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"i've got no qualms about it" meanwhile i'm over here making qualm chowder

we were never meant to see everyones opinions all the time

the internet seems like a distant dream

whatever we are on rn is not the internet. It's ads

Be yourself so ppl looking for u can find u

cis people are wayyyy too damn comfortable with making jokes about men getting pregnant. and frankly so are other trans people.

idk what trans man/transmasc needs to hear this but no you are not in on the joke. 9/10 when somebody makes an mpreg joke they are not laughing with you. they aren't even really laughing at you. they are laughing at a caricature of you. they know what a trans man is and yet have so little care about trans men that their first thought when it comes to pregnant men is the hilarity of a cis man being feminized (often forcefully) and how amusingly grotesque or amusingly erotic they find it. you are not in on the joke. you were never in on the joke.

i think my biggest problem is that these jokes boil down to "isn't it so WEIRD that a man is pregnant/has breasts???? isn't that so STRANGE?????" and whether you take that the route of "this is funny because its disgusting/disturbing" or "this is funny because its extremely erotically charged, often in a way tied to humiliation/control" you are deriving comedy from the idea of a trans/intersex man's body just. existing naturally. there is no greater depth it is just "wouldn't it be funny if a man was female in some way? but still identifiably masculine but in a way that has been corrupted by the sexual embarrassment of the most stereotypically female act? isn't that amusing?" and at worst its another example of how, when people try to get one over on cis men through the route of gendered/sexed humor, it frequently relies on leveraging trans & intersex men as examples of a man at his most failed, embarrassing, sexually dominated. and the worst part is again that there's not even a cursory attempt to diffuse this charge by the comedians making these jokes, there isn't any acknowledgement of what they are talking about. it's like anyone who's ostensibly a trans ally enters this pocket universe where trans and intersex men don't exist whenever one of these jokes comes around. and how am i supposed to feel about this!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am sooooo not locked in. I am tucked in. Going to sleep

I propose this year be Two thousand twenty FIX. this year we're fixing shit. If you got a problem fix it right away if you can. As soon as you notice even. Fix shit. Fix your leaky faucet. Clean your shower. Talk to your friends about that thing they do that makes you feel unloved. 202fix