Welcome to this synastry post. With this I intend to talk about those aspects that could seem tense and about which many have dedicated themselves to simply talking about the dark side without talking about the other side of the coin. I do not intend to sugarcoat these placements, simply to say their good side as long as both do their part. I won’t talk about each aspect, just the ones that are usually pointed out as very tense or irremediable. In the same way, I won’t talk about the darker side of this aspect since you can find that information quite easily. In case you support this post, I may consider making a second part. With that being said, let's begin.

🟫Sun making hard aspects with Sun [Square or Opposition].

This aspect is usually the target of hate for many who are just beginning their path to astrology, seeing them as incompatible, especially those who square. On occasions, for many the idea of ​​being very different from someone makes them somewhat blind to the other things that make them similar.

The good point of these aspects is that both can show the other new things, they can help each other discover certain sides of their personality. Perhaps showing them traits of themselves that they didn't know they had, or simply opening them up to being able to be those sides of themselves that aren't out of shame or fear. What many do not take into consideration is that in the case of being a square, both signs are usually of the same modality, which facilitates their mutual understanding and they can become very curious about the other. In the case of an opposition it is slightly simpler, since they are usually signs of compatible elements and the same energy [feminine or masculine]. What usually happens in this kind of relationship is a feeling of not fully understanding who the other person is, finding them eccentric in some way or not being very familiar with some of their behaviors, but nevertheless feeling very drawn to them, feeling very affinity or a feeling of being able to connect with them in an authentic way. Authentic because you see in them a person who, despite their differences, is not afraid to change a little in order to fully understand you. Both offer different and very interesting perspectives, and you can notice that it motivates and expands you to explore yourself and love yourself more.

I mention "may be" since on many occasions, in the case of squares, it can happen in signs of different modalities due to degrees. Or in the case of the opposition, because can it happen in signs that are not sister signs, again, due to degrees.

🟫Sun making hard aspects with Venus [Square or Opposition].

I have heard a lot about these aspects, especially the "you do not meet their beauty standards”, which seems very crude and somewhat ridiculous to me, since it is an empty meaning. 

Being an aspect of the Sun and Venus indicates a theme of personality and fascination. What this aspect can tell us is that the two of you may be the first person that the other notices in terms of personality [for example, let's say that one of you is usually interested in very cheerful, outgoing people who they love to party, however, the other is rather introverted, serious and more of a homebody]. It's not that "you don't meet their beauty standards", since we're talking about the Sun that doesn't exactly tell us about the body, rather about the personality. They may have many differences between the two, be it in attitude, tastes or interests. Both of you can help each other see beauty in things you don't usually see it in, and if you're open-minded, the differences between you won't be too difficult for you. In the case of an opposition, you may find these differences between you something very appealing and interesting, you may even have the impression that the other complements you in those attitudes or interests that you feel you do not have. In the case of a square, it makes it very likely that they will get along but have a different way of feeling loved or accepted, so it will take a little more understanding, however, they can understand their needs [by being the same modality]. They can see the other person as someone fascinating and totally different from what they usually like, they see in the other someone extremely appealing, and maybe at the beginning of this connection, both felt that the other was out of their league in some way. 

🟫Sun making hard aspects with Pluto [Conjunction, Square or Opposition].

Obsession or toxicity... surely we have all heard or read this, right? However, it goes beyond that, much more. This meaning is usually attributed to it by the powerful Pluto, whose energy can be so powerful that many seeing it may look a little scared or unprepared. Especially when coming into contact with a planet [luminary] as personal as the Sun. It is powerful energy, but it depends only on the maturity of both individuals.

A feeling of not being able to get the other person out of your mind, both of you made a very strong impression on the other, and could have easily earned each other's respect or admiration. Both will profoundly change the life of the other, as no one has ever been able to. The Pluto person will be delighted with the presence and strength of the SUn person, there will be in them that they will see as magnetically and very attractive, they will find it impossible not to feel this attraction for the other. In the case of the Sun person, you will find it impossible to look away from the Pluto person, you will feel that they are a person full of mysteries and charm, someone complex who never ceases to amaze you every time you see them. They may feel that the other gave a very deep meaning to their lives or to everything they used to know. Both of you can make the other open much more, you can feel that you can be transparent with the other and that there is no need to hide this side of you that can be considered the darkside. You can feel much more powerful after being with the other, something like a power couple. This aspect is usually related to the issue of control, one of the parties wanting the other to do and be what they want, but it does not always have to be or it’s not usually the case, it may be the opposite and they feel very liberated with the other in a certain way.

🟫Moon making hard aspects with Saturn [Conjunction, Square or Opposition].

I can imagine why a lot of people look unhappy seeing this aspect, since if having it in a natal chart can feel like a tiring ride, some think the same goes for a synastry chart. When in fact this aspect in this card is something that you do not have to deal with alone, since the relationship belongs to both of you, and if you both are equally focused or just love each other, this aspect can have a totally different connotation.

Saturn's keywords are not only coldness, restriction or karma, they are also commitment and stability. This relationship can be very serious from the beginning, loyalty and durability are usually the most favorable points of these aspects. Both may seem to be people of a different nature, Saturn person being much more controlled and private, while the Moon person is usually the emotional and sensitive one, this does not always have to collide, since the Saturn person is fascinated and touched by sweet, attentive and warm nature of the Moon person, may even want to protect and provide stability and support to the other person. In the case of the Moon person, they are delighted with how reliable the Saturn person is. They love that feeling of finally being able to trust someone and feeling that there is someone who is finally honest with them. Both of you work hard to keep the relationship afloat and make it calm and comfortable for the other person. They will rarely be seen to argue with each other and will always want to settle things calmly. In terms of opposition, both can feel more stable in terms of lifestyle [either eating better, improving their sleeping schedule or becoming more responsible] and can feel more secure in what they want or want. In terms of the square, both may not be so cheesy, however their actions will scream how much they want this relationship and commitment to the other.

🟫Moon making hard aspects with Neptune [Conjunction, Square or Opposition].

When the planet of confusion, of imagination or idealization comes into contact with the planet of emotions, it seems to be a game over. But we must take into account many things, astrologically, how our Saturns are being aspected, and more psychologically, how well we are before entering a relationship.

When both people do their part, these relationships often have a healing quality to them, both seem to be able to easily read each other's emotions and find a reason for their emotional state. Both are fascinated with what the other person is behind the scenes, they can feel that knowing the other person deeply is a journey full of happiness, magic and pure charm. They will seek to help each other, help or motivate each other to heal, they can feel like home after a tired day. However... is it like this from the beginning? Yes, but in a subtle way. It is very likely that the other's feelings are not so obvious at first, they may even think that the other does not see them in the same way, a feeling of uncertainty regarding the other person's feelings. This is easily solved, being clear with what they feel from the beginning, not fearing to address the situation quickly and sincerely. Moon person is delighted with the aura, magic, delicacy and certain charm of the Neptune person, it seems that they are that reminder that they obtained to dare to see beyond the obvious and dare to dream. In the case of the Neptune person, you can see the Moon person as a dream come true, someone you don't see every day, someone unique and fascinating, a person with whom life seems to have more good things than bad.

🟫Moon making hard aspects with Pluto [Conjunction, Square or Opposition].

Similar to the case of the Sun, the Moon is another of the most sensitive points of the chart, so a tense aspect with Pluto can be the same or even more stigmatized than the aspects between Sun-Pluto. From feeling overwhelmed by so much intensity to jealousy and restrictions, are some of the labels imposed on these aspects.

There will be a lot of changes in both, that's for sure, especially in the Moon Person. They may feel a strange fascination and enchantment with the other person, a sense of meeting the other wherever you go, an endless curiosity to discover the deepest side of the other. A sense of charm but some intimidation, like magnets, can be very drawn to the other. Both will want to protect each other very much and will not hesitate to defend the other if they feel that someone else attacked or offended them. They can become much more caring [the Moon person] or much more protective and alert [the Pluto person] around this person. In the case of the Moon person, they will be seen to be more introspective after meeting the other, they will be much deeper with their emotions. In the case of the Pluto person, they will be seen letting their guard down a bit more, being more open and emotional with this person. The key here is to be healthy people, since excesses can overwhelm both. Both of you can be a great emotional support for the other and bring both love and loyalty into the other person's life. Being with the other can be an emotional purge to let go of everything that did not serve you in your life, you can feel that both are totally transformed in the relationship and feel that their emotions are taken with the acceptance with which they should be.

🟫Venus making hard aspects with Venus [Square or Opposition].

This aspect is usually described as somewhat tricky, since the nature of Venus in tense aspects is one of the easiest to cope with in synastry or composite, but nevertheless, it tells us about our tastes in love, our vision of it and precisely usually be pointed out as one of the most compatible aspects in a friendship than in a romantic relationship. It does not have to be this way.

What is clear from the beginning is that both can have many differences in matters of how they feel loved or how they make the other feel loved, but this does not mean that both do not feel very attracted to each other. Both see the other as someone fascinating, both in personality and in terms of their body, it seems that the attraction is immediate and indescribable. It is very common for these people not to know what to answer when asked "what do you like most about the other?" since they would not be able to say what exactly is the reason when everything seems interesting and appealing to the other person. Despite their differences, they manage to get along quite well. As soon as the moment of being in the relationship, both have to let the other know what they consider a priority in a relationship, what things make them feel loved and what things not so much, since they can be different in this matter, as I mentioned previously. In case of an opposition, the understanding will occur over time, both can find the other incredibly attractive on many levels, similar to Sun-Venus, they can see the other as their complementary opposite, and this aspect can portend something very long term. Finally, in the square situation, both can tease the other way more than the opposition would, however the fascination and attraction would be just as powerful. They do not understand the other, and they like that and motivates them to want to do it because they see them as someone who is worth trying to make that jump.

🟫Venus making hard aspects with Uranus [Conjunction, Square or Opposition].

"There is no trust or reliability" "Pull and push", I think that these are not things that we should attribute to this placement, rather they should be attributed to the fact that that person was not looking for anything serious with them. We make the mistake of justifying certain behaviors with astrology, when in reality everything depends on our maturity.

At first the attraction will be very strong, fast and inexplicable for both parties. The Venus person is charmed by the originality, sense of independence and even the quirks of the other person, their intelligence and attitude froze them and took them by surprise, so much so that they would love to continue being so surprised. The Uranus person is amazed by that unique way of loving that the Venus person has, by their incomparable beauty with others and by the strong impression they left on them. It doesn't matter how serene they both are or how thoughtful they seemed before having a crush, they can't help but feel delighted from the first time they saw each other, everything will happen very quickly for both of them, they won't have time to process why, or how, or when, they will only feel a rush of happiness when they cross paths with each other. They can get to think about what a future with the other would be like, they can become a little idealistic about the other. They will love the feeling of the other, of freedom, of being able to be authentic, because both will be amazed at even the most quirky details or that the other considers embarrassing. Both will be very playful with each other, they will be more open and can be very warm from the start. If they are friends, they may also act as a couple, if they are a couple, they may also act as friends, since both terms are important when it comes to the other. They have different styles, especially when it comes to living life, depending on the type of person they are, it does not have to be a major problem.

🟫Venus making hard aspects with Pluto [Conjunction, Square or Opposition].

Another of the placements that are usually strongly judged, here we do not find descriptions such as "toxic relationship indicator", again the theme of obsession and even manipulation. No, please no. Or at least try to be a little more creative and not just associate Pluto with descriptions of jealousy and obsession. Again, this may be due to the very different natures of the planets involved, Pluto being associated with more direct and strong energy, while Venus is more subtle and sweet.

This is my first synastry post, so why not make it a red flags edition! Here we go:

TW: Mentions of Abuse and stalking. 

🚩🚩 Mars Square Pluto: Without a doubt, there is intense sexual attraction with this aspect and there’s intense emotions. However, this aspect if not dealt with properly can turn into a very toxic and/or abusive relationship. It can be extremely dangerous and volatile. Trust me, I’ve had this aspect twice before, and both relationships got very abusive. There are a lot of power struggles here, and the relationship can be filled with drama. Tread with caution. 

🚩🚩 Mars Square Neptune: This tends to be a stalker aspect. The Mars person can get obsessed with the Neptune person. They can also become addicted to each other, and this can be a problem if the relationship turns sour. They could have a hard time leaving each other. The relationship can also be very passive aggressive, and the Mars person can become too much for the Neptune person. (If not a romantic aspect, this can be a stalker synastry aspect)

🚩🚩🚩 Asteroid Dejanira Conjunct Sun, Moon, Venus, Mars and or NN: This is the victim asteroid. If you have yours conjunct any of these planets, look out. You can become their victim, and the relationship can potentially become abusive/toxic. While it might not be full on domestic violence, it can be very toxic. Definitely approach this with caution. I’ve had this before and a friend of mine has as well, and I’ve found it to be true. 

🚩🚩🚩 Mars Square Mars: This aspect increases the possibility of abuse and violence. There can be a lot of fights, and this is labeled as one of the worst synastry aspects. 

🚩 Pluto in the 4H overlay: This can become a very controlling and overdependent relationship if the individuals aren’t careful. It can also be very hard for them to leave, which can become an issue if the relationship gets toxic. If done right, it can create an unbreakable bond and the two can grow together. However, I personally think it’s more trouble than it’s worth. 

🚩 Moon Square Pluto: Yikes. This is a very binding and powerful placement, but it can turn sour so fast. It can lead to obsession, stalking, and/or extreme attachment to each other. It can also indicate emotional abuse (my parents have this and their marriage…yikes). The Pluto person can also find themselves being overwhelmed by the emotional demands of the Moon person. If this aspect is developed and worked through it has the potential to be a life-long bond. 

🚩🚩 Moon Square Moon: This one isn’t abusive or dangerous, it’s just hard. You guys are just never gonna feel like you’re on the same page about anything. There’s a lot of struggles with understanding each other and fulfilling each other’s emotional needs. 

🚩🚩 Moon Square Saturn: The Moon person may struggle with expressing their emotions because of the Saturn’s judgement or criticism. The Moon person may also become overly dependent on the Saturn person for emotional support. I’ve seen this in three charts now, and the relationships have not faired well. 

🚩 Mercury Square Jupiter: The ultimate silent treatment aspect. Whenever the Mercury person pushes the Jupiter person too far, the Jupiter person typically ignores the Mercury person. This also indicates communication issues and couple tends to not address problems as much as they should. 

🚩 Mars Square Saturn: There’s just an unwillingness to compromise and the Mars person can become very controlling over the Saturn person. They’ll choose their pride over fixing the argument. Mars will be like a demanding child and Saturn will be the strict parent. Just a lot of control here; they’re better off as friends. 

How you come together

As I commented in my last observation post (which by the way thanks for all the love on it!), Venus in the composite can indicate what area of life the couple usually gets together, how or where they usually come together. There are more indicators for this, but as you can imagine Venus is one of the most important things to look at in a composite and it’s always interesting to dig in all the possible meanings. As I also promised in my previous observation post about relationships, here’s a brief description of Venus on each house in the composite chart, responding to the question how the couple usually gets together.

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Venus in the 1st house in the composite: it’s always the two of you together. You guys always count on eachother to go everywhere and to share everything 👩🏽‍🤝‍👨🏼

Venus in the 2nd house in the composite: you guys could make money together, go shopping, enjoy meals together, share something artistic, enjoy relaxation activities 💅🏼

Venus in the 3rd house in the composite: you guys come together when you, chat, share opinions and learn from each other. Intelectual bond. Could also live close to each other and gossip every now and then🗣

Venus in the 4th house in the composite: you guys get together at home and you could be involved with each other’s families. You could also be very interested in eachother’s past, roots, etc. Very common in couples that wanna have/be a family together 👨‍👩‍👧

Venus in the 5th house in the composite: no matter what you guys do you always have fun and laugh. Could share a lot of leisure time together constantly waking up the child inside you! 💃🏻

Venus in the 6th house in the composite: could work well together or be coworkers. Very common in couples that have some sort of routine together bc they see each other on the daily, at the same days at the same hours etc. 🚶🏻

Venus in the 7th house in the composite: I’ve noticed this is very common in couples that like to collaborate, every time they are together they are collaborating somehow. To them it’s natural being together and usually they see eye-to-eye. 👥

Venus in the 8th house in the composite: well, the obvious: sex. But this placement could also mean either one or both could be the other’s therapists. You get together by sharing your deepest darkest secrets *evil laugh* 😈

Venus in the 9th house in the composite: you get together abroad, at university or by sharing philosophical/religious view. You like living exiting experiences together, things that give adrenaline rushes even. This could also indicate a long-distance relationship 🎢

Venus in the 10th house in the composite: You guys could like be seen together in public. You like to be serious together and work towards something together, you guys like the idea of achieving or building something together 👩🏽‍💻

Venus in the 11th house in the composite: you get together through a sharing group of friends or community, that’s mostly the most common scenario. Also, I’ve seen this a lot in people that bond through having the same quirks 👩🏼‍🎤

Venus in the 12th house in the composite: you guys could come together in your dreams. Literally. But the most common scenario with this placement is a “can’t be together” vibe and so the getting together comes in the form of a platonic longing. I’ve also noticed with this placement that the couple gets together in a way that is totally out of their control (like never knowing exactly when or how).🧚‍♀️

❤️Relationship edition❤️

I was gonna hold off this post until Valentine’s day but I said f*ck it, just post it. 🤷🏽‍♀️Also thank you very much for the love on my last observation post! Hope you enjoy these.💕

****NOTE: when I say “couples” in this post I mean two people that have a relationship. Any sort of relationship: romantic, friendship, etc. 

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❤️ Honestly 7th house & 8th house overlays in synastry should not be taken lightly in my opinion. For better or for worse. It could make for a strong bond, but it also has a lot of potential to become a very unhealthy relationship. If there’s only 7th house overlay then the relationship could be very needy and dependent. If there’s only 8th house overlay there could be constant lingering magnetism and tensions of all kinds for better or for worse. So when you have the best of both worlds in a synastry….. well….. You’d have to look at the rest of the synastry and the composite of course but I’d say to try to handle this energy with care

❤️ When someone’s planet is aspecting your mars in a tense aspect that person may know exactly how to push your buttons and may even do it intentionally (synastry can go either way too)

❤️ I’ve noticed that mars in synastry can have something to do with how you got to know that person or were you met them

❤️ The people you had a deep crush on likely had their moon land in your 4th house. If not a crush you could have a tender spot for that person.

❤️ When someone’s sun lands on the same house your natal sun is this can create a “you are like me” type of vibe once you get to know that person, even if the suns aren’t making a conjunction.

❤️ Virgo rising in the composite could mean that the couple met as coworkers

❤️ Libra rising in the composite:

very common in couples where people always asume they are dating even when they’re not or people always say they’d look cute together. This is the type of couple that you see is always together

This rising also means that the couple could have met through somebody else or they met by being formally introduced by another party. They could get together because they have a common friend or something and their relationship is a polite formality.

Also, Libra rising in the composite is said to be very favorable for romantic couples (duh) and I don’t disagree, but this can be a lot of times a very superficial placement (unless the rest of the chart says otherwise). This rising either makes two people inseparable or a lot of times the people stay as mere acquaintances or have a, again, a “polite” relationship or a casual friendship, etc.

Lastly, I’ve noticed that whatever type of relationship the two people might have, with this rising in the composite, ending the relationship comes easy, without any hard feelings or drama  

❤️ Aquarius rising in the composite could mean that the couple met online, in some sort of community like a fandom and/or they bonded over a very specific common interest. Also very common in people that share the same group of friends

❤️ Having someone’s mars landing on your 8th house could mean that you low-key hate or resent that person for no particular reason. Actually, there IS a reason but it’s usually something the person doesn’t want to admit, since the 8th house represents what we deliberately keep under lock & key.

❤️ On the other hand, if you have someone’s personal planets falling in your 4th or your 12th house, that person could give you millions of reasons to hate them but you always forgive them. In the case of the 4th house, this could be bc you have a soft spot for them, but in the case of the 12th house it could mean you idolize them or there could be some naiveness bc you see the “best” in them.

❤️ With Pisces rising in the composite I’ve noticed there’s like this constant dynamic of distance or separation and then being reunited. The couple may feel like their connection is so deep and genuine that it transcends distance and time.

❤️ I don’t exactly know why this is but I’ve noticed a lot of married couples that have their rising in neighboring signs

❤️ I’ve noticed that Saturn in the 7th in the natal chart experience rejection from lovers, like partners suddenly freezing them out, blocking or ghosting them. They could also be the ones doing this as well. These natives either find it hard to find a partner and stay single for a very long time or they’re the type to desperately hold on to someone for YEARS out of the belief that that’s all they have or all they’ve known. These natives could really be prone to just settling for less. Another scenario is that people with this placement are attracted to lovers that restrict them in some way, like partners that constantly tell them what they should or shouldn’t do and stuff like that

❤️ Scorpio rising in the composite could mean that the couple spilled their guts to each other the second they met lol. Could have a dynamic where you are each other’s therapists.

❤️ The house where Venus is in the composite indicates how and what area of life you guys usually get together (Check: Venus in the composite houses)

❤️ Personal planets in tight conjunction to the nodes in synastry could mean that you guys dream about each other

❤️ Air or Leo rising in the composite is common in couples that have a lot of inside jokes

Virgo female and Aries male

Virgo female and Taurus male

Virgo female and Gemini male

Virgo female and Cancer male

Virgo female and Leo male

Virgo female and Virgo male

Virgo female and Libra male

Virgo female and Scorpio male

Virgo female and Sagittarius male

Virgo female and Capricorn male

Virgo female and Aquarius male

Virgo female and Pisces male

Virgo sun and Capricorn moon female and Virgo sun and Aries moon male

zodiac couples: virgo (f) + capricorn (m) for anonymous

Virgo (f)

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sagittarius x leo

taurus x libra

gemini x aries

pisces x scorpio

virgo x capricorn

Virgo female and Capricorn male couple aesthetic

Old growth, timeless love

Hearts can get dusty

Show each other affection with acts of love

Capricorn female and Virgo male couple aesthetic