If you're an autistic math genius, then there's a massive disconnect between what's expected of you and what you're allowed to expect of others, and between what's expected of you and what's reasonable to expect of you. So you likely grow up completely confused about how people should interact with others.
Naturally, when you have an interest in something, you want to talk about it, just like everyone does on a regular basis about the things that interest them. It's literally how most people make friends. They like something and they talk about it in hopes of finding others who like it also. But when you talk about math, people hate you for it. People don't just see you as someone who's talking about something they have no interest in, like a TV show they've never watched or a game they've never played. They see you as conceited.
You see other people bragging about the things they're good at. Bragging is often encouraged. For example, people who play sports have pep rallies in which they're openly encouraged to brag. But when you're good at math, you're expected to be as polite about it as possible and one slip-up gets you labeled as conceited.
Even though you're expected to shut up about math, other people get to talk to you about their interests, and you're considered rude if you try to exit the conversation. They don't even have to consider the possibility that someone won't be interested in what they're saying.
Other people can make fun of you when you make a math error, even people who you don't consider close friends, and you're "too sensitive" if that bothers you. But if you made fun of someone for making an error in something they're good at (the star basketball player missing the winning basket), you're considered a jerk.
Usually, when someone is good at something, people easily recognize them as good at just that. But when you're good at math, people assume you must be good at everything. It's hard enough for someone with a disability to live up to society's expectations of what's "average", but you're expected to go beyond that and live up to society's expectations of what's "smart". If you get a D+ on a history test, your teacher will write a long paragraph about how disappointed they are that someone as "smart" as you can do so poorly, even though the skills you have in math are nowhere near useful here, and even though you're probably proud of yourself that you even passed.
And even though you're expected to shut up about math, you're also expected to talk about it on command whenever people want your help. You're far from the best person to ask for help. You do math in unique ways that no one would understand. Your disability also makes you struggle to explain things. But no one cares. You're expected to overcome your struggles on command in order to help other people with theirs. If you explain it poorly because you struggle to explain things, they're allowed to get mad at you. And you must never show any frustration when bombarded with these expectations, because that would be insensitive to their struggles.
Meanwhile, when you struggle with something, people don't even try to understand you. They just say whatever they think will shut you up the quickest. They say whatever makes them feel helpful without caring if it's even relevant. They pressure you to "just do it" and don't even try to understand why it's difficult for you. And you're considered ungrateful if you don't appreciate them. You have to help others and be good at it on command, but others don't have to help you.
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