we need to talk about the problems that gold star lesbianism brings
you know how itâs become popular to claim that known gay people may have actually been bi because at one point they were known to have a relationship with the âoppositeâ gender? like when everyone claimed that sally ryde couldnât possibly have been a lesbian (despite IDing that way herself) because sheâd been married to a man?Â
and you know how we agree that itâs homophobic to do that?
gold star lesbianism ends up playing into these. by claiming that any lesbian who was ever involved with a man ever is not a âtrueâ lesbian, youâre encouraging the idea that lesbians who didnât immediately know that they were gay and went through relationships with men before coming to the realization arenât actually lesbians
youâre dismissing the enormous harm that compulsory heterosexuality does to us and youâre ignoring how hard it is to navigate our own attraction and relationships as women attracted to other women in a misogynistic and heteronormative society
gold star lesbianism would paint the lesbian who has never touched a man as the norm, when itâs far from that. and everyone needs to stop acting like lesbians (and bi girls, too) who have previously been with a man are somehow ~ruined~ forever
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