unfriend him on facebook, delete his texts, and don’t reach out to him or hang out with him until you have your hormones under control.

Try backing off of him for a while. There might be something going on in his life that doesn’t have to do with how attracted to you he is. Has he switched jobs lately, or started working out or commuting to school further distances? He might be too tired. Maybe his parents are fighting or his cat’s died or he’s about to propose to you so he has some anxieties on his mind. How long has it been since you guys have had sex that often? If it’s only been a few weeks or a month, I wouldn’t be too concerned. If it’s been longer, I can understand your worry. Sometimes, though, there are periods in our lives where we just need breaks.That doesn’t mean break up with him or anything but we can unknowingly smother our friends, family, and significant others. But relax. Masturbate, take the time to get some of that sensitivity back that you lose if you have sex in the same position too often. Let him come back to you. I’m hoping he will, in time.

Hi! You probably didn’t do anything wrong. To be honest, something about the response he gave to your past makes me feel kind of iffy about him; whenever I hear people say something like that I’m always like “wow, you’re lying.” It’s a nice thing to say, but it doesn’t come out of much deep thought because it’s also easy to say. So I’m going to have to go ahead and say that with this limited (keep that in mind, that I don’t know the entire situation) knowledge, it’s him and not you. Don’t chase after him, though. Wait for him to come back to you and feel out the situation. If he seems to be cold, try to leave it all alone. If he hits you back with an explanation of his behavior and you feel good giving him another try, go for it. Otherwise, if he does something like this again, leave it alone completely.

No worries for the long post, I appreciate the amount of detail you’re giving me. My personal opinion is that you should let him know of your feelings. You’ll get everything going, but it won’t go too far too fast because you’re still going to be hesitant and he’s going to be shy. Since it isn’t going to be over the top right away, there should be nothing happening that will ruin your friendship.

Don’t talk to him! And don’t make any excuses for it, either. I am a huge opponent of people who talk to their exes, and considering you talked to this guy for about a year and you’re not over him, I consider him an ex. It might be difficult to not talk to him. Still, his having a girlfriend isn’t good for her because he shouldn’t be talking to anyone else in a romantic sense but also bad for you because you’re hurt by it. Get him off your mind forever using the sheer force of your willpower.

Find some common ground and talk about it. Most people love to talk about themselves or their interests, and you can ask for your crush’s expertise.