micheal

Most people don’t have a great opinion of therians, people with odd kinks, people who dress up in plastic anime helmets for fun, or psychopaths and narcissists, just to name examples that come to the top of my head. You have to be willing to hear people out on their opinions and thoughts, try to see it from their perspective. And sure, it might still be weird in the end but other times you gain a new understanding of something, and even better you might learn to accept and love a whole new group of people. Because it the end we’re all people with brains and we don’t all think so different from one another, and we can’t all be freaks.

here’s a fun fact for whenever you’re insecure in public. You know how everyone tells you that you don’t have to worry about strangers judging you an, because they’re too busy thinking about themselves to even notice you? Now if you believe that, good news! You can move on. (Seriously move on) If you don’t, I also have good news. You’re only half right in your assumptions

Yes for most people, your worries that everyone is judging you and staring at you are not true. However if you have something noticeable about you, like bright hair, a larger/thinner body, or some sort of visible disability/disability aid, etc, you’ve probably experienced people staring at you and the whole “it’s all in your head!” is pretty useless. But I have good news: just because they notice you, doesn’t mean they’re judging you. In fact, they probably won’t even remember you after you leave their sight line. Most people are completely neutral to the strangers they see, even if they have noticeable differences.

The only reason a normal stranger would have to judge you is if you specifically remind them of something negative. Everytime I’ve ever judged someone I see in public, it’s usually because they have a trait I myself have, and am insecure about. So I’m not thinking “ew they have that” I’m thinking “Jeese I hope that same thing that I have isn’t as noticeable on me.” That doesn’t mean I, or anyone else, think the trait is bad. Just because you remind them of their shitty uncle or their cellulite, doesn’t mean that they think of you in the same way they think of them.

So overall, the people in public you see staring at you for your wheelchair, or leg hair, or diabetes patch, or stutter, or whatever you have, are in all likelihood not staring because they hate it, they’re staring because it’s something to look at. Our own knowledge and insecurity corrupts our perception of others and feeds back into that fear.

I haven’t transferred them digitally yet but here. Have my children